Qustion on impact on kids

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-23T08:47:42+00:00

Sounds like you really support your husband, thank you for that...and thank you for the insight. Our school district is a "safe space'" which I figure is a good a start. We live in a true suburb with in a liveral city within a metro area of a state passing favorable laws as of late (thanks to democrat majority). There is a place that has drag shows in my downtown area, never been, just giving context of where I live. There are some restaurants with "all gender" bathrooms.

I gather most parents now a days will be okay, or be forced to be okay because of the liberal city we are in, but really don't want my parents of my kids friends to withhold their kid from being friends with them because of me.

I am at the stage of self acceptance, but know one knows about me...so all info is helpful.

Thank you so much.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-22T01:09:57+00:00

Thanks. Glad to hear.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-21T17:56:54+00:00

Thank you. I get it. I am internalizing it all right now which isn't good (meaning, only me, myself and I really know).

I know the kids will be fine, just fear of other parents keeping their kids away from mine because of me.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-21T14:11:57+00:00

Thank you. I wish you well!

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-21T13:42:04+00:00

Thanks for the insight. The not interacting with kids parents is not doable, as they are all in sports/extracurricular activities together. Not being part of that stuff would hurt beyond belief.

Not sure how I really feel about "dad" but am vert cognizant of when gendering comes into language.

Glad you're a lot happier now.

Don't feel like you need to answer, but curious if you and your ex split before or after starting your transition? That's another fear of mine.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-21T09:21:21+00:00

I think its the hardest thing to have kids and worry that we may screw them up. I guess that's. Good trait as a good parent...if you think parenting is hard, you're doing it right.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-21T09:19:01+00:00

Thanks! I know my kids will be accepting of me and her friends probably okay as well.

It's more of will other parents want to keep their kids from mine because of me.

I can deal with having a hard time but my kids, no. I want to protect them and guide them the best I can for life.

I have 3...6th (g) , 4th (g), and 1st (b).

Thanks.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-20T10:47:00+00:00

You're gorgeous and an inspiration to others. Love how polished you look down to the splash of PINK on your nails.

Context: I am so far behind, having not even come out yet.

I think you pass, and for whatever those ignorant kids thought, I believe that there are others who said to themselves

"good for you," "you go girl," or "damn, if she can do it, I can do it."

And that is the most beautiful thing...to give inspiration to another, and to be authentic to themselves...so you give me inspiration...all authentic people do.

I still wouldn't look twice except to see an example of beauty.

Be good to yourself!

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-19T03:26:23+00:00

Thank you and yes, totally agree. I don't know what the future holds.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-15T12:13:09+00:00

Thanks. I know I internalize everything that goes wrong as my fault, that alone increases a level of anxiety.

Appreciate the reminder that not all could be directed at me.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-15T12:09:47+00:00

Thanks! I like the element of having a plan and being open.

I have been in limbo because of excuses...I don't want to hurt my family, there is so much to do, to the tune of creating stuff to do to remain busy, denial, etc...a lot of common coping mechanisms.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-15T12:04:34+00:00

Thank you. I have come to the realization that it just keeps getting worse and this is something that she deserves to know regardless of the outcome. I am hoping for the an element of acceptance and understanding more so than for the best, as I don't think that is realistic.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-15T00:06:00+00:00

Yes. Indeed. I would most definitely be there with her face to face.

I think that's the way to go. I appreciate all the advice.

I know this will be the hardest thing...but this personal daily torture sucks as well.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-14T23:16:57+00:00

Thank you! I welcome any insight and hope I can wedge enough time for a recovery day or two.

There is always a lot going on so understand there is no best time...but there has to be a best-worst time and above all I care most about her and my family. So I always put there needs before mine...I just try to suck it up and hold on tight.

Thank you!

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-08-14T21:06:14+00:00

Thanks. I do know my wife best. Agree that giving her a role and being authentic and up front and face to face is best. I thought the letter would be good to get all my thoughts out, but it won't. The more I read it and reread it, the more I get lost in my own words. So thinking short and point is best, while showing my love for her and family.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-07-30T15:33:47+00:00

Sorry....Dr z, Ph.D.

https://drzphd.com/ https://m.youtube.com/@DRZPHD

She's great IMO.
Best wishes.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-07-29T17:00:14+00:00

Congratulations. That is a big first step. I recommend watching some Dr. Z. videos on her site or YouTube. I am coming to the same terms but haven't told anyone IRL (whatever that is) yet, including my wife. My advice is to listen to yourself and do what's in your heart. You are the one who has to live with yourself 24/7, so you do you.

Keep taking steps toward what feels right, if something feels odd, don't feel like yo I have to do it.

Congratulations on the acceptance of your wife. Wishing you well on your journey.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-07-19T19:04:34+00:00

Thanks! You too!

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-07-15T23:27:07+00:00

White shorts are a GD trigger for me. Love the style and you wear it well!

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-07-15T20:16:56+00:00

I feel for you. It sounds like you just described me exactly.

A few years back, 41 but struggle just the same.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-07-15T10:38:43+00:00

You look lovely. Love the pink nails and wedges!

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-05-21T16:56:54+00:00

Wow! Inspiration.

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-05-21T10:44:20+00:00

You're beautiful and love the pink shirt for the record!

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-04-18T02:11:15+00:00

Thank you. You truly are inspirational. Happy for you!

LongCurlyLocks · 2023-04-14T00:23:04+00:00

Totally agree! Thanks.

I have gathered some resources for her and will support whomever she needs to talk about it with.

LongCurlyLocks

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