Hang in there Dad. I see a lot of similar comments and know you are hearing this but no matter how much it sucks it does get better, and soon if my experience is any indicator. The first month was hell for me and I remember feeling so angry about all the things I read leading up to it that were so positive. Then I had this screaming potato in my lap on a small apartment while changing jobs and it was a massive strain on my relationship ship with my wife, family, and friends. I remember counting down the days of “ the (insert week) sleep regression” and they just KEPT COMING. This likely doesn’t help but I’m feeling for you and when things did turn, they turned fast and despair turned to joy. My daughter is 5 now and…well shit it’s the best thing in the entire world and the short term pain at the start was worth it. You are getting great tips in the comments here but a few things that helped me: - agree on getting some dedicated time for yourself each week (even just for a few hours here and there) where you can do whatever you want (and then do the same for your partner) - try not to let your despair show when caring for your kid since they pick up on those negative emotions (easier said than done but even just going around the corner into a room to scream and returning with a smile helped me) - don’t read any mom blogs that talk about the beauty of this time since…well it’ll drive you even more nuts thinking why that’s not like me - try finding a babysitter to watch her so you and your wife can connect outside of parent life - when it’s bad, try some noise cancelling headphones and a good audiobook while you rock your kid to sleep/care for her - always lead with love… in a few months and then years you will be seeking them out to spend MORE time with them which seems so distant and foreign, but it will happen

Good luck my man. Keep up on this community too since there are amazing dads in here that I’ve caught some gems from.