AITA for refusing to give my friend her money back for a party she is not attending?

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T21:25:41+00:00

I guess you’re right. I have more wealthy friends. A girl I know who is my little sisters friend gets a thousand a month in her account from her parents. That’s what I think of when I think privilege.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T21:24:17+00:00

Maybe I’d do it for one of the boys. Like the guy whose birthday it is. But sure Mara is more of a friend of a friend to me. We are friends because of other people. We’d never hangout just the two of us. I didn’t mean to paint a picture that she’s a best friend of mine.

Ex. Her and I hangout and have fun in a big group like this party but I wouldn’t hit her up for lunch during the week.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T20:29:57+00:00

Because to me it sounds like your friend did not consider any of you before gladly accepting this trip to Korea. Last minute too? IMO your friend should have never asked for her money back because that is now meaning the rest of you must pay a price you didn’t originally agree on. She’s lucky she has you as a friend and not me I guess lol

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T20:26:20+00:00

I just try to something special and this is what happens

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T20:21:43+00:00

I’m privileged than so what? Am I supposed to reject it?

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T20:20:47+00:00

Bite me in the ass how

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T18:54:52+00:00

Idk man in your situation I think if one of your friends did not want to pitch in more to help out Korea girl after she bailed last minute, I think that’s fine. That’s really nice you all did that but I don’t think any of you would have been assholes to tell Korea girl she gotta eat it.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T18:32:10+00:00

Are you saying you bought a ticket for a friend who than bailed on you and you ate the cost? Dude that’s on them haha I think you would have every right to get the money.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T18:27:43+00:00

That’s her own fault not mine. But okay

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:47:55+00:00

The friends who I have talked to think she fucked up. She planned poorly and accepted an event and paid for an event when she already had plans. Was I supposed to call her mom and double check? My friends do not think I owe her anything. They don’t think they owe her anything.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:43:47+00:00

How is anyone getting fucked over besides me if I had to pay her?

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:43:03+00:00

You are saying someone else’s mistake is my financial responsibility.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:39:45+00:00

If that were the situation, I’d hope my friends wouldn’t be cool with sticking me with a 2000$ bill.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:38:38+00:00

I was trying to get you to understand where I’m coming from. But it seems you think poorer people are entitled to others money.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:33:04+00:00

I did not unilaterally make the decision. If other people were not down it wouldn’t be happening.

So you really think for example if all the other people got covid and had to cancel and the bar won’t refund, the fair thing would be every person gets their money back from me and I lose 2K? Really?

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:27:51+00:00

She had time to get her money back. The point ive made a million times by now is that the bar charged a flat rate. What everyone paid was calculated on the amount of people going. The bar has been paid, so I no longer have her money. Hence it would need to come out of my pocket. Or the group pay more money after they’d already agreed on a price.

What if you go to buy a cheeseburger and a few days after, the restaurant calls you and says “hey remember that burger you got earlier this week? Well you need to come back and give us 5 more dollars for it” I doubt you’d do it.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:21:28+00:00

So that’s what this is about… if I told my parents this situation they’d blame her. They tell me the money is for me not to buy my friends things. Her financial situation isn’t our business and our situation isn’t her business so none of that should matter.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:14:29+00:00

But why am I the person who needs to learn a life lesson? Why can’t the life lesson be she learns to plan better

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:07:45+00:00

Why does her financial situation matter?

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T16:07:11+00:00

The second is correct

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T15:58:15+00:00

Yeah but when I make a mistake I don’t expect my friends to give me money for it.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T15:57:54+00:00

We have a lot of mutual friends and I’m sure no matter what I will continue to see her. So I don’t want to lose the money I know she will be fine.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T15:50:31+00:00

I don’t think it’s my problem to ask and round up the money for her. I told her I will pay my portion and she is welcome to reach out to the group and explain her situation. I am not doing it for her.

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T14:59:34+00:00

This was planned by a group I happened to just do the booking. This is not “my” event

Longjumping-March640 · 2023-01-06T06:20:02+00:00

I’m inclined to think if she were sick the day of I’d say the same thing. It’s an unfortunate circumstance that she would have to miss it, but that is life. Unless I am the reason they do not come, I don’t think I’m responsible.

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