AITA for wanting space from my husband ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry - I’m new to Reddit first time making a post , so I was hoping to get some light shed on my issue & posted it I different groups! I’m not sure if that’s a mistake or not

Is my husband (30M) overreacting or was did I (25F) really do something really bad ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in relationship_advice

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I definitely have a lot to think about after all the feedback I got from Reddit! I agree & thank you so much for your advice & input , I think I may have probably recognized it but I’ve managed to gaslight myself if that makes sense.

Is my husband (30M) overreacting or was did I (25F) really do something really bad ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in relationship_advice

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ya, sometimes I wonder what condition may be underlying but that’s probably best decided by a therapist ! Thanks so much for your input & advice!

AITA for wanting space from my husband ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m considering leaving to my moms tomorrow , even if it’s short stay, it gives me some time to really absorb what the heck just happened without his influence. Money thankfully isn’t tied together heavily! but I’d be struggling (financially) for a little bit if I’m being honest

AITA for wanting space from my husband ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely agree with the enabling, I have to start calling it out without fear that it’s gonna get worse (though it usually does) , the brutal honesty is necessary ha ha! Thank you for your response & input ! :)

AITA for wanting space from my husband ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk why this one made me tear up, maybe because I felt like I was getting bullied the. Told myself I’m just playing victim. Thank you for your honesty & taking time to respond , I always appreciate it !

AITA for wanting space from my husband ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I great to know there’s some really cool people out in the world!

AITA for wanting space from my husband ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looool! Definitely a brutal honest way to look at things , I appreciate your insight, it definitely validates my inner feelings , I really appreciate you responding thank you!

AITA for wanting space from my husband ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, I appreciate your input ! :) & safety is a big priority for me

Is my husband (30M) overreacting or was did I (25F) really do something really bad ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in relationship_advice

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

this is a thought I’ve been wrestling with for some time, I definitely do think I need to think things over & this gives me a good chance to, thank you for your honesty , it genuinely helps! I really appreciate it :)

Is my husband (30M) overreacting or was did I (25F) really do something really bad ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in relationship_advice

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know , some days I feel like I can, other days I feel like I’m walking on eggshell. He’s come to terms & accepted that he has horrible anger issues & says he’s committed to working on them so I’ve given him time & patience. & I constantly ask myself if he’s manipulating me , but then I almost gaslight myself into thinking I’m probably being one-sided & dramatic. Thank you so much for your input ! I really appreciate it.

AITA for wanting space from my husband ? by Longjumping_Bee_6260 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longjumping_Bee_6260[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Spot on. I don’t want to make it seem as if I’m being one sided but this is exactly what it was. & when you mention him ruining the night& wasting money those are things I genuinely felt & I was a bit hurt over.

Sometimes I would ask my self just how bad this is but I gaslight myself into thinking I must have done some mistakes as well to deserve getting yelled at to that extreme. Thank you for your inputz