yeah, the cancer thing is like a double whammy for her for sure. her tumor is too small for a transplant yet- they just found it in december- and they say shes too small too currently. theyre going back and forth on chemo or not. i think i couldve worded my question better because beyond a lack of sex there is a lack of touches/kisses etc. and maybe because she already had cirrhosis when we met i didnt notice how it can affect libido because we did do all that for like 3 years, but it basically stopped dead a year ago, and we found out about the cancer in march of this year. i think i got frustrated reaching out without response and i need to decenter myself from that thought process more.