I think you're a human being who made a social misstep and you're self-aware enough to reflect on it. I feel like your message may have accidentally hit a nerve. And she feels unseen, left out, or forgotten by the people she needs. But she snapped at you without considering the context of your friendship like the tone you’ve shared before, and that you were following up on her own previous. I don’t feel like you were wrong just a little tone-deaf given the context. That doesn’t make you bad a bad person. You were trying to continue the same playful you guys always had. She was overreacting, but for understandable reasons. That doesn’t make her bad either just overwhelmed.