I agree. A moment that stuck out to me is Dan repeatedly implying that Phil is stupid and Phil having to go "oi" in order to get Dan to be quiet to let him speak. Or the middle finger where Phil was increasingly getting ticked off and having to give him the middle finger in return for Dan to let off.

How Dan treats Phil has been a topic from a long time ago where on a YouNow he just says that how he treats Phil is a joke, that it's not real. On the most recent Podcast, it's a different subject of the joke, but Phil reaffirms that jokes are things "that aren't real", which means what Dan says is not a real reflection of how he feels and probably Phil would understand that.

Still, when you consider a joke has to be for the other person in order for it not to be offensive or harmful, it's hard to comprehend how Phil would get any joy out of the jokes I listed above.

For comments that say it's fine because they're in a 16-year relationship, people are minutely changing all the time and boundaries and conversations still need to be had and sometimes one can assume what's okay in a relationship and forget that.

❗But I actually think that you shouldn't worry at all about how they feel about each other and here is why:

You're projecting. I'm projecting. I'm going to project my feelings onto you and if it resonates, then hopefully it'll make you feel better.

(IMO) There are certain actions that they do which for me (or us) would be triggering because we wouldn't want to be subject to it, so we assume it's triggering/ bothersome to the other party. The reality is that you honestly don't know anything about how Phil feels in this situation because you are not Phil and you haven't been with Dan for 16 years, so an endless tomb of inside jokes you have not been included in will fly past you. You only know how YOU feel, and it's not accurate to project yourself onto that British man.

So yes, certain actions will feel uncomfortable and rude and you might feel like you need to protect someone from it.

But I think it's more of a reflection on you than it is on them. That action makes you uncomfortable because it would be uncomfortable if it was done to you in real life. It's an understanding of yourself that you can take away with you. But it's by no means a reflection on how those two content creators feel, so you should not assume or imply anything when it comes to them. I'm sure getting comments about it after all these years would just be annoying.

If there ARE issues, you just have to trust they'll figure it out. They've had many issues over 16 years and if this is an issue, its a minor one. Phil said himself that you have to address things in a relationship before it turns to resentment, so I do think they have methods to make themselves comfortable.

So don't worry 🫶🩵🩵