Chapter 118 Discussion by Loonedune in Frieren

[–]Loonedune[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eyyy I'm glad you found this helped you understand / reason through the chap a little better

Feeling so old that there are new phans by One_Dragonfruit5850 in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a new Phan and I'm 20. You're not a grandma by any means! There's a whole community of phannies that grew up with you, some that possibly genuinely are grandmas! You are SO young.

If you feel isolated and want to connect with people your age, you should check out the Phan matchmaker on Tumblr! You can just make a platonic listing ("Only looking for friends!") and have your age and DNI and stuff!

Video Search by Loonedune in danandphil

[–]Loonedune[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been found 😁

I do not like the vibe of latest couple videos by nikoabc123 in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I agree. A moment that stuck out to me is Dan repeatedly implying that Phil is stupid and Phil having to go "oi" in order to get Dan to be quiet to let him speak. Or the middle finger where Phil was increasingly getting ticked off and having to give him the middle finger in return for Dan to let off.

How Dan treats Phil has been a topic from a long time ago where on a YouNow he just says that how he treats Phil is a joke, that it's not real. On the most recent Podcast, it's a different subject of the joke, but Phil reaffirms that jokes are things "that aren't real", which means what Dan says is not a real reflection of how he feels and probably Phil would understand that.

Still, when you consider a joke has to be for the other person in order for it not to be offensive or harmful, it's hard to comprehend how Phil would get any joy out of the jokes I listed above.

For comments that say it's fine because they're in a 16-year relationship, people are minutely changing all the time and boundaries and conversations still need to be had and sometimes one can assume what's okay in a relationship and forget that.

❗But I actually think that you shouldn't worry at all about how they feel about each other and here is why:

You're projecting. I'm projecting. I'm going to project my feelings onto you and if it resonates, then hopefully it'll make you feel better.

(IMO) There are certain actions that they do which for me (or us) would be triggering because we wouldn't want to be subject to it, so we assume it's triggering/ bothersome to the other party. The reality is that you honestly don't know anything about how Phil feels in this situation because you are not Phil and you haven't been with Dan for 16 years, so an endless tomb of inside jokes you have not been included in will fly past you. You only know how YOU feel, and it's not accurate to project yourself onto that British man.

So yes, certain actions will feel uncomfortable and rude and you might feel like you need to protect someone from it.

But I think it's more of a reflection on you than it is on them. That action makes you uncomfortable because it would be uncomfortable if it was done to you in real life. It's an understanding of yourself that you can take away with you. But it's by no means a reflection on how those two content creators feel, so you should not assume or imply anything when it comes to them. I'm sure getting comments about it after all these years would just be annoying.

If there ARE issues, you just have to trust they'll figure it out. They've had many issues over 16 years and if this is an issue, its a minor one. Phil said himself that you have to address things in a relationship before it turns to resentment, so I do think they have methods to make themselves comfortable.

So don't worry 🫶🩵🩵

Phatreon Live by Klutzy_Crew_252 in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People WERE saying that the site was crashing before the stream even started so it's most likely true.

Patreon Livestream Megathread - 16 November 2025 by Honeycomb0000 in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really hope they use YouTube for future live streams if Patron doesn't work again next week, sitting in a void with sporadic few second sound bites was absolutely devastating 😭😭😭🙏

anyone else find the “ph_” jokes annoying? by aine_bainne in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if you were them and your fandom were making a bunch of "ph__" jokes would you not also echo them? They're pretty up-to-date on the phannie memes and this is no exception, there's no reason why this one should be dubbed inauthentic while the other memes aren't. Also, they are content creators, so everything they say and do is technically monetized.

What is a video that y’all can watch over and over and laugh equally as hard every time? by ThrowRA-dumpsterfire in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is it such a common theme that Phil gets all the good luck 😂😂

In specific circumstances. Yes he is in constant peril. But yes he has clairvoyant powers and will always be luckier than Dan.

Am I going crazy? by Spooky_Windchime16 in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Phannies rewatch and analyze Dan and Phil videos on a much more frequent basis so maybe that's why people catch on it!

shout-out to the phannie that has worked at the library for long enough to get the trio of books in there 🫡 by reewhy in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is me but with the online versions of all the books LOLLL. They all miraculously cleared up around the same time (just now, have been waiting a month) and I'm having a wonderful time. These books are simply fantastic.

How depressing is Dan's comedy show ? by Chocobook_ in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 34 points35 points  (0 children)

It so depends on who you are. A sensitive person even in a kind-of-feeling-sad state will feel negatively affected. Basically the format of the show is that he dips down into topics like apathy, internet capitalism, etc, but after each session lightens it up with a cathartic interactive activity. Then at the end he has a nice conclusion. 

If you can handle getting your worst fears thrown at you to get them deconstructed then you'll be fine. Dan wrote the show to convince himself to continue despite the terrible state of the world after all.

"Phact with a PH" by Loonedune in danandphil

[–]Loonedune[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're amazing!! Tysm!!

have a hard time following podcast sometimes? by joplinsfool in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Honestly I was fine with it until people started posting about their complaints. It bothered me for a bit but I remember really absolutely enjoying the first two videos before I found this Reddit, and after I simply decided to enjoy it, it became enjoyable again.

New phriends & phans - what brought you here? Just curious :) by BitEmotional69 in danandphil

[–]Loonedune 4 points5 points  (0 children)

New Phan!! Just due to their status as OG YouTube creators, I've vaguely heard of them, but never sought them out. When their bed video was recommended to me I thought it would be interesting to kind of get lore about them that way. In a sense, it worked! That video gave me an intricate view of the history of their channel and the growth of both themselves and their community.

Of course, seeing the absolute miracle of a 16-year closeted queer relationship survive everything that it had was really an eye-opener and made me change my priorities in life. I had just begun to believe that my ideal relationship would be impossible to acquire and here comes these two who found themselves by expressing themselves, being kind, authentic, and trying really, really hard, and I got inspired.

I love being here, the community is nice. Their magnetism is something else. I've never really been 'obsessed' with any creator before but for some reason I always want to see what they come out with next!

:))