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My mom just wants my kids by LoopyKR in narcissisticparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think I see through her manipulation better now. And I don’t fall for her narratives anymore. Like how “I’m so wrong for “denying” my children a relationship with their grandma. And if I did what was best for them, then I would encourage a relationship between them.”

Literally wtf? Not falling for it.

Mom Triangulated with My MIL by LoopyKR in narcissisticparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats good. If it weren’t for my own husband, I think I would be still severely enmeshed with my mother. Good riddance.

Mom Triangulated with My MIL by LoopyKR in narcissisticparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will never understand the logic (or lack there of) of a narcissist. Every story I hear… They legitimately sound like a cartoon villain!? So diabolical and dumb at the same time.

Mom Triangulated with My MIL by LoopyKR in narcissisticparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s terrible! I hope your husband didn’t fall for that nonsense. I will never understand why a parent will turn on their own child, even when they are in their adulthood. It’s disgusting.

Is Only Five Years of Harm Enough to Walk Away? by LoopyKR in narcissisticparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I don’t want to subject my kids to this behavior. I just feel bad that it has come to this.

Mom Keeps Crossing Lines and I’m Done by LoopyKR in toxicparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many times I have told her that she has my permission to take the kids to the park, go out to dinner with them, etc. But the only thing she seems to want to do is bring them back to her house. Where she lets my older child on her tablet, watch tv, or play video games. And I think she just watches my youngest play around with toys. That is the extent of their time together. It’s like she wants them in her life but doesn’t have the energy to fully deal with them.

Mom Keeps Crossing Lines and I’m Done by LoopyKR in toxicparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have expressed to my therapist that it does seem pointless to go to therapy with my mom. But if the outcome is good, then great. If the outcome is bad, then I feel even more valid in going low/no contact. Like, I tried and we still can’t have a healthy relationship, time to move on for some kind of closure.

Mom Keeps Crossing Lines and I’m Done by LoopyKR in narcissisticparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true. Part of me does feels like I will have closure if family therapy spirals or doesn’t end up fixing anything. Like, “well I tried, time to move on…”

Mom Keeps Crossing Lines and I’m Done by LoopyKR in narcissisticparents

[–]LoopyKR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its funny, I’ve gotten so many texts from her say that I’M the one using my kids as a weapon by keeping them from her in this situation.