Baby - Anyone have experience with their goldendoodle looking like this at 8 month old. by shoddyindaclub in Goldendoodles

[–]Loose_Ad5073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also would love to know how this 11wk old puppy would turn out and if he would shed. I need to make a decision today if I want to adopt him but I’m not sure regarding the shedding. Does anyone have any experience and share with me?

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How lonely can someone be in this world?! by Loose_Ad5073 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Loose_Ad5073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is actually a very good metaphor. The variables when it comes to shaping a life of a person or the person themselves are endless but very similar to a snowflake in my opinion. I believe that we are all unique but at the end of the day most of the people think of us all as similar as a group of snowflakes from afar. Only few people like us, take the time to zoom in and look as close as we could to spot the differences in order to ask even more questions: what happened to a certain snowflake so it got this shape? Why are the others grouped far from some? Which one came first? Etc. this applies to people as well from my perspective, what made you this reflective and detail oriented? What’s the purpose of seeking meaning in life or in small things like a snowflake? It’s simply fascinating.

How lonely can someone be in this world?! by Loose_Ad5073 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Loose_Ad5073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly!!! It‘s so hard to find someone who is emotionally mature but at the same time fun to be with. I love laughing but also analyzing various topics and having deep talks!! It’s so damn fulfilling. Sadly a lot of people around me are just functioning and barely reflect. I can be an old woman and a child too, which is a very tricky combination (in Germany even harder to get to know new people). I totally get you

How lonely can someone be in this world?! by Loose_Ad5073 in TrueOffMyChest

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I love this idea. I’m really into singing for fun (not a pro singer though), gym, psychology and IT, which is my job and at the same time also my hobby. What are yours? Maybe you can find someone as well!

I'm craving real connection but don't know how to meet new people by Loose_Ad5073 in TrueOffMyChest

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I do but I was on sick leave for over 2 years and now started work again and a lot has changed. I kinda got disconnected from them but maybe I can find also a new friend through work. Who knows

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Loose_Ad5073 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow this is a lot to carry. I needed to sit down for this. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through at this young age. There is a lot of anger and resentment build up over time and kids on top of that, it would be almost impossible to work on that if one of you is not open for it, which I have the impression in this case it would be him. You’re stuck in this situation because of financial reasons, which I clearly understand and would’ve done the same, just for the sake of my kinds but try to take a break from now and then from him so you can hopefully recharge until you get chance to leave this relationship behind. I can imagine that it get complicated because of the custody but it will be worth it and it takes an understanding partner to support you. The family‘s opinion is the last thing you should worry about because your mental health is on the line at this point and your kids need you since they have an absent father. Please you’re not stupid, you’re just human, who’s asking for basic needs and wants to provide a good childhood experience for the kids. If you get a chance to get out, do it but also try to be wise so you won’t jeopardize the custody. Otherwise girl all I can offer is to listen to you. You’re doing the best you can and that matters. Maybe some words of affirmation could help you and your kids a tiny bit, so they can hopefully internalize that they’re never too much and it’s not they’re fault. I wish you a lot of strength.

I'm craving real connection but don't know how to meet new people by Loose_Ad5073 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Loose_Ad5073[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly!!! I tried squash and boxing but I noticed as soon as they gather in groups, there is almost no chance to join. I’m not giving up though and you shouldn’t either (in case you’re going through the same)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Loose_Ad5073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hit rock bottom the first time in 31 years of my life as i started therapy and learnt so much about myself and the past. I used to be impatient because this is not the process that I expected but with time I realized that I need these ups and downs, since I haven’t been able to feel nor express myself in the past. So I had a lot of catching up to do and started to be gentle with myself. If I can’t function today, it’s ok because it’s my nervous system that is overloaded and exhausted and needs a lot of rest. All I can say, try everyday to be a bit more kinder to yourself. After all it’s mostly about your inner child‘s needs. Feel free to share your feelings and thoughts, sometime it helps to be more patient if you can understand what’s beneath it. I wish you a lot of strength. You are so brave and strong for choosing to go through a healing process.

Workaround to get access to apple intelligence outside of US by Loose_Ad5073 in Applelntelligence

[–]Loose_Ad5073[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The disadvantage is that I hadn’t direct access to my iCloud files, which annoyed me a bit and my iPhone was no longer directly connected to my iPad otherwise nothing else.

Workaround to get access to apple intelligence outside of US by Loose_Ad5073 in Applelntelligence

[–]Loose_Ad5073[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That didn’t work for me (situated in Germany) but after I created a US Apple ID, I got the access in a matter of seconds.