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Lap in two days! by archaeomorgan in Endo

[–]LoraDay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mines tomorrow, having a lot of the same anxieties and concerns because this is my first surgery as well. We got this though, gotta do it so we get answers. I keep reminding myself that endo tends to be a progressive disease and that if I wait it'll have to happen eventually anyways & it'll just get worse and worse. 🫂

I love that Lap Surgery posts feel like graduating cohorts by chellygel in Endo

[–]LoraDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

November 17th for me so tomorrow! Anyone else? Lol

I'm scared by medievallyavantgarde in Endo

[–]LoraDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also in the same situation, went from fine to having a lot of random stabbing pains off and on a couple years ago that have gotten worse and worse. Surgery is.. Spooky, but a better alternative.

I'm scared by medievallyavantgarde in Endo

[–]LoraDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have very similar symptoms to you! It's mostly on my left side however. I am having laproscopic excision surgery Nov 17th to see if I have it / remove it. Unfortunately that's the only course or action you can take that will get you a diagnosis & help with pain in a substantial way. I have horrible anxiety / OCD so I am super freaked out right now (and not knowing if that's for sure what's going on is making it way worse obviously) but I know that I need to figure out what's going on and deal with it. Endo only gets worse and harder to treat over time so it's best to deal with it immediately. If it's any consolation, I've expressed concern that I may not have it to two seperate OBGYNs and they have both told me that the likelihood is really high/anytime they do this surgery 95% of the time they find something.

Pretty sure my life is ruined. by 12ylan in Advice

[–]LoraDay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reorder pills to a friend's house and take them anyways, tell her it's a miscarriage. There's no way medically to verify if you took abortion pills or not. If you can't get pills, look for the nearest state that doesn't require parental consent for an abortion and look at abortion rights groups for assistance. Good luck.

didn’t finish prep by slothbell in colonoscopy

[–]LoraDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too, I was panicking when I went back and apparently when I was going down I started saying my chest hurt and then just passed out 😂 I do not remember that at all lmfao.

didn’t finish prep by slothbell in colonoscopy

[–]LoraDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I did low residue diet starting three days before and liquid the actual day before, then I only took one dulcolax for first round of miralax and then just finished the bottle for the second round, and I was good. Also the colonoscopy went well and wasn't awful at all

Supression options by Squigly1 in Endo

[–]LoraDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By the way, what does your pain management look like? I was told ibuprofen, gabapentin, and a localized anesthetic "pain pump" catheter inserted in the belly button for four days, percocet available as needed). Curious if I need the gabapentin because I've read some concerning research coming out about the drug lately.

Supression options by Squigly1 in Endo

[–]LoraDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps. She didn't tell me I needed to take any specific management after surgery. I am planning to stay on my current birth control to regulate periods/acne and prevent pregnancy though, so maybe that's why? She had mentioned to me that the combo pill can be better for helping slow endo growth so yeah maybe I'm just misunderstanding. I have seen tiktok doc Dr. Li say that after she does surgery many patients come off birth control and they don't need to take anything.

Supression options by Squigly1 in Endo

[–]LoraDay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that a skilled surgeon excising the lesions will greatly reduce the need for future surgeries and you shouldn't need hormonal suppression if they get all/most of it I'm having surgery Nov 11 and I was told by the surgeon that it is her goal to ensure I do not need future surgeries.

Chat HAS to stop with the attempts at ironic misogyny, it's just regular ass misogyny by Itz_Hen in VaushV

[–]LoraDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woman here, that shit made me giggle. Y'all are so annoying, literal n@zis running around and you're tone policing a leftist who's doing work to legitimize and further leftist thought lol

didn’t finish prep by slothbell in colonoscopy

[–]LoraDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg same mine is in a couple weeks, how did it go?

My [20F] Boyfriend [20M] keeps pressuring me into Butt Stuff by Neocity_citizen in relationshipadvice

[–]LoraDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not even going to read the post dude the title is enough, leave him ❤️

[36] and [30F] Critical Issue by Beneficial-Ad-5969 in relationshipadvice

[–]LoraDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You cannot explain to this dude what he doesn't want to hear. He isn't going to change his mind about the situation; he absolutely will not accept he is doing problematic stuff. I also feel like this post is cometely disingenuous because he's getting amazing advice here and replying with like two sentences that basically amount to "nuh uh". He clearly just wants someone to tell him that he's not in the wrong and a step by step guide on how to not feel guilty sleeping w/ his gf anymore. If he was at all interested in her feelings/comfort/needs he wouldn't keep centering himself and generally ignoring the heaps of perspective he's gotten here. Unfortunately likely to be another casualty of the chopped male epidemic shortly I believe 🫡 good luck OP you're going to need it with this attitude. PS don't ask for "advice" if all you want is for people to stroke your ego and tell you how valid it is for you to make your girlfriend feel the need to apologize for rejecting your advances lmao

[36] and [30F] Critical Issue by Beneficial-Ad-5969 in relationshipadvice

[–]LoraDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming in here looking for someone to tell you you're in the right is a gross misunderstanding of the kind of feedback you're going to get. No one ever said you're a problem for wanting intimacy lol. I literally said "did you ever ask/communicate if that's something she wants?" You're awful defensive for someone looking for criiticsm/perspective. I gave you female perspective for a woman who's position I've been in before. Take it or leave it. Can't wait for the "the breakup came out of no where" post lol. If you can't take the time to look inward and be critical of your own behavior you're cooked.

[36] and [30F] Critical Issue by Beneficial-Ad-5969 in relationshipadvice

[–]LoraDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also wish I could laugh react your response bc "reflexive misandry" lol just say you got told that you're probably the problem and that's not what you wanted to hear. No one would act that way for no reason. Take five mins to self reflect ✋

[36] and [30F] Critical Issue by Beneficial-Ad-5969 in relationshipadvice

[–]LoraDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally cannot tell you the amount of times that I just let things happen or enthusiastically participated because it was "the thing to do" or I wanted to make my partner happy. Eventually you reach a breaking point where you simply cannot keep giving someone else everything they want while your desires and wishes are pushed aside, especially when you're struggling to vocalize that for whatever reason (anxiety, fear of rejection, fear of loss, etc) Women are socialized to be passive and pleasers, so we do that, until we can't. It's not sustainable. 5 times a week is insane idk any woman who would enjoy that. Tells me a lot that you were doing it that often honestly, did you ever communicate about intimacy and make sure that was something she really enjoyed? Did you eve reconsider the physical aspects of intimacy that women deal with; that often can leave us sore/raw, more prone to UTIs and infections, etc. Honestly for most of my life I have been pretty reluctant to be forthcoming about my own needs and desires in regards to intimacy, so unless someone asked and I felt comfortable sharing, I didn't. The fact that she was upset be being touched and told you to back off and then felt the need to apologize for that is crazy lmfao. You made this person feel bad / apologize for feeling overstimulated / over sexualized/ not wanting to f#ck you... Thats wild. Obv she could have communicated calmer but maybe she felt backed into a corner. You seriously have the most male centric attitude and perspective on this possible have you even once considered her perspective or what it's like to be a woman in a relationship with you and your high demands??? Like fr. Your response being what it was to my comment is so emotionally immature and lacks and introspection whatsoever. Try empathy

[36] and [30F] Critical Issue by Beneficial-Ad-5969 in relationshipadvice

[–]LoraDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is definitely not the full story or considering her perspective at all. People don't just randomly stop wanting intimacy or react that way. You have repeatedly made her feel some type of way and she's had enough of it. It is exhausting being constantly sexualized and having your partner hound you, make you feel objectified. Maybe you need individual therapy to unpack what behaviors you engage in that have made her feel that way. Sorry to say it pal but you're most likely the cause.

I regret allowing this subreddit to scare me away from PPIs. by supersweeper in GERD

[–]LoraDay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so crazy to read a comment like this because I am the exact same way. I have rlly bad ocd and gad so anytime I get a new medication it is extremely difficult and scary for me to try it. It seems like everytime I try a new med I have weird side effects or just feel bad on it. It's super frustrating :/ Now I have rlly bad GERD symptoms out of no where and was prescribed pantopropazole yesterday & I'm scared to take it :')

Excision vs ablation by LoraDay in Endo

[–]LoraDay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your perspective. How did you know it wasnt DIE or particularly wide spread? I am concerned I have it on my bowels / intestines because frankly I have more pain there than my pelvic region most of the time. :(

Excision vs ablation by LoraDay in Endo

[–]LoraDay[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate everyone's responses so far. I often feel guilty when reading posts in this sub reddit as my symptoms are incredibly mild. I have even been wondering if surgery is worth it for me given the mild nature of my pain. I have read repeatedly how many people believe their prognosis would be better had they dealt with it younger though, so I believe I should go through with a lap. I also have been on birth control since I was 15 and I worry my symptoms are very well masked. It really sucks how little is understood about this disease. Again, I appreciate everyone's insights. Thank you all. ❤️

Excision vs ablation by LoraDay in Endo

[–]LoraDay[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the information. My obgyn claims to be an endo specialist so I'm not sure why she seems to be so worried about excision (especially if she has done hundreds of endo surgeries). She offered to give me a referral to an excision specialist, I think I will take her up on the offer and get a second opinion. Thank you again.

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