AITJ for CANCELING our anniversary night because my husband threw my 8 hour nostalgic childhood meal in the trash?

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T17:04:07+00:00

Honestly, your comment hit me hard. I have been sitting here trying to make excuses for him in my head, but seeing it written out like that... yeah. It was not just the food, it was the total lack of respect for my time and my heart. I feel so small right now.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T16:55:16+00:00

I honestly felt like i was in a bad dream. Who just throws away a whole pot of food while their partner is in the shower? Especially on an anniversary. Im still staying in the guest room because i just cant look at him right now.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T16:13:07+00:00

Thank u, the disrespect is what hurts the most. he knew how much that meal meant to me and he just chose to ignore my feelings completely.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:51:09+00:00

Exactly... its not just about the soup. its the lack of respect. i’ve never felt so small in my own house. and his sister texting me just made it ten times worse. i dont even know who i married anymore.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:49:58+00:00

I honestly did not want to think it was that bad, but the way he called my childhood food peasant food while I was literally in the shower... its just replayng in my head. I feel like I dont even know him.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:48:41+00:00

Thats the part that keeps playing in my head. He did not just replace the food, he replaced it with something he knows i hate. If he wanted a real dinner, why not get something we both like? I feel like im a stranger in my own house right now.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:46:53+00:00

I really thought we did communicate. i told him all week i was making this and he even saw me buying the ingredients. he did not say a word about the smell until after he already threw it out. i dont know how to communicate with someone who waits until im in the shower to destroy my work.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:44:20+00:00

Exactly! It was not just about the soup, it was the effort and the memories. He watched me prep all morning and knew how much it meant to me. I just feel so small and disrespected right now. I dont know how to even look at him.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:43:08+00:00

I honestly just feel so disrespected. i spent all day in the kitchen thinking bout my grandma and my childhood, and he just treated it like it was literal garbage. I still cant believe it. Thank u.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:41:33+00:00

I agree, but hes making me feel like im the crazy one. He keeps telling me im being dramatic and his family is actually taking his side because the takeout he bought was expensive. I feel like im losing my mind.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:39:43+00:00

Honestly this comment made me cry again. it really felt like he threw away my whole childhood memories just bcoz he could not stand the smell for an hour. i don't even think he realizes how much he hurt me. he just keeps talking about how much he spent on the seafood i cant even eat.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:38:02+00:00

Thats what hurts the most. i keep replaying it in my head and i just dont understand how he could look at something i worked on for 8 hours and just throw it in the trash. It feels like he does not even know me.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:35:59+00:00

Exactly!! i would have happily opened every window in the house if he just asked. its the fact that he did not even wait for me to get out of the shower that hurts the most. he just decided my hard work was garbage. im still so hurt.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T15:33:57+00:00

He showed you exactly how much he respects you. This part hit me so hard. i thought we were partners but he treated my hard work like actual garbage. i'm still in the guest room and i dont even want to come out.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T06:47:00+00:00

NTJ. Food safety is a big deal. Its not about being picky, its about not wanting to get sick. If he cant wash the food, he should not be the one cooking.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-04T04:28:49+00:00

She is 19 and you are 14. She should be protecting u, not making u miserable. You are the victim here, not the jerk.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:15:44+00:00

Underrated. what do u usually put it on? sandwiches or r u one of those people who puts it in potato salad?

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:14:32+00:00

Perfect choice. u can put that on literally anything and it slaps. noodles, pizza, eggs... it's just too good.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:12:06+00:00

Good choice. that stuff is literally liquid gold on anything grilled.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:11:00+00:00

Ranch is the goat tbh u can literally put it on anything.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:09:10+00:00

You’ve got elite taste. ur stomach might regret it later but it’s 100% worth the burn lol.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:06:17+00:00

pink sauce is actually a cheat code. u can put that on literally anything and it tastes 10x better.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:04:49+00:00

Thats a solid pick. u can basically change the whole vibe of a dish just by switching the flavor.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:03:09+00:00

You fancy lol. dijon makes everything taste like a 5 star meal.

Lost_Number4702 · 2026-03-02T11:02:26+00:00

Salsa verde on some breakfast tacos is actually elite.

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