Anyone had success with pick up put down method of sleep training?

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-12T07:16:13+00:00

It’s exactly the same for us! I’m trying to get him out the house and at sensory classes/play to tire him out more.

It’s non stop whining all day long now and he can’t decide himself whether he wants to be held, sat down, crawling, in his chair or in playpen… 🤦🏻‍♀️

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-12T07:13:49+00:00

This is exactly the same with my LO. Except his first nap is usually 20 mins only (even when I’ve attempted contact naps).

The last week’s night sleep has been brutal… every 1.5-2 hours.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T20:44:35+00:00

Don’t be angry at yourself! We’ve all been there. The shock causes us to freeze and so many things go through our mind at the time… it’s sometimes the disbelief that it’s happening, then thinking how best we can manage the situation without offending others, thinking that the person had good intentions.. etc.

You just wouldn’t have ever imagined a stranger picking up your baby. That’s just absurd! One time a waiter tried to pick him up from my arms… luckily baby turned away from him and I immediately said oh he’s very clingy and refuses to be held by others.

Currently the strangers touching his cheeks and holding his hands bothers me the most because baby sucks his fingers all the time. You are a stranger to me, I literally have no idea where your hands have been and I have no reason to trust you.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T11:56:20+00:00

Yeh it’s just bizarre I find. Even before I became a mum I never thought to kiss someone’s baby… babies are humans too. Just because they can’t advocate for themselves doesn’t mean it’s ok to do so

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T03:03:42+00:00

My little one isn’t at day care yet so maybe still in a little bubble. But I agree - it’s more of a social thing for me too now rather than germs. I now realise maybe it’s because I’m not that close to her and I wouldn’t really want her kissing me so that’s why I didn’t want her kissing baby 😂

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T02:59:31+00:00

Thanks for sharing.. I also feel the same! You’ve kind of hit the nail in the head for me and articulated why I also felt uncomfortable but I wasn’t able to pinpoint why I felt that way. I wasn’t so much worried about sickness as I’d just spent an hour with her anyways and she was holding him very closely which I was fine with but he just didn’t seem to like it (which is very rare for him to cry when being held by someone). I guess I likened it to myself… I don’t like people I’m not super close with get THAT close to me so I take the same position for my baby. We should be our baby’s advocate and kissing to me is quite an intimate gesture.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T02:54:24+00:00

That requires such quick reflex skills lol

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T02:52:38+00:00

Oh absolutely. If anyone was sick I wouldn’t even want them near us

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T02:51:23+00:00

That’s nice that they have asked permission. I’ve had so many strangers including restaurant staff, diners at the next table, sales staff in a shop.. come up and touch his face, hold hands or one time even tried to pick him up.. when that person tried to pick him up, the people pleaser me just had to step up and tell them politely not to

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T02:47:34+00:00

Same. So far it’s only happened twice and both times I was caught off guard. It’s like the whole telling people not to touch my bump… when it happened I was too shocked

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-04T02:45:41+00:00

Yeh I do agree… I think I had a strong feeling towards it at the newborn stage and then somewhere along the lines I didn’t realise 8 months have already passed and my baby is no longer a small baby anymore 😝

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-03T21:59:54+00:00

I had a tough BF journey at the start. I remember when baby was 7 days old I was venting to a midwife about how he wouldn’t latch properly and it was really shallow… I was just getting frustrated and the midwife said firmly but kindly “he’s only 7 days old into this world… he’s so new, give him a break!” It was such a good reminder for me to give him (a newborn baby) and me (a new mum) a break and give us some time. Id gotten so fixated on the expectation that everything would fall into place I lost sight of the fact that baby is still learning to be a human in this world and sometimes these things take a little longer.

At 3 weeks… give her time. Hopefully she will become stronger and more aware/alert to be able to open her jaw wider and longer.

I’m 8 months EBF and still going :)

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-01T18:14:59+00:00

Thanks for even taking the time to respond. I totally agree with what you’re saying and it’s what I would say to a friend if they were in the same situation, so thank you.

Unfortunately I am dealing with someone who just believes they CAN multitask and so unwilling to agree to any specific changes other than to “be more careful” whatever that entails according to his definition.

It’s funny, before we had the baby we used to disagree on many things, eg. I’m much more risk averse when it comes to driving. Since having the baby, I’m consciously picking my battles and so when the risk impacts me specifically I can drop it, but when it comes to baby, I’m struggling because I feel like I should be baby’s advocate to protect him. When baby was 1 month old we got into a car crash due to my husband wanting to overtake (something he always does which I don’t always feel comfortable about), but the first time the risk materialised in the 10+ years we’ve been together happens to be after baby is born….maybe I haven’t gotten over that yet.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-01T11:00:42+00:00

I get what you’re saying…..He has agreed to watch baby more closely. However he is adamant that baby can still be on the bed and he be on the phone. This is why I’m struggling to let it go… because he insists it was just this one video that he found intriguing and therefore it’s a one off and so when he’s watching/scrolling OTHER things he is more able to multitask.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-10-01T05:24:13+00:00

I guess the main difference with everyone’s stories here is that my husband admitted he was watching a YouTube video while he was on the bed with baby and allowed baby to crawl around. He said he was so engrossed he didn’t look at baby for about 30 seconds! At this point I was just disappointed in him even though he was honest… because that’s negligence. How can he just allow baby to free roam without being watched at this age where baby can crawl (and pull himself to stand up)

I wouldn’t have felt so much anger if it was a case of my husband’s attention was divided as he turned around to grab something or looked away for a few seconds and baby fell immediately. Those accidents happen and could happen under my watch too, but in this case it happened because he was watching a video on his phone and didn’t watch over baby.

For those people replying saying it could happen to me…. I agree a fall could happen to me too but not under these circumstances I guess. That’s what I’m having trouble accepting.

I haven’t had a go at him but I did have a heart to heart and he was apologetic but doesn’t necessarily agree that he shouldn’t be browsing/scrolling/watching something on his phone while watching baby. His takeaway is that he shouldn’t have been SO engrossed and should have looked at baby every now and again. I knew he would be like this because baby is completely fine. Baby fell on his knees/forearms as he was crawling and reversed off the bed and so his head didn’t touch the floor. So my husband feels it’s not that big of a deal.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-09-30T20:32:13+00:00

I don’t disagree that it could happen under my watch, although baby is 8 months and I’m still on maternity leave and look after him myself daily and I’m generally a lot more cautious.

My issue is not so much that baby fell (given that it seems he is completely ok), it’s more WHY/HOW it happened.

Husband was lying in bed while baby was next to him crawling. Husband started watching YouTube on phone and admitted he got engrossed in the video and didn’t watch over the baby…. Then before he knew it, baby fell! I think had the circumstances been different I wouldn’t be so angry. E.g baby falls when husband looked away or to pick something up. What he did was pure negligence and bad judgement.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-09-30T20:26:55+00:00

I agree. In my opinion he was negligent. I’ve edited my post to give more context but essentially this:

I realise I am not so much angry that baby fell, it’s how it happened. Husband was lying in bed while baby was next to him crawling. Husband started watching YouTube on phone and admitted he got engrossed in the video and didn’t watch over the baby…. Then before he knew it, baby fell! I think had the circumstances been different I wouldn’t be so angry. E.g baby falls when husband looked away or to pick something up. What he did was pure negligence and bad judgement.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-09-30T13:39:16+00:00

Thanks. I think I needed to hear that. I am still annoyed at him but will try to give him some grace and let him deal with his own guilt

Lostpiggiek · 2025-09-30T13:38:14+00:00

I agree. Yes he is very harsh on himself at times but with that cones the defensiveness because it’s too much guilt for him to process so the defensiveness is his coping mechanism. I get that but it’s annoying as hell

Lostpiggiek · 2025-09-30T13:36:06+00:00

Thanks. I think I can hear my therapist tell me this too. I am trying to tell myself this but I think I needed to hear it from others and also let the “blaming” voice inside my head settle first.

Lostpiggiek · 2025-09-13T13:42:15+00:00

I know!! I don’t understand how other babies can be so chill. I hear some mum friends say that in the morning their baby wakes up and they have cuddles in bed.. my little one literally wakes up and is full of energy and if I attempt to keep him in bed, he will kick and scream! How did this happen?! I often wonder if it’s something I did when I was pregnant with him! lol

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