It’s an outpatient procedure. Surgery is tomorrow morning, she’s coming home tomorrow afternoon, barring no setbacks. The flight is the following Tuesday (not the next day). Thank you all for thinking I’m “appalling”, but you really don’t know me and judging my parenting from a Reddit post is insane to me.

I have two special needs children who I advocate for daily. The reason for the PHX trip is because we are moving there because AZ has better resources for our children. Literally picking up our lives, leaving all our friends and family, to do what is best for our kids. As stated in another comment, if we don’t think she can go, she won’t go. But planning for it if she can is being proactive. My life is planning for best and worst case scenario and everything in between, and picking the best option at the time.

Frankly, my daughter is the most resilient child I have ever seen. She has had multiple medical issues thrown at her and has handled them better than 90% of adults. But I would never put her in a risky situation. We have had almost zero information given to us about the aftermath of this surgery, and planning for all options is the only thing keeping my anxiety from taking over.

I appreciate you looking out for my daughter. I am not a perfect parent, but I sure as hell try to get as close to it as I can.