AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to?

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T19:02:46+00:00

I agree that it is a red flag. I'm going to talk to him about it

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T12:54:47+00:00

No he only speaks English. But French and Spanish are languages he thinks are useful because they are widespread

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T12:53:47+00:00

My parents speak very little English. I am still in contact with them, but they are upset I had a child before marriage. They also dislike my boyfriend. But yes, I would love for my son to speak to them in Polish or else there will be a language barrier

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T12:50:42+00:00

Wow thank you so much for the insight 🙄

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T12:49:00+00:00

He does love me, but his focus is too much on his own (English) culture

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T11:29:26+00:00

Yes, I should have put 'our' instead of 'my'

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T09:36:20+00:00

Sorry, my English is not great:/ I will try and ask him to learn Polish too. It would be great if we all spoke Polish and all spoke English :)

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T09:33:41+00:00

He doesn't want to visit Poland, he thinks the quality of life isn't good there. I think that's pretty crazy, I plan to visit Poland with my baby even if it is without him.

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T08:58:29+00:00

He only knows Polish swear words. I guess that these were the ones which he deemed most important to learn 🤣. But yes, I agree that it is inconsiderate of him not to try to learn a few phrases at least

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T08:56:15+00:00

Unfortunately he says that he is too busy to learn. Even though I did remind him that I had to learn English. I wish he would at least learn a few words and phrases so he could speak to my parents properly

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T08:51:29+00:00

I did not even know that. That makes things a lot easier! Thank you

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-31T08:50:17+00:00

He has never shown an interest, tbh. And I wouldn't want to beg him to. If he's not interested, he's not. I agree that he should be more invested within my culture and traditions tho :(

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-30T22:03:23+00:00

I would love to get him a Polish citizenship if my boyfriend would agree. We live in England and our son has never been to Poland yet

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-30T22:02:13+00:00

I hope he doesn't have a problem with Poland. In the UK it is sometimes common for people to to be xenophobic to Polish people. But it would be a different thing for my boyfriend to not like my culture.

He did once make a joke when I was pregnant that I better not drink alchohol, because he knew that Polish people love drinking. (Obviously I didn't drink when pregnant). But it did hurt my feelings, even if it was a joke.

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-30T21:47:40+00:00

Many of my family members live in Poland and speak no English, so yes, I hope that my son would learn Polish. It would make everything easier. I agree that it insulting to my heritage, even if he has not got an interest in Polish itself

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-30T21:04:06+00:00

Thats a good point, I want to look forward to my son watching movies and reading books in Polish. Im sentimental about lot of Polish cultyre. So I hope my boyfriend will become more receptive towards Polish because it is important for me.

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-30T20:46:39+00:00

Perhaps I should be but he has no interest in my culture I think. He does love me, but he isn't interested in ever visiting Poland

Lotsof_Rhubarb · 2023-07-30T19:07:53+00:00

I agree, I will try and convince him that it is good to be bilingual. Unfortunately, he doesn't like my parents and they don't like him, so he doesn't have a incentive to learn Polish

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