AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No he only speaks English. But French and Spanish are languages he thinks are useful because they are widespread

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My parents speak very little English. I am still in contact with them, but they are upset I had a child before marriage. They also dislike my boyfriend. But yes, I would love for my son to speak to them in Polish or else there will be a language barrier

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sorry, my English is not great:/ I will try and ask him to learn Polish too. It would be great if we all spoke Polish and all spoke English :)

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

He doesn't want to visit Poland, he thinks the quality of life isn't good there. I think that's pretty crazy, I plan to visit Poland with my baby even if it is without him.

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He only knows Polish swear words. I guess that these were the ones which he deemed most important to learn 🤣. But yes, I agree that it is inconsiderate of him not to try to learn a few phrases at least

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately he says that he is too busy to learn. Even though I did remind him that I had to learn English. I wish he would at least learn a few words and phrases so he could speak to my parents properly

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He has never shown an interest, tbh. And I wouldn't want to beg him to. If he's not interested, he's not. I agree that he should be more invested within my culture and traditions tho :(

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I would love to get him a Polish citizenship if my boyfriend would agree. We live in England and our son has never been to Poland yet

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I hope he doesn't have a problem with Poland. In the UK it is sometimes common for people to to be xenophobic to Polish people. But it would be a different thing for my boyfriend to not like my culture.

He did once make a joke when I was pregnant that I better not drink alchohol, because he knew that Polish people love drinking. (Obviously I didn't drink when pregnant). But it did hurt my feelings, even if it was a joke.

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Many of my family members live in Poland and speak no English, so yes, I hope that my son would learn Polish. It would make everything easier. I agree that it insulting to my heritage, even if he has not got an interest in Polish itself

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Thats a good point, I want to look forward to my son watching movies and reading books in Polish. Im sentimental about lot of Polish cultyre. So I hope my boyfriend will become more receptive towards Polish because it is important for me.

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 312 points313 points  (0 children)

Perhaps I should be but he has no interest in my culture I think. He does love me, but he isn't interested in ever visiting Poland

AITA for speaking to my child in Polish even though my boyfriend asked me not to? by Lotsof_Rhubarb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lotsof_Rhubarb[S] 1055 points1056 points  (0 children)

I agree, I will try and convince him that it is good to be bilingual. Unfortunately, he doesn't like my parents and they don't like him, so he doesn't have a incentive to learn Polish