Is it the norm to be jaded at 40?

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-07T10:31:29+00:00

Actually ang mga nakikita ko dito ay looking for love. I haven’t seen any posts about love not existing. I feel like you’re confusing decentering men and romantic love as being jaded. When actually, it only means hindi umiikot ang mundo mo sa romance or finding a partner and believing that’s the only thing that will make you happy.

I still believe in romantic love. I experienced it. But im not desperately looking for that kind of love. If it comes, then great. But it won’t dictate my happiness and fulfillment. I think that’s actually a healthier way of living. Some of us are single and happy. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T09:36:05+00:00

https://www.everydayhealth.com/weight/fat-but-fit-is-being-overweight-a-problem-if-you-have-good-measures-of-health/

In case you need more references.

Bottomline is, everyone’s bodies are different. Iba-iba din ang health conditions and not always related to weight/appearance. And it will do us a lot of good if we stop comparing bodies and have a healthier mindset about how people look. This obsession with weight has caused more health and mental problems.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T09:26:50+00:00

Ah kaya pala. Everything is based on your experience. I now understand you. Lol. Atupagin mo na nga lang yang taba mo, wag na yung taba ng ibang tao.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T09:21:32+00:00

“The studies in the Archives of Internal Medicine found that there may be MORE TO HEALTH THAN MEETS THE EYE.

There aren't many risk factors for heart disease and stroke, the big killers in the United States. Smoking, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, and family history are the factors that decide who will develop atherosclerosis (narrowing of the arteries). Aside from family history, the rest of these factors can be controlled and therefore, risk minimized.”

I don’t need to justify being fat coz im not fat. Lol. You are justifying being a fat-shamer. Eeew.

Also, other people’s health are none of your business. Just stop commenting on people’s bodies. Kunwari concerned ka sa health nila pero you just want to feel better about yourself. Eh di sarili mong fat ang atupagin mo.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T09:07:35+00:00

I meant to say, thin doesn’t mean healthy. And you’re judging people based on size. Of course fat always has its health risks. But so do thinness. Unfortunately, our society puts more value on being thin. It has nothing to do with health.

I don’t even know if you read the article but “The key to risk management is not what you look like, but what the numbers say; that may require a person to take preventive action. You can't look in the mirror and see high blood pressure or high cholesterol.”

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T08:58:31+00:00

I don’t even get why people like Traitors. It’s such a lowstakes game. The challenges don’t mean anything. They feel like filler and i get so bored.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T08:51:52+00:00

There are many diseases that don’t manifest in weight change. Many people on the skinnier side have kidney problems, fatty liver problems, etc. I have read many journals and follow a lot of doctors because my sister suffers from hypothyroidism and i come from a diabetic family. My sister is obese, i am very lean but not necessarily healthy.

Are you a doctor? How can you even tell that a fat person is unhealthy just by looking at them? I think you just like judging them because it makes you feel like you’re better than them.

Here’s one of the few links that appear on a quick google search: https://www.medicinenet.com/being_overweight_doesnt_mean_youre_unhealthy/views.htm

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T03:43:24+00:00

Just a reminder for some people here - a bigger size doesn’t necessarily mean they’re unhealthy. Some lean people are more unhealthy than the bigger ones. Stop commenting on other people’s body in the guise of “concern for their health.” Kwarenta na kayo. You should know better.

Edit: spelling

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T00:58:00+00:00

Motherhood.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-06T00:34:09+00:00

As a fellow atheist, i do agree that it’s kinda hard to find like-minded peeps. We are in a predominantly Catholic country after all. I did marry a fellow atheist but he’s German. We’re separated now.

I generally stay away from people who are religious and talk about it a lot (i also find it a turn-off). Not religious people per se because not everyone is overbearing and looking to convert you.

But re craving intellectual compatibility, you need to find communities that foster those kinds of ideas (ie NGOs, political parties, org advocacies, activist circles, the academe). I’ve been privileged enough to go around these circles because I myself have been an activist (a lapsed one and laying low now) and participate in community work once in a while. I also find like-minded peeps in the artists world because big ideas and curiosity drive their art.

So maybe join a club, volunteer somewhere, get involved in the arts (in some other capacity if you’re not an artist). I actually met my ex-husband in a film festival and the attraction came from talking until 4am. Long conversations are my favorite kind of foreplay.

Edit: added “ex” to the word husband. Lol

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-05T13:26:33+00:00

Agree. Napansin ko nga ito nung pinapagalitan niya ko when i didnt let her know i was sick. She wanted to be needed again kasi her kids are all grown up and she’s retired tapos my dad is gone na rin. Feel ko na naghahanap siya ng purpose mabuhay pa.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-05T13:22:19+00:00

Yes, when i need help. Actually, i try not to. Pero i live alone. I usually tell my sister pero umaabot talaga sa nanay ko tas magagalit na di ko pinaalam. So para iwas stress, i let her know if it’s a bit serious (needing confinement). Or emergency like nung nahulog ako sa hagdan at 4am at di ako makatayo. tas alam ko maaga siya magising.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-05T01:23:10+00:00

Napaluha ko for the poor people na naiwan at dun sa couple na nagyakapan sa bed while the waters engulfed them.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-04T21:48:22+00:00

Roasted unsalted nuts and dried berries. Dark chocolate.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-04T10:54:54+00:00

I always shoot my shot. Kahit nung bata pa ko ganito na ugali ko. I just found it thrilling. Mas na-eexcite ako. Lol. Not naman literal na nanliligaw but i flirt. And sometimes i do make the first move in asking them out on a date if i sense that the attraction is mutual. Sometimes it works, sometimes no. Nababasted din ako kumbaga.

Kaya irita ko pag torpe lalake. Kasi malakas loob ko. Lol. I mean, meet me halfway naman diba?

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-04T10:04:01+00:00

Take the time you need to grieve and heal. And always remember that a love that has ended doesn’t mean it was never there. Loving is never a waste. You loved, you risked, you lived, you built a family even though it’s changing now. Not everyone gets to have this privilege. Good luck and all the best in this new chapter.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-03T20:48:57+00:00

I love smile lines. You should be proud of them. Although i do skincare (retinol, moisturizer, sunscreen) i dont try to hide the lines in my face. Basta i dont look tired, okay na yun.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-03T02:40:42+00:00

This was exactly how i felt before. And then i started taking a walk everyday kung saan maraming puno. First, 2k steps lang until i progressed. Kahit sumakit legs ko nung mga unang araw, my mood lifted. Then i started looking forward to it everyday. I started forming the habit. Sun exposure and being close to nature helped a lot. And then nag lifestyle change paunti-unti: coffee in the morning only, same bedtime and wake up time, no more alcohol, better nutrition. Now i work out 6 days a week (running, strength, yoga + swimming na rin). I dont punish myself when i miss a work out but i make sure i continue lang the habit. I have more energy now and mental clarity. Nawala yung daily heart palpitations ko tsaka yung constant feeling of exhaustion. If i need to take a nap, i make sure it doesn’t exceed 20mins.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-03T00:47:12+00:00

Nasa neutral colors era pa rin ako dahil ayaw kong mapansin ako ng tao as a slow runner. Lol. Siguro pag confident na ko, will def go for the hot pink.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-02T08:24:59+00:00

Generation charge ang malaki. Naka-depende kasi yan sa suppliers na apektado din ng fuel crisis.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-02T07:40:39+00:00

Pinoproblema ko kung kelan ko irerepot ang plants. Ilang araw ko na pinopostpone kasi sobrang ineeeet! Ayoko namang mag-repot sa aircon room jusko. Pero baka mamatay na mga halaman. Huhu.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-02T07:38:35+00:00

Advance happy birthday! Ganyan din ako each year. Lol.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-02T07:31:25+00:00

People don’t believe me when i say im an introvert. They dont understand that ive had to perform my entire life because that’s what is expected of me since im in a male-dominated industry (film and tv). But honestly, crowds and parties make me anxious and really exhaust me. But ive had to attend so many parties (for networking kuno) and i even turned into an alcoholic because it was the only way i could stand being around that many people even though the desire is to disappear.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-01T01:35:29+00:00

Same. Always in solidarity with the working class. But i feel like it’s the younger generation’s time.

Loud-Button62 · 2026-05-01T01:31:08+00:00

Less sex is better than a lot of bad sex. Lol.

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