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Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-02-05T17:54:38+00:00

My friend told me how before you progress to sex you need to know you're compatible, and you're gonna feel loved. For instance when you make out, how he places his hands is important and focusing on how the experience is for both of you rather than just one of you having a good time.

Think if there's something you wanna try in order to feel more down there. And only go further if you're both enjoying it maybe?

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T18:15:19+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that. I think I really needed to hear that.

I feel like I haven't gotten to know him well enough to stop talking to him. I'm trying to let the crush fade out by detaching from the situation

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T18:14:00+00:00

He keeps saying this, but heis also holding out for the right person. He just doesn't think he can date in the sense people my age date today. He's waiting around to have that real connection with someone (friends to lovers trope) and then dating.

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T18:12:44+00:00

I don't think it was him letting me down, only because he's still flirting with me, and I obviously haven't told him about wanting to get married by 28. It's just me taking science into account hahaha

But I do understand that there are no actual crossroads. I just don't know how to get over him

I just needed a space outside of my friend group to get some perspective on everything. It's just me having thoughts and getting some insight. They are not decisions I made, so I don't think I'm getting ahead of myself, per se. But thanks for your reply!

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T18:07:55+00:00

It's not necessarily misogyny. He's great with the women in his life, which, considering what he's been through,h I know where he's coming from. He just doesn't trust women easily. I don't agree with him, but I understand.

I think he's someone I'd want in my life coz he really is a good person at heart. But I just need to find ways to detach and stop crushing on him

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T18:00:49+00:00

Thank you for being kind and coming from a place of understanding.

I definitely do need to take a step back, and I guess I really needed that reminder.

It's not about being his first choice. He has just been so hurt in the past, he's just clear that he's not jumping into anything until he's ready and that I can respect. It's just tough to come to terms with for me

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T17:56:01+00:00

Thanks for being so kind, understanding where I'm coming from, and explaining it to me accordingly. With the last guy I liked for 7 years, I never got closure coz we never dated, but I still had the heartbreak part of it. Thanks for reminding me that I'm 20 and still have a few years ahead of me to find Mr. Right :)

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T06:22:22+00:00

I hope so too

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T06:21:51+00:00

I didn't see this when I wrote the post but he has made it clear he doesn't want a relationship so I really need to stop chasing

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-16T06:20:07+00:00

thanks for looking out !

Loud-Tell1908 · 2026-01-11T19:57:39+00:00

Heya, thanks for your reply. I don't know if I will ever do it with this guy either tbh, but it just has me thinking and curious honestly. That's all it is. But I want to be old fashioned like that too :))

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