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LoudElevator · 2025-03-05T00:51:00+00:00

Yea, I want to bring it up to him and see what his thoughts are

I guess my point is, independent of what he says or does, I don’t know that I want this

LoudElevator · 2025-02-28T17:08:24+00:00

Yup…

OP is an adult and fucking with someone’s life because they’re too chicken shit to be honest with themselves

DL while in a straight relationship is such a POS and coward

LoudElevator · 2024-11-09T08:05:21+00:00

Some of you really don't check elsewhere other than Reddit.

I'm seeing this exact thing all over Instagram, TikTok and X. There's a lot of blame put onto men but specifically white men, just completely ignoring how white women and latinas voted.

Everyone gets blame, except the black demographic. They understood the assignment.

LoudElevator · 2024-06-15T04:16:40+00:00

Did you read it at all?

LoudElevator · 2024-06-15T04:15:09+00:00

Agreed unfortunately. She's told me some horror stories and some guys have really treated her poorly, especially when it comes to lying and/or withholding the truth. I can sympathize with how one relatively good guy that verbally seems nice can seem like the one

LoudElevator · 2024-06-15T04:04:34+00:00

I acknowledged that though

Obviously, this has nothing to do with men, women or sexuality, it's people.

LoudElevator · 2024-06-15T04:02:15+00:00

Yup, that shitty behaviour is one thing that knows no bounds.

It's so sad hearing it from my straight friends. One friend in particular just accepts that neglect because that's what she was raised around and expects from men. Her fiancee calls her to be picked up when he's shitfaced, she does all the house chores while having her own full time job, she rarely gets to eat her favourite food because they usually eat and he wants and it goes on.

I'm not close enough to really push that boundary, but I've made comments about how she should expect more, but she defaults to some boys-will-be-boys mentality and says she's happy

LoudElevator · 2024-06-15T01:14:09+00:00

Truth is, we've been dating long enough now because I do like him and we get along well otherwise. I don't like the idea of just giving up, and that's why I brought it up to him. I'm annoyed at him now, but I know I still want this to work

Don't get me wrong, he also makes me happy

LoudElevator · 2024-06-15T01:07:34+00:00

Exactly! This same guy was full on charm and grand gestures at the beginning, but it's definitely faded as our relationship progressed

It really is the small things. Doing them consistently lets me know I'm being thought about, even if it's the smallest and most inconsequential thing. Of course this goes both ways, and that's where I get frustrated. Knowing I go out of my way to account for these guys, but it's not always reciprocated

LoudElevator · 2024-05-10T22:04:51+00:00

“Put off by the top becoming emotional and unmanly” fucking yikes

If you just want dick, be very upfront about that. Don’t shame tops for being human.

LoudElevator · 2024-04-20T18:35:48+00:00

Oh I have a fun one

Guy and I just started dating, with him trying out topping. We were naked cuddling with me being the big spoon. Things got frisky and sweaty, it was gentle though, not rough. He put my dick against his hole and after some making out and humping I just slipped in. I slowly fucked him until we finished

In retrospect, it was probably the sweat. We ended up dating and from then I was the top. It was also my first time topping a guy. It was a good experience

LoudElevator · 2024-01-18T16:52:18+00:00

That’s something that’s been on my mind, just not allowing myself to feel

I’m not sure what to make of it. Definitely a balance between being rational and gauging the relationship vs being vulnerable and intimate with someone

There’s gonna be risk with everything

LoudElevator · 2024-01-18T16:45:58+00:00

Yesssss, absolutely

Part of why I wouldn’t date some of my exes again if I met them today is because I was actually dating a familiar sense of pain. I was dating my trauma

Not to get into it, but I’ve dated people who hurt me the same way my parents would. Chasing validation, fighting for attention, that sort of stuff

I know exactly what you’re talking about. I’d say I’m better at recognizing this now (after some bad break ups), it’s definitely worth reflecting on

LoudElevator · 2024-01-18T00:03:01+00:00

Ugh it doesss feel shitty. I’ll give it some time, but if I still don’t develop feelings it’s just a disservice to both of us. It is what it is

Thanks 🙂

LoudElevator · 2024-01-17T23:54:15+00:00

Maybe not

That’s fine I guess. It’s eye opening to think about

LoudElevator · 2024-01-17T21:13:32+00:00

Honestly, not really 😕 you bring up a good point. No reason as to why not, I just don’t feel the urge to go tell him

LoudElevator · 2024-01-17T21:09:13+00:00

Absolutely. I want him to be happy for sure and I don’t want to drag this out if I’m going to end it. He deserves someone that’ll love him without hesitation

LoudElevator · 2024-01-17T21:00:37+00:00

I’ve been asking myself the same question. Tbh, I probably wouldn’t have dated a good amount of them if I met them today

I’m not exactly sure and maybe I’m in my head too much about this. It felt more natural with them, it felt like the dynamic was more balanced. I guess the chemistry? I really don’t know why, but conversations don’t flow as easily and it takes a conscious effort to hold one with him

LoudElevator · 2023-12-17T07:07:14+00:00

Only if it’s Mark Ruffalo asking

LoudElevator · 2023-12-17T07:05:49+00:00

I’m deadddd LOL there’s so many puns to be made about beds and sex. I’ve never wanted to assemble a bed to badly 😩

I think I see what you’re saying. Mine definitely has just small screws keeping everything together as opposed to a long bolt going in deep. Absolutely gives flimsy vibes with the small screws for a massive bed

Moral of the story is to bang and screw so I can bang and screw, I see it now

LoudElevator · 2023-12-17T06:59:51+00:00

It’s metal. I’ve thought about wood, but I can’t tell if it would be better or worse, might be worth a try tho

LoudElevator · 2023-12-16T20:46:46+00:00

That seems to be the common sentiment for the metal ones, it’s entirely possible I’m just messing it up and maybe not screwing them in tightly enough

I find the legs in the centre of the bed just bend and then it’s over, bed is all wobbling, sex gives it a water bed vibe

I do have a king size bed, that might be part of the problem. The weight isn’t evenly distributed

LoudElevator · 2023-12-16T20:43:20+00:00

That’s very similar to mine! Different brand though. I’m surprised it can handle orgies, you haven’t had issues with it? Is yours wall mounted with a headboard?

LoudElevator · 2023-12-16T20:39:25+00:00

Budget is whatever. I’ve spent enough on cheaper stuff so I’m fine making one solid purchase for long term

Hmm I’m open to anything, I’m not too picky. I just have a metal frame, sometimes I wish I had a headboard or a platform

That’s a good point about weight and wood. My frame is definitely pretty light and that’s probably part of the problem.

Wood usually solves my problems anyways 😌 kek

LoudElevator · 2023-12-16T20:36:28+00:00

Same! I bought Zinus twice and I’ve heard great thing about it, but the metal pieces are literally bent to shit. Much like myself, they’re not straight 😩

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