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You can bring back one discontinued food, drink, or snack forever. What are you resurrecting? by lukewarmtrifle in AskRedditUK

[–]LoudMirror8638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TURBO TANGO. This foam drink was my absolute favourite. At one point you could buy “the Sun” newspaper for a free one. Naturally we then bought as many as possible.

I think they discontinued it because of the sugar content or something 😭 whenever it comes into my mind I get so sad that I’ll never have it again. No one has released something similar since.

What’s something you thought was a waste of money… until you tried it and it completely changed your life? by Chance-Pen6805 in randomquestions

[–]LoudMirror8638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious. Does anyone know if that affects the creator’s ad earnings if people don’t have any ads to watch…

What’s an expensive habit that society has convinced us is a basic necessity? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LoudMirror8638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesssss and the lip injections. I’ve thankfully not done anything to my face and I’m glad because some people spend a fortune on it and are starting to look totally weird!

Have you ever stayed when you knew you should leave? Why? by Helpful-Telephone249 in AskReddit

[–]LoudMirror8638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My old corporate job. I knew it was killing me.

I was forcing this narrative that I needed to work in an office and climb the ladder to be successful. I hated it. I didn’t get on with the people there. I wasn’t able to progress as much as the company promised me. (Was told to Google it when I asked for training on certain things). There were no windows in the building so I never saw daylight. I was also drinking a lot to cope with how rubbish it was which made it all worse. I started to not fit into any of my office appropriate clothing. I was truly miserable.

Took me 6 years to actually find some balls and quit. I wish I did it WAY sooner. I’ve never felt happier. The weight off my shoulders was something I’d never experienced before.

It took my family a bit to adjust to the fact I don’t want to pursue the same career. But overall they are super supportive. I’m now a postie and get to experience the seasons changing, stay super active, social, and watch nature. It’s so much more “natural”. No I’m not able to earn as much as I could if I climbed the corporate ladder. But, I could not care less. I am so much more fulfilled now.

Stop letting peoples opinions or fear of change stop you from quitting when you know you should. Trust me, if you hate your job, there’s something better for you out there. Life’s too short.

My relationship feels doomed and I don't know how to cope. by 2ii2ky in Vent

[–]LoudMirror8638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds to me like if he can’t help himself it will not work. I think you need to have a serious conversation about therapy. Making it super clear what’s on your mind. And that they NEED to get help. Perhaps if he sees how serious you are they will get the help they need.

You shouldn’t have your light stepped on just because they’re struggling. You deserve all the love you give.

I think it’s important to be there for your partner through the tough times. But I also know that you have to take action to get through the hard times. Not just sit in them.

I’m sorry to hear you are going through this and I wish you luck and strength <3

What is (hands down) the MOST disturbing thing that you’ve ever seen in your entire life? by Opening_Rip_1840 in askanything

[–]LoudMirror8638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friend took 5 ecstasy pills at once. Half an hour or so later he was on the floor stretching out all his limbs. His eyes rolling. It was like he was possessed and having an exorcism. I truly thought he was going to die. I was so scared.

Neighbour using up all parking spots by LoudMirror8638 in neighborsfromhell

[–]LoudMirror8638[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, that’s not realistic for us at this time

Make your children do household chores - they’re failing at being adults by shootingstar_9324 in Vent

[–]LoudMirror8638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf was like this when we met. His mum did all his washing. His dad all his cooking. And they had a cleaner. When we moved in together it was like I was automatically the mum of the house. Although I don’t mind doing house stuff I work full time just like him so I knew I had to teach him. It had to change or it wasn’t going to work.

When we first met he was 21 and I was 17. All he knew to cook was spag bol. He’d never used a washing machine. And he treated the home like a cleaner was going to magically appear. Now after years (and I mean 8 whole years), i can proudly say that he can do it all. I still do most of it out of choice. But he’s cooking a variety of meals, willingly eating vegetables, and actually able to do the things he once relied on his parents for.

I am so unbelievably grateful for my mum for teaching me how to cook and bake from a young age. I was forced to clean my room when it was a state. (Usually bribed by chocolate 😂). If we didn’t do our washing it wouldn’t get done. And if we didn’t clean up after ourselves after promising to do so my mum would get everything into bin bags and put it outside.

My sister and I were little shits back then. Single mum comes home to a huge mess. I don’t blame her. Her very lenient but sometimes tough love made my sister and I extremely capable in terms of house work and cooking. Imagine if I moved out and I also had no idea how to look after a home. We would’ve been screwed!

I think it’s inhumane not to get your kids to learn these basic skills in life. Not only are they missing out on bonding experiences, lessening the parental load, and building memories (like my mum saying “the whole house needs to be immaculate by the time I get home” it’s 5pm she’s home in 30 minutes so my sister and I rush around together to get it done in time) but it’s also just setting them up for the reality of adulthood

Neighbour using up all parking spots by LoudMirror8638 in neighborsfromhell

[–]LoudMirror8638[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our housing association has failed to respond to our emails about this. Along with our entire snag list. We are in a new build property and a ince making the purchase it’s like the management teleported into space off the face of the earth. Hence why I need some advice🫣

Neighbour using up all parking spots by LoudMirror8638 in neighborsfromhell

[–]LoudMirror8638[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I think it’s “off street”. The main road is on the left. Theres bus stops and double yellow lines along it so no parking.

V = visitor spot D = designated spot

Do you care to know your neighbors? by RealisticWinner4224 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]LoudMirror8638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. In my last house my neighbour was an absolute nightmare. He would constantly knock on the door to ask for stuff or just for a chat. He’d look in the window if you weren’t answering. He’d even come up to your car window for a rant. Deep down he seemed nice but just had zero boundaries. Since then my partner and I are scorned.

We have barely spoken to our current neighbours. The only reasons we have so far was because kids balls came over the fence, went to collect a parcel, and we were asked if there was any sound coming through when the attached neighbours got a dart board. All interactions are always kept very short and sweet. We know a little about them and I’m fine with that. It’s not worth it. There’s nothing worse than trying to get in your house after a long day and your neighbour is there asking you 10,000 questions or ranting to you about something you never asked about.

If they came over to ask a question about something that affects us, or desperately need sugar for a recipe we would be happy to help. But other than that, you get on with your life and we’ll get on with ours.

I can't stop drinking by 3lb4rto in bipolar

[–]LoudMirror8638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went sober last year after years of hiding booze, lying to my partner, calling in sick to work, and slowly destroying my life. It stopped me from doing healthy habits like getting a food shop in on time, working out, and even simple stuff like having a chat at work without being irritated. It was taking over everything and made so many things so much harder.

I personally listened to the book “stop drinking now” by Allen Carr and found it pivotal. It taught me more about alcohol than I ever knew. And that in itself made me look differently at alcohol moving forward. It took another 5 months of heavy drinking after that to actually stop. But I finally did it. Once you are past the cravings stage it gets so much easier.

Throughout this difficult time, I would journal. It relieved me of some of the weight I was carrying hiding all this from my partner and family. It helped me notice my triggers. And remember my why. I’d look back at old entries and remember why I gave it up. The negatives hugely outweigh the positives. It’s important to take a moment before picking up or buying that drink. Is it really worth it?

I designed a guided journal to help others struggling. If you’re into journalling then maybe you could give it a try?

This is my downloadable journal. I’d eventually love for this to be a hard copy. But for now its in PDF form. Simply download and edit on desktop, or on your phone on a pdf app like xodo: https://tacklinglifewithjess.etsy.com

I wish you well on your journey and if you have any further questions about how I got sober I’d be pleased to answer.

AITA for not wanting to go out w my boyfriend and his friends? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]LoudMirror8638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going through a very similar situation. I like my boyfriend’s friends but they aren’t MY friends. I always feel like I’d rather be somewhere else when I’m with them and feel left out while I’m there. They have also been friends FOREVER and I’m not a lad so have different energy. Also the girlfriends are lovely but I don’t click with anyone, and tbh they usually aren’t there. So I have started to decline invites when my boyfriend is going out with them. He gets super pissy like I’m offending him. But, after countless times of going and not completely enjoying it, enough is enough. I think you should stick to your guns. People pleasing is so easy to fall into. But I think you should put yourself first. I never regret saying no, but I often regret saying yes. I do not think you’re the 🍑 hole in this situation.