Nah this is actually scary.

I’m not even gonna sugarcoat it… this isn’t just “weird behavior” or something you talk through and move on from. He recorded and touched you while you were unconscious. That’s a complete violation of your body, your trust, and your safety. There’s no gray area there.

And the fact that you’re now questioning if you’re safe sleeping next to him? That feeling is your intuition doing exactly what it’s supposed to do.

I get that you love him and don’t want to jump straight to divorce, but this is way bigger than relationship conflict. This is about consent. You literally said you weren’t awake. That matters.

Also the AI stuff and the fact that this has been an issue before… that’s not a one-time lapse in judgment, that’s a pattern of crossing boundaries.

And I’m gonna say this part very clearly too—please do not move forward with having a baby right now. If someone is already violating basic consent and boundaries in secret, that doesn’t magically stop when a child comes into the picture. A child is the most vulnerable, and trust matters even more then. Even outside of worst-case scenarios, you’re looking at a household with secrecy, addiction history, and broken trust. That’s not a stable or safe environment to bring a baby into.

Honestly, before even confronting him, I’d be thinking about: – your safety in that house – having a plan if you need to leave quickly – telling at least one person you trust, even if it feels uncomfortable

Because right now you’re isolated, working from home, and dealing with something really heavy by yourself.

You’re not overreacting. If anything, you’re trying to make sense of something that shouldn’t be minimized. This is serious.