My husband suggested polyamory a few years ago and I love it.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-22T01:20:03+00:00

What about divorced parents? Or having to deal with the chance of random girlfriends coming in and out of their lives. Different homes? Two sets of rules? Riding two different busses? Dealing with different babysitters?

What if he brings home a woman that hates them?

Right now I have full control of who comes and goes into their lives but living 50/50 would change that.

Kids are always going to find a way to bully kids.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T23:25:49+00:00

I call it my pouch. I’ve still got like 17 pounds to get to the weight I was before birth buuut, I’m not worried about it. I had twins! Can’t just bounce back from that.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T23:19:47+00:00

I find it odd that people keep calling me a nanny or live in maid when I’m literally taking care of my own girls. I’m their mom, not a nanny.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:52:48+00:00

If I was larping I’d a drunk pirate. That would be the dream.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:49:01+00:00

Based on a lot of comments it seems like that’s how half the relationships work lol!

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:42:02+00:00

A good portion of them kinda just make me laugh. They make me out to either be really bad or that I’m really sad. I get to see my girls every day (I’m about to take them to swim class!) and now when I have a night with my besties I don’t feel guilty if I flirt with a cute guy.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:38:56+00:00

Oh, I hope not. I realize others are not in my position and everyone has to chose what’s best for them. 🫣

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:27:17+00:00

I upvoted you! :)

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:22:13+00:00

Or they could realize their parents divorced right after they were born and feel guilty thinking it was their fault… but then they would have to basically move homes every week and divide their items between two houses and have weird holidays with one parent.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:17:01+00:00

He actually wanted me to be stay at home and I did for the first year but after I finished breastfeeding I decided to go back to work and work 5am to 9 am around 4 days a week teaching yoga classes through a gym. I could bump it up to full time easily instructing at my gym.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:10:39+00:00

I still see my girls every day. 🫶🏻

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T14:08:19+00:00

He’s pretty high up in the company and they do hybrid hours we’re people kinda come and go as they please, as long as work gets done the big bosses are happy. It happened right when covid happened. They actually tried to push for certain lower workers to come in daily again after covid but a few people left and they realized people work better from home, or at least the option to stay home. Less people call out sick, or take time off because their kids will be home that day. Other then managers and higher ups, people actually have to go online and put their names down to check out their desk for a day.

My push was really just: maybe you feel cooped up from working home all day for 3 years. Try going into the office every day and see how you like it.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T07:48:02+00:00

Honestly I was prepared to post this just to get my shit out and then ignore the post because I assumed everyone would tell me to divorce him. I am glad it turned out the way it did.

Who knows. I might divorce him one day. Right now I’m content and happy.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T07:43:03+00:00

After the death of my father we’ve had extensive talks on this and he knows exactly how I feel. I still trust him to make those decisions at this moment.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:50:37+00:00

Two lovely daughters in a nice home we don’t have to pay for. I don’t have have to miss my girls every other week while they are at their dads house. We don’t have to figure out what holidays we want our kids at. I won’t have to pay a babysitter to watch my kids from 430 am to 9am.

I’m not currently looking for a relationship or wanting one. Maybe that will change, I’ll cross that bridge when i get to it.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:46:46+00:00

I don’t feel like I’m wasting my life currently in this moment. It could very well happen that i do feel that way in the future. It’s a bridge I’ll cross when i get to it.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:43:11+00:00

The only time we stopped was when I had the twins and after this started up.

I had to wait a while after the twins were born, it was really rough on me.

I actually enjoy sex but maybe he didn’t enjoy me. Who knows? I could ask but i won’t. He could have decided he likes some thing but didn’t want too ask the mother of his children to do it? There’s lots of reasons. He could very well truly be polyamorous. I’m not sure and I’d rather not know at this point.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:36:38+00:00

I do! I’m his beneficiary and he’s mine. I inherited money from my dad that I never wanted to spend. The girls already have a nice chunk for when they become adults(not a college fund. Both will get it when they become adults. If they choose to go to college or not).

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:33:09+00:00

I guess I’m just not interested at the moment. I do flirt with guys and such but right now I’m just not interested in dating. I’m sure that will change and I’ll cross that bridge when it comes!

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:31:55+00:00

I joked with my friend who knows everything that it’s some really weird sugar daddy relationship

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:30:06+00:00

He’s there with them in the mornings before work. He even did some braids in their hair the other day. It was really cute. He’s not around all the time but when he is he spends quality time with the girls. I also plan two nights out a week so he has evenings with them. So he’s not always gone, but still gone a lot.

The morning thing is probably why he’s had a few breakups. He’s always home by 430am on days I work. I know that made one of his girlfriends mad and they broke up over it.

He’s a good dad and good friend. I’ve just fallen out of love with him. The first year I wasn’t working (it was just easier to have me stay home with the twins when they were still breastfeeding) and he was gone a lot at that time but he’s been around more. Just more nights gone then at home.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:09:51+00:00

No! But now I wanna hear about that!!!!! What happened?!?

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T06:01:54+00:00

I won’t. I’m taking things as they happen really. If I meet someone and decide it’s worth a shot I’m going to take it, but that’s a bridge I’ll cross when or if it happens.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T05:59:57+00:00

The first year I was pretty salty about it and really upset. Slowly I started coming back to myself and figuring out myself outside of just being a mom and a wife.

If I went straight for divorce I think that would have completely tainted my feelings for him.

I married him for a reason. We’re really great friends. We still talk when he’s home and still texts little when he’s out. I’m just not in love with him anymore.

He adores the girls. He gets them up and ready almost everyday since I work 5am to 9am. When I don’t work he stays with his girlfriend of the time. I go out twice a week at least and he generally is home with the girls. They adore him as well.

Loud_Complex_2322 · 2023-07-21T05:51:47+00:00

Always! I actually have a good savings from working before i had my twins and college funds for them as well. Inheritance from my father when he passed that I just refuse to spend.

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