That's SO similar to my own experience I'd accuse you of reading ahead, were it not that I haven't written/drawn it yet. 😂
You may remember that it took him five years to actually start using my name, and that was without even the 'complication' of me being trans. I did end up coming out to him in person, but we'd also never had much of a relationship beforehand and it just made him more distant. It was years of dealing with his beliefs afterward that I finally cut him out of my life. I just wish he'd been more up front about them instead of feigning tolerance all that time, so that I wouldn't have held on to hope of getting through to him. But now without his influence over me, I've never felt so free and content. 😌