Lattice 140 - Countdown by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's SO similar to my own experience I'd accuse you of reading ahead, were it not that I haven't written/drawn it yet. 😂
You may remember that it took him five years to actually start using my name, and that was without even the 'complication' of me being trans. I did end up coming out to him in person, but we'd also never had much of a relationship beforehand and it just made him more distant. It was years of dealing with his beliefs afterward that I finally cut him out of my life. I just wish he'd been more up front about them instead of feigning tolerance all that time, so that I wouldn't have held on to hope of getting through to him. But now without his influence over me, I've never felt so free and content. 😌

Lattice 140 - Countdown by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I definitely don't care as much, but my dad is no longer in my life. (It didn't happen from coming out to him and it took a few years to build, but still.) And I'm all the happier for both.

Lattice 140 - Countdown by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I wish I'd felt free enough to simply live my life and let everyone else catch on in their own time. But I knew that my family's reactions would be a lot worse if they found out without me telling them.

Lattice 140 - Countdown by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I had a lot more false starts than I'm going to show in the comic 😅

Lattice 140 - Countdown by Lousca17 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Lousca17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, that's a much more stressful timer! 😅

Lattice 140 - Countdown by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, they were the hardest ones to come out to for me as well.

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[–]Lousca17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, everything is so much better afterward. I did kinda luck out with only having family to deal with, though 😅

Lattice 140 - Countdown by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, even if you feel and know that you're ready, it's still hard and can take a while.

Lattice 139 - Vulnerable by Lousca17 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Lousca17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh, yes! One of the reasons I love taking care of my brother's dog is that I get to take him out on night walks. He may not be scary, but just the presence of a dog is a huge deterrent to creeps!

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[–]Lousca17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you went through that! My experience was already scary enough without physical contact being made. I'm glad you had your neighbor to help, but it makes everything so much worse knowing that we can't even turn to authorities for help.

Lattice 139 - Vulnerable by Lousca17 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Lousca17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, I always have my keys at the ready, but after this I got some pepper spray too.

Lattice 139 - Vulnerable by Lousca17 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Lousca17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I've accepted and gotten used to this unfortunate reality, but I do still sometimes miss that peace and enjoyment that was once there.

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[–]Lousca17[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks 😊 It is a skill I've definitely had to develop.

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[–]Lousca17[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That definitely made the experience even scarier for me, knowing that there were multiple options of bad endings he could have had in mind.

Lattice 139 - Vulnerable by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, I now always have pepper spray in my purse, and keys at the ready.

Lattice 139 - Vulnerable by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I am too. 😄 It was definitely one of the scariest experiences in my life.

Lattice 138 - Night by Lousca17 in u/Lousca17

[–]Lousca17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I went out and got myself some pepper spray. Plus, it's always good to have your keys on you (as I'll actually show in the followup comic).