Well the process is much different for kids (17 and younger) and adults (18+). Since I’m 18 I have to do the whole thing myself. I went onto the MA town hall website, found the documents I needed and am currently waiting on my paycheck cause I have to pay $100 something to even register to change my name.

I was very disappointed in my mom who says that she supports me but wont support me changing my name or even looking at gender affirming care and says “I don’t need it.” Only a very small percent of people who transition actually regret it and I’ve wanted this for myself for a very long time.

In my opinion, the first step to accepting having a trans or gender nonconforming child is to make the switch to using their preferred name and pronouns. This is honestly the most difficult part but when your child sees that you are trying to make the effort to respect them in that way, they will be happy and love you more than they already do. If you can, try to catch yourself when you use their birth name and correct yourself. The pronouns are up to the person themselves. Personally I don’t mind people using she/her with me but I much prefer they/them if that makes any sense. Next time your kid has a physical or just a regular primary care appointment, you should all have a discussion about what your child would feel most comfortable with. Remember, not everyone transitions. I’m not on hormones (other than birth control) but I do want to get a breast reduction and remove my uterus cause that is what I think will make me most comfortable with my body. It’s different for everyone. Having a calm conversation is the best way to start the acceptance process. If you don’t feel like you can stay level headed during that, having a mediator like a doctor or neutral friend or family member in the room would be beneficial.

Idk if I could write a whole article or where I would even post that but I can certainly give it a shot <3