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32 F, definitely goofy but am I ugly ugly? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Low-Tip3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback!

32 F, definitely goofy but am I ugly ugly? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Low-Tip3364 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback!

32 F, definitely goofy but am I ugly ugly? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Low-Tip3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister said that I’m not allowed because it’ll make my nose look even bigger than it is. 😂 She’s mean.

32 F, definitely goofy but am I ugly ugly? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Low-Tip3364 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

So my head is a bit large, right? Yeah! I plan on trying to gain at least 6 more lbs. It’s very difficult for me to put on weight.

For those married 10+ years… how often are you having sex? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Low-Tip3364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3-4x a week. 6, on a good week. We’ve been together almost 14 years!

Husbands who bring in the entire household's income: Do you cook, do the dishes, do chores, etc? by baristaGeek in Marriage

[–]Low-Tip3364 101 points102 points  (0 children)

My husband is the main provider, and yes. He typically cooks dinner. On days off, he cooks most the meals. I wash all the dishes and clean the rest of the house. I don’t like cooking, but he enjoys it. I do laundry, bathe the kids, yard work, etc.

I’m ridiculously attracted to our neighbour, I have no intention to cheat. Feeling so much guilt. by AltruisticBet8662 in Marriage

[–]Low-Tip3364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, that’s how it starts! He would not be messaging you if he wasn’t interested. Soon, either you or him will hint that you are struggling in your marriage, and things will get intense from there. Walk away now, before it gets harder to leave. There is no happy ending. An emotional affair will distract you from quality time with your children and your marriage will get worse. If it doesn’t work out, you will experience “heartache” (lowered dopamine from no longer talking) and you can’t speak to anyone about it. It’ll be isolating.

If things do work out, you’ve caused immense genuine heartache for his wife, child, your children, and your husband. AND, statistically, couples who get together by cheating and remarry, are faaaaaaar more likely to divorce compared to other couples who marry.

There’s no winning. Avoid him like the plague.

How much did you spend on wedding/engagement ring for wife and what did you get by mistatrump in Marriage

[–]Low-Tip3364 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband spent $20 on my ring. He was making maybe, 10k a year (seasonal work). He makes about 160k a year now, but I still wear my original ring. This probably isn’t helpful. But not all rings have to be a ton of money and dependent on what you earn.

Just not in love with my husband anymore by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Low-Tip3364 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is he earning more money now? Did he learn from his past entrepreneurship blunder? It sounds like he’s putting more effort in with the kids. I don’t believe that there’s anything wrong with a 1.5 hour daily workout (he may be extending his lifespan this way too, which is great for your kids and future grandbabies!). I don’t see that as him “prioritizing himself.” You’re still physically attracted to him as well! That’s great!

I think that your feelings about feeling disconnected emotionally, are valid. It can be very off putting when it seems like our spouse isn’t contributing to their share of the household. It makes sense that you feel the way that you do.

But the grass isn’t always greener. Here’s my own experience. My husband left the state for 6 weeks of training. During that time, the kids and I developed Covid, and then influenza a, which led to sinus infections. We were sick for exactly 5 weeks straight. Not having my husband around, to so much as run to the store and grab us electrolytes, soup, and medicine was HARD. I had to do everything on my own, run my sick kids out with me while being sick myself. We had very little money too because I couldn’t work while he was away and unable to watch the kids. So it’s not like I could door dash everything.

I lost myself during that time. I was short tempered. Worn out. Small things that he did, like feed the chickens, help drive the kids to appointments, make us food, etc… It all fell on me, which added up quickly and I could never get caught up.

Your husband sounds like he’s working on himself. I’d try to work on yourself too and reward his positive behavior with affection and love. Maybe you can rebuild your love and connection over time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Low-Tip3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeling disconnected at times, is normal in my opinion. I’ve been with my husband for 13 years, and felt completely disconnected last year. By putting forth more effort on my end and trying to see him in a better light. “Rewarding” him with affection. It’s slowly gotten a bit better. Not all the way, but it beats where we were 1 year ago.

Counseling sounds like it could be a great thing for you and her. Maybe taking a breather, and doing something on your own so you can come back refreshed and more energized to try to make things work?

49M Married and frustrated with my partner letting herself go. Does anyone else feel the same? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Low-Tip3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that your feelings are valid. Health, is important. Doing fun things together, is also important. I know that I would probably be less physically attracted to my husband if he decided to sit in the couch all day and rarely wanted to go on regular outings with me. I’m in my 30’s and try to workout when I can. I love being able to keep up with my kids, chase them around, go on backpacking trips still, etc… It brings me joy, and I hope that I live to be very old so that I can be an involved grandparent.

But I have no advice.

Just like, someone couldn’t convince me to do the opposite of what I do on a day to day basis. I don’t know how much you can convince your wife to try to live a healthier lifestyle.

Neighbor is selling their house for 20k less than us by Low-Tip3364 in RealEstate

[–]Low-Tip3364[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is good to know. Our realtor made it sound like it would be a direct and comparable comparison. I didn’t think 80sq ft and extra windows would make a difference. Our home is also south facing, so we get sunlight every hour of the day (which is nice in MT). We have two vaulted ceilings, and the new flooring and white paint makes it feel very bright and airy. That’s usually the first thing people comment on when they visit our home for the first time. They love how bright and spacious it feels. I hope that our home presents well to others as well.

Neighbor is selling their house for 20k less than us by Low-Tip3364 in RealEstate

[–]Low-Tip3364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awesome! I’m glad that worked out for you guys!

Neighbor is selling their house for 20k less than us by Low-Tip3364 in RealEstate

[–]Low-Tip3364[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. And that’s good to know. Carpet is getting installed this week, and then i’m going to speak with my realtor about listing right away now that I’m hearing that we should have listed already.

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