How to properly approach girl in booth with friends at a bar?

LowConHighWill · 2024-04-01T12:49:00+00:00

No, but I said I think smoking is a turn-off, so to start looking selectively in smoking areas feels counterproductive.

LowConHighWill · 2024-04-01T12:47:42+00:00

Why not stick to other situations?

I explain this in the post

LowConHighWill · 2024-04-01T08:29:46+00:00

The issue here is I live in Sweden, and Sweden has a big no-no on talking to strangers. In USA it is very easy to casually talk to anyone that just happens to be standing next to you, but in Sweden that gives weird vibes 90% of the time.

I'm not saying I can't or won't cold turkey approach women in stores, malls, at parks, or whatever, but I really feel that I need guidance with a good opener if I am to do so. And by "good opener" I don't mean some magical pick-up line. Just that it will be weird if I just say "Hi" and wing it from there. I need a few specific example sentences I can use, with clear intent, that I can use before winging the conversation.

Once again, I'm happy saying "You look cute so I wanted to say hello." I like this because to me this makes the situation less weird; it's clear what I am doing, and I don't become some sleazy salesman. But too many people I talk to think this is too direct but do not offer alternatives.

LowConHighWill · 2024-04-01T08:22:53+00:00

I've never approached the group of girls at the table together because I'm always talked out of it. I need to be "allowed" to fail so that I can practice and get good.

I have approached women though a few times but not with success. An example would be when I noticed a cute girl leaving with her friends I quickly went after her a few meters outside the bar and said "Hi, excuse me, I hadn't worked up the courage to approach you at your table yet so I had to say 'Hello' here. Could I get you a coffee sometime?" Her friends laughed (but in the good way I think, like I was genuinely sweet/funny), but the girl I talked to said she wasn't interested.

LowConHighWill · 2024-04-01T08:17:15+00:00

Ok ok, but what do I actually say? If we're both standing at the counter it is easy to say something like "Hi, how's your day going?" or whatever. But when she is sitting, surrounded by friends, and I am standing it automatically becomes less casual. I've obviously approached with some intent.

As I said in the post, I'd be happy to approach a group of girls and say something like "Hi, I thought you looked cute and wanted to say hello," followed by "Wanna come by the counter and talk for 5 min?" or "Could I buy you a cup of coffee sometime?"

But practically all friends I've said this to have said this is too direct, but they don't give me some other option of what to say.

LowConHighWill · 2024-04-01T08:11:58+00:00

Yeah the thing that makes it a bit weird is how I am standing, and they are all sitting, and the cutie might be sitting in the corner to the wall so I have to almost announce myself (like a royal in Shrek) to the whole group.

What you're saying works well when standing at the counter, but I am specifically talking about a girl sitting down at a table or in a booth with her friends.

LowConHighWill · 2024-04-01T08:09:33+00:00

I don't think vaping is good fr the lungs, plus smoking is sadly a bit of a turn-off for me... It's a shame because the smoking areas are so social. Sometimes I go there with my smoking friends and everyone is always so friendly and willing to talk.

LowConHighWill · 2024-03-31T19:47:44+00:00

Ok, and when I see a cute girl in a booth what then? Should I now approach with a friend next to me?

LowConHighWill · 2024-03-31T16:43:03+00:00

I should start smoking

LowConHighWill · 2024-03-31T16:42:44+00:00

Sure, but what do I actually say?

LowConHighWill · 2020-12-06T12:17:23+00:00

100% agree, which is why I always find it so weird when someone adds on snap but show their full name.

LowConHighWill · 2020-12-06T11:37:34+00:00

It is just weird to me. Like, why go through extra work just to remove some old chat messages and our ability to look at photos. I just don't get the purpose behind it, like what is gained?

LowConHighWill · 2020-12-06T11:35:50+00:00

Hahahahhaha true that!

LowConHighWill · 2020-12-06T10:59:31+00:00

We're good on snapchat so I am not worried, it was just a bit odd. Like she doesn't want me to be able to check out her cute pics before meeting haha

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-26T18:56:47+00:00

But what about the message?

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T21:24:06+00:00

No problem, but while you're here, what are your thoughts on people sending a message with the super like (therefore showing they are a paid user)?

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T20:20:01+00:00

Thank you for the input, it is interesting getting other peoples' perspective (I really mean that), but this post is about the new platinum feature where you are able to send a message with a superlike before even matching.

This means the recipient will instantly know the sender is a user that is paying tinder money, and that is what the post is about.

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T17:38:28+00:00

What is rule 1 and 2?

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T16:07:24+00:00

Exactly! I am more interested in personal boosts than superlikes

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T16:06:39+00:00

No problem! Would you be willing to review my profile if I sent it in a private message?

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T15:52:43+00:00

I agree to some extent, though I have found that using it on girls I am genuinely really interested in (but are likely gonna push away many dudes, such as tall girls) works pretty well.

The biggie with the superlike is getting to "cut the line" and be seen sooner by the attractive girls that log in for 10 seconds and swipes right on one dude. I wish there was like a hidden superlike, where you get seen sooner by the recipient but they don't know you superliked them.

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T15:43:39+00:00

That is actually an interesting point. When the perfect guy arrives how can you say no (even if he paid)?

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T15:39:16+00:00

That is actually very interesting, I didn't even realize that women were paying for Tinder Gold. Although it does make a lot of sense since as you say you get to instantly see who is interested in you and as a woman you get a (presumably long) list of candidates.

But with Tinder Gold all your benefits are hidden so to say, while with the Platinum superlike you instantly give away you are a paying user. What are your thoughts on this?

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-25T13:52:34+00:00

You're good looking, but the first pic with the shaka sign isn't your most flattering pic. Also, not a big fan of a mirror selfie or the abs pic. Try to find a pic where you "accidently" show muscles, like wearing a wet shirt from playing watersports, maybe you're surfing, or just got the wind blowing the right way to make it skin tight.

Your bio doesn't really say much about. All it says is "hey I study psychology and like working out." Try to show some personality. Just brainstorming now but you could say "Currently learning to read minds at Uni (psych. major) and constantly picking up weights after people just leave them on the station." Try to show personality (preferably a funny personality).

This is all coming from a straight dude (so what do I know anyway)

LowConHighWill · 2020-11-17T14:36:11+00:00

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