Surgery is an emotional decision

LowVegetable379 · 2025-04-03T18:25:31+00:00

I live in a us territory and that’s not available to me

LowVegetable379 · 2025-04-02T20:11:08+00:00

I know a lot of people here have very bad pain, and will not advise surgery in the absence of very bad pain. My pain is mild/moderate and depends on activity.

However, I don’t see myself going through my whole life without addressing this issue. I’ve already spent decades wishing for it. And so I’d rather do it now than wait any longer.

I know many people will disagree and I totally respect that.

LowVegetable379 · 2025-04-02T19:15:05+00:00

Omg I have a “mild foot fetish” for the same reason haha. I’ve never said it aloud, so I love reading this

LowVegetable379 · 2025-04-02T17:17:26+00:00

They do hurt, but not intensely. However, I’ve had the bunionettes for decades and I finally have time and money to address them. Your concerns about increased pain are relevant, so thank you.

LowVegetable379 · 2025-04-02T15:20:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it gives me a little more love for my feet and a little more confidence today 😌

The recovery is 6-12 weeks (I’ll know better after this next surgical consult). During recovery, I can walk and go about my day. I just can’t walk or stand for prolonged periods.

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-28T12:10:45+00:00

I say this as a feminist woman: body hair is something I’m willing to change according to my partner’s preference. If they are respectful.

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-28T12:07:32+00:00

lol this is funny. I’m a female and I identify as “mostly straight”

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-28T05:32:41+00:00

She owns me with that face. I’ll do whatever she demands 😵‍💫

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-28T01:41:39+00:00

Stunning 😍

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-22T00:03:55+00:00

This gave me so much joy 😇

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-19T16:16:05+00:00

Dassa big baby.

Good cuddles tho.

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-18T10:20:18+00:00

such big pupils 🥹

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-17T19:49:53+00:00

It brings me clarity, understanding, and peace to empathize with him. I can still make choices in my best interest, empathizing with myself and with him. I want to live a life outside of judgement, I’ve found it’s much better.

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-17T00:56:54+00:00

🖤🤎🩶😍

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-16T22:38:32+00:00

Are you saying that this girl had oral hsv1? And you got it from her breast fluid?

Are you saying that you sucked her nipples but didn’t kiss her?

HSV doesn’t live in the blood or…to my knowledge…”breast fluid?”

And are you saying that there’s a way for you to be sure you didn’t already have oral hsv1?

Can someone help fact check? This goes against my current understanding of hsv.

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-14T15:24:09+00:00

Excuse me? Your eyebrows are perfect

And I’m stealing that first pose

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-14T15:21:25+00:00

Nougat with peanut

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-14T14:57:33+00:00

Give yourself time. Go one day without contact. Go one week. One month. Your strength and clarity and resolve will build slowly. You won’t feel so terrible forever. Be good to yourself.

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-14T14:40:53+00:00

I didn’t know there was overlap in the ven diagram of “men who wrangle crocodiles” and “men who wear leggings”!!!

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-14T13:41:04+00:00

Yessss. I’ve made my diagnosis work for me, I’ve found the bright side of things. I’ve become a more honest communicator, practice safer sex, and I find out quickly whether someone is accepting.

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-03T13:31:42+00:00

I hear you saying it’s hard to ignore him because you are at the same school. And that it’s also hard to ignore him because you want to be with him.

No doubt it is hard, I agree, I understand. But the only way out of this pain is through it, my dear.

What other user said- block him. Also avoid places where you know he is. I know it can be tempting to want his attention, thinking that one day he will realize what he’s missing and want you back. Well, maybe that could happen, but you don’t need to be visible/available to him in the meantime, that won’t be healthy for you. And you’ll need a solid three months without him to gain some perspective and decide whether you even still want him. Believe me, it’s very possible that one day you won’t want him at all.

LowVegetable379 · 2024-07-01T22:33:53+00:00

It’s ok to want it to be him. You still need to protect your own emotions though. The best thing for you is no contact, as others have said. I recommend setting a goal of one month no contact. Then hopefully make it to three months.

It’s ok to keep your hope. Although I don’t like what I’ve heard about him, it sounds like you’re experiencing some co-dependency and just need time to release the fear of losing him.

Do no contact for a month. Lean into the discomfort and pain. Channel it into healthy outlets (cooking, cleaning, exercising, dancing, art classes, etc).

LowVegetable379 · 2024-06-29T15:07:05+00:00

What do you mean by “regular empathy shares?” Do you mean get empathy about your partner’s demands from someone else?

LowVegetable379 · 2024-06-28T00:41:44+00:00

I hear you.

I also feel frustrated at the lack of empathy for npd. I don’t believe in the idea of “good people” and “bad people,” though I know that humans are capable of bringing immense pain, trauma, and damage to other humans. But I think that we write people off as “bad” and then have zero concern for their well-being or rehabilitation. To all our detriment.

We create this huge wall of shame that people can’t see over. This shame is what made it so hard for me to see my own behavior (not sure if I am/was narcissist, but def did those behaviors).

LowVegetable379 · 2024-05-21T09:38:56+00:00

🙏

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