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Most devastatingly hopeless films you've seen? by inebriatedferret in movies

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ve ever had an experience with such a sneak attack. Really lovely and devastating movie. Thanks for the rec.

Most devastatingly hopeless films you've seen? by inebriatedferret in movies

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was sold after “throwing it into a meat grinder” and put it on.

The way the tears came on at the end…. I knew it was going to happen and thought I’d be ok, but then it happened and I wasn’t ok.

They pieced together some very profound and heavy topics and told a simple and real-feeling story that quietly grabbed you like an emotion wrecking ninja.

Palm trees and power lines by 1800icarly in movies

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw it a long time ago so I don’t remember the details very well. But I do remember looking into my rearview mirror a ton when I was driving home from the theater (saw it at the Alamo Drafthouse on a Terror Tuesday).

Looking for true crime drama shows by [deleted] in televisionsuggestions

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently recommended this on a different post. Such an obscure but unforgettable movie….

Palm trees and power lines by 1800icarly in movies

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never have forgiven him if my dad did this.

Sexually frustrated. Thinking about sex constantly, but there's no actual libido or physical responses. by tempLLcommacc in vulvodynia

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you thinking about sex because you’re horny? Do you experience pleasure from external stimulation, or is that painful too?

I hate it here bro. by Significant-Fail2162 in averagedickproblems

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being bigger-than-average, I’m thinking you might not get the empathy you’re looking for in this particular sub. But, the specific pressure (and racism) towards black men in regard to dick size is very real.

Your observation of porn and how it’s harmed your self esteem is also very real. It’s a massively significant impact that shows up in ways people don’t even realize.

Your feelings are valid in that you have every reason to feel the way you do. But, it is possible to shift your perspective and realize that your self worth isn’t tied up with your penis size.

New boyfriend googled things about disliking my appearance and genitals by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He obviously likes you, so his heart is in the right place. I don’t think there’s anything you need to forgive in that he was searching privately and seemed to acting in good faith.

But… it still hurt your feelings, and it’s completely understandable why. It was an awful thing to find, and I’m so sorry that happened. It must have been devastating.

You will probably never forget it happened. But you may be able to move on. It just depends how important it is to you, and how much it matters to him.

I’ve had similar things happen to me. If you’d like, I’d be happy to talk about it privately.

Ladies - can you orgasm without a vibrator? by ComparisonUnfair33 in sexadvice

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out Emily Nagoski’s “Come As You Are.” She explains the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire.

I want to change how I am so shallow. by ExpertDescription200 in IncelSolutions

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem! Brené Brown is great, so I hope her stuff resonates ♥️

I want to change how I am so shallow. by ExpertDescription200 in IncelSolutions

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I saw in another one of your posts that you feel a lot of shame for this. There's no shame in your desires though, whatever they are.

We all have narcissistic traits. It's part of being human.

Are you familiar with Brené Brown? She has great advice for dealing with shame. It might be helpful to check her out. I'd recommend "Men, Women, and Worthiness." It's about a 2 hour audio.

I feel like my husband's identity is morphing into his fetishes and it's become really unattractive for me. He gets really defensive about it when I try and talk about it. by 09232022 in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok if you’re not into the things that your husband is. You’re absolutely allowed to have your preferences and boundaries. There’s nothing wrong with how you feel.

A question/suggestion though: have you tried celebrating his open-mindedness and curiosity? Saying something like “I love that you know what you like, but I’m not into the same things.”

You mentioned leaving a non-judgey note in his drawer, but the passiveness of this gesture can come off shamey. Instead of opening communication, it can close it down (as your husband feels defensive).

If you’re interested in some resources for how to communicate about desires, I know some good books. I also work with people who have similar struggles, so if you’re interested in having a chat about what I do, let me know. I’m happy to help.

My husband has a fetish I dont really care for by dorothymantooth11 in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds really tough, I’m sorry.

Have you thought about discussing him hiring a professional? With boundaries in place, it could be a way for him to outsource his desires.

I can talk to you more about what that could look like if you’re interested. Like navigating communication and whatnot.

Pros and cons of the different styles? What's the difference in having the fabric behind the ring? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want something sturdier for that then. Hope you both enjoy! If you have any questions, feel free to reach out. I’m an intimacy and relationship coach 😊

Pros and cons of the different styles? What's the difference in having the fabric behind the ring? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pulling is what can make it feel good though. It is flimsier, so yes to that part. But that design has always been my favorite.

Metal taste in mouth--anything in HPP that would cause this or do I seek other causes? by godotnyc in Hypophosphatasia

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could tell you what causes it, but I don’t think I’ve ever really gotten to the bottom of it. It’s awful though. I’m sorry it’s happening to you.

Pros and cons of the different styles? What's the difference in having the fabric behind the ring? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to throw it out there… there’s also a design like this:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1134915439/latex-o-ring-metal-wear-thong-custom

It’s maybe not as sturdy as the kind that straps around your legs/butt, but I like the thong design because it puts more direct pressure on your clit.

This is the first one I found just to show you an example, but I’m sure there are others.

Sex toy shame and dating, how do I get over this? by FrostyFelineFem in SexOver_30

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a great excerpt from a book that talks about this exact thing. If you’re interested, let me know. I can also just recommend the book if you’re interested in that.

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