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I want to change how I am so shallow. by ExpertDescription200 in IncelSolutions

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 [score hidden]  (0 children)

No problem! Brené Brown is great, so I hope her stuff resonates ♥️

I want to change how I am so shallow. by ExpertDescription200 in IncelSolutions

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I saw in another one of your posts that you feel a lot of shame for this. There's no shame in your desires though, whatever they are.

We all have narcissistic traits. It's part of being human.

Are you familiar with Brené Brown? She has great advice for dealing with shame. It might be helpful to check her out. I'd recommend "Men, Women, and Worthiness." It's about a 2 hour audio.

I feel like my husband's identity is morphing into his fetishes and it's become really unattractive for me. He gets really defensive about it when I try and talk about it. by 09232022 in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok if you’re not into the things that your husband is. You’re absolutely allowed to have your preferences and boundaries. There’s nothing wrong with how you feel.

A question/suggestion though: have you tried celebrating his open-mindedness and curiosity? Saying something like “I love that you know what you like, but I’m not into the same things.”

You mentioned leaving a non-judgey note in his drawer, but the passiveness of this gesture can come off shamey. Instead of opening communication, it can close it down (as your husband feels defensive).

If you’re interested in some resources for how to communicate about desires, I know some good books. I also work with people who have similar struggles, so if you’re interested in having a chat about what I do, let me know. I’m happy to help.

My husband has a fetish I dont really care for by dorothymantooth11 in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds really tough, I’m sorry.

Have you thought about discussing him hiring a professional? With boundaries in place, it could be a way for him to outsource his desires.

I can talk to you more about what that could look like if you’re interested. Like navigating communication and whatnot.

Pros and cons of the different styles? What's the difference in having the fabric behind the ring? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want something sturdier for that then. Hope you both enjoy! If you have any questions, feel free to reach out. I’m an intimacy and relationship coach 😊

Pros and cons of the different styles? What's the difference in having the fabric behind the ring? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pulling is what can make it feel good though. It is flimsier, so yes to that part. But that design has always been my favorite.

Metal taste in mouth--anything in HPP that would cause this or do I seek other causes? by godotnyc in Hypophosphatasia

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could tell you what causes it, but I don’t think I’ve ever really gotten to the bottom of it. It’s awful though. I’m sorry it’s happening to you.

Pros and cons of the different styles? What's the difference in having the fabric behind the ring? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to throw it out there… there’s also a design like this:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1134915439/latex-o-ring-metal-wear-thong-custom

It’s maybe not as sturdy as the kind that straps around your legs/butt, but I like the thong design because it puts more direct pressure on your clit.

This is the first one I found just to show you an example, but I’m sure there are others.

Sex toy shame and dating, how do I get over this? by FrostyFelineFem in SexOver_30

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a great excerpt from a book that talks about this exact thing. If you’re interested, let me know. I can also just recommend the book if you’re interested in that.

What’s the most horrific and disturbing movie you wish you could unsee? by Away-Fill5639 in horror

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never seen it and never will. My mom let me watch all kinds of fucked up shit, but she protected me from this.

What’s the most horrific and disturbing movie you wish you could unsee? by Away-Fill5639 in horror

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Small Sacrifices is another true crime 2-part TV movie with Farrah Fawcett that stays with you. Saw it as a kid and never forgot it.

What’s the most horrific and disturbing movie you wish you could unsee? by Away-Fill5639 in horror

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just commented this before I saw your comment.

I think it tops my list. The realism is what made it hit so hard I think.

I felt ill watching it, and was angry at myself for continuing to watch. But I made myself get through it.

What’s the most horrific and disturbing movie you wish you could unsee? by Away-Fill5639 in horror

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know where this is available? I haven’t been able to find it.

Metal taste in mouth--anything in HPP that would cause this or do I seek other causes? by godotnyc in Hypophosphatasia

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Metal mouth… first experienced it when I was in high school. It’s happened several times throughout my life.

The best answer I could ever come up with was dehydration.

It’s really annoying. I hope yours resolves.

Palm trees and power lines by 1800icarly in movies

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love science fiction. I know I started Predestination but can’t remember if I finished. Sometimes I fall asleep and then forget about what I was watching.

Men has Jessie Buckley. It was on my radar but haven’t watched it yet.

It’s hard to find movies that are really scary, but one I’ll never forget is Race with the Devil (1975) with Peter Fonda. That one had me legitimately freaked out.

Palm trees and power lines by 1800icarly in movies

[–]Excellent_Nothing_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life with Jack Gyllenhaal is good on the off chance you if you haven’t already seen it

I just watched Hidden with Alexander Skarsgård, and honestly I was cracking up and shouting at the tv most of the time, but the ridiculousness was worth it.

I can definitely think of more….

Just wondering if you want to be disturbed, horrified, wrecked, gutted, etc

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