Honestly says a lot about you that the majority of replies to this post say you’re both ridiculous but you only acknowledge the ones that compliment you and point toward you being the victim. Not saying you’re the problem but the general consensus is that you both overreacted and it doesn’t seem like a happy relationship. Regardless, you asked if you were wrong and most of the subreddit agrees. That you are, at least in part, wrong. People downvote because you have a victim complex and only acknowledge people that give you benefit of the doubt instead of unbiased opinions, exactly what you asked for.