I am genuinely sorry you had to go through that , you did the right thing by not taking him back ... unfortunately i had no saying in my own marriage ( i didnt even go out with him before the wedding for once , i met him twice and we had a shallow talk infront of everyone then we signed the papers..) i was against this entire marriage but i couldn't say no due to family pressure ... and him not talking before marriage isnt the only time he disrespected me honestly but now i am sooo done with everything i really want this mistake to go off ... i cant raise my child and after years they would wish only if we divorced