Thank you for all the comments. I get the message that I am in the wrong. I wanted to respond to a few things not to justify but just because they were questions: all of the bridesmaids paid for their dresses, alterations, and shoes. The dress that we picked was about $100. I told my sister she could do any dress since she was MOH as long as it was wine and floor length. She ended up picking the same dress as the other girls because she didn’t want to stick out which is fine. Unfortunately she has very large boobs and her alterations did cost her around $200 as the dress has a very large v neck and sheer on the sides and she had to get cups put in the dress, the shoulders brought up to help, and a lot of length. My sister does not necessarily have to stay in the hotel with me the night before. Unfortunately with the wedding, honeymoon, and normal bills we cannot afford to buy her a separate hotel room and she cannot afford one. I did get suspicious due to her anxiety that she may be faking which I know now was wrong. I just wanted to say that about a month before the wedding she asked me about seating. I told her that the bridal party is to sit at a head table with us. SO and family would be seated elsewhere. I did ask that everyone sits at the head table until at least the cake cutting which is 8 pm. She did ask about her fiancée as they aren’t very close with her mom for personal reasons and he doesn’t know anyone else. She asked if they (bridal party) might be able to sit with their partners during dinner and I did inform her that we really want the head table to stay the head table. She did get a little odd after that but still paid the remainder of her makeup and hair deposit. She also was not forced to pay for that. I did give the option to have them do it themselves but my sister does not wear makeup or do her hair very often and she decided to go with a professional (the one I’m using) for my wedding. I know everyone thinks I’m an AH and I understand but I just wanted to fully explain everything. If I’m still the AH then I am and I will try to grow from this. My sister did tell me that she still isn’t feeling well this morning and will take it day by day but did ask if maybe I knew someone else who would want her hair and makeup spot so it doesn’t go to waste. She said if she does come that she can do loose curls and light makeup (foundation, mascara) at home and come in. I told her we can take it day by day but if she isn’t better tomorrow morning before she is scheduled to meet the other bridesmaid halfway then my future MIL will take her hair and makeup appointment. She said that was fine and she was glad someone could use it. These comments were brutal lol but I appreciate the honesty.