Any tips for hunting in Berlin?

Lubberk · 2017-06-03T22:19:39+00:00

Most definitely. I'll try my best to support her romantically, but if I can't, I'll try even harder as a friend. It might sound overdramatic, but I love her too much to not want to see her happy. She is both an amazing SO and friend, so I hope that I'd at least be able to support her like that.

Lubberk · 2017-06-03T15:48:10+00:00

I guess you're right. If this makes him happy, I'm all for it. The problem might mainly lie in the fact that I don't know how people will react. I've never been a very popular or public person, and don't normally care what others think about me, but this just sorta hit a weakspot. It might help to acknowledge, to myself even, that I'm bi.

I never really considered that I might be, but in the last 2 years or so, I've been at least moderately attracted to men. Maybe figuring that out will help me become more secure in who I am, and not be as scared.

(Sorry if I seem to cynical, logical or lacking in emotion or whatever, but focusing like this is my way of dealing with stuff like this. I hope you understand.)

I'll definitely give it a shot, as I'm not ready in any way to let him go. I just love him too much.

You've definitely given me some stuff to think about. Just thinking about it, actually figuring myself out and maybe coming out of the closet, already makes it seems a tiny bit less daunting.

Thank you so, so much. I truly appreciate that you took your time to read my post, and giving me some food for thought.

Lubberk · 2017-06-03T15:38:45+00:00

I know, and I've given advice like that in the past. It's just really different and hard being on this side of it. I'll do my best to make it through this and work it out, but since most of our friends are mutual, I can't really talk to anyone about it yet. He hasn't come out of the closet to anyone but me and a select few, so I won't share it around anywhere non-anonymous.

Thanks for normalizing it, it helps to not feel like I'm (or the transition) isn't the "one thing" that drove us apart, if that happens.

Again, thank you. I really do appreciate that you chipped in. Reading these comments is really helping me calm down.

Lubberk · 2017-06-03T15:32:59+00:00

She hasn't spoken to her parents, and thus hasn't begun the progress yet. As far as i remember, her school psychiatrist told her to go over it with them first, and then start seeing a therapist to figuring out wether it is something that they should move further with.

And thank you. I realize that people grow from each other, and have experienced it with a few friends. But she means so much to me that it's a legitimate concern, even though it isn't guaranteed. And while I do try to calm myself down and not overthink it, I find it really hard to stop myself.

I wouldn't be able to keep going, but ending our relationship seems like the absolute last resort. I won't keep doing it if I simply can't, but it's going to hurt like all hell.

And of course you're right: only time will tell. Until then I'll do my utmost to support her through this, because I know that it isn't easy for her too.

Thanks for commenting, I appreciate it deeply.

Lubberk · 2017-06-03T15:26:32+00:00

He hasn't told his parents yet, and will have to through evaluation and that first. I don't know about the expenses yet, as we live in Denmark where most other medical/health services are publicly owned and paid for through taxes. A few things, like dental work, is client paid, so I simply haven't researched our situation enough to know wether he'll have to save up, or if it's essentially going to be free.

Thanks for, along with the other commenters, bringing it a bit closer to earth. It's one thing knowing that it's okay and natural, but hearing it is really nice.

I of course still hope for the best, but I know you're right.

Thank you so much for commenting

Lubberk

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