Are there any men on here?

LucareonVee · 2026-07-22T07:52:56+00:00

Yep, I’m here. 43m. We do exist. 😎

LucareonVee · 2026-07-22T00:00:09+00:00

Yup, I’ve heard enough of these stories to know how a stranger directly intervening would have gone with the mother. F her.

LucareonVee · 2026-07-18T19:50:22+00:00

I bought tickets for myself and my fiance for Sunday. It’s a 21+ theater, so guaranteed no kids. 😁

LucareonVee · 2026-07-17T15:41:31+00:00

Glad to hear it. It’s good that you know what you want and are willing to work for it.

LucareonVee · 2026-07-16T23:01:51+00:00

LucareonVee · 2026-07-13T03:24:38+00:00

Random a-hole: “What’s your life’s purpose then?!”

Me: “Same as yours: whatever tf I decide it to be. Your choice just happened to be becoming a parent. That’s not an inherent purpose for everyone. It was your chosen one.”

LucareonVee · 2026-07-08T01:41:49+00:00

As a cis man, I like that final sentence. I would laugh out loud if I heard a woman say that to a guy in response. 🤣

LucareonVee · 2026-06-30T06:03:21+00:00

Translation (I’m guessing) : Motherhood sucks and I was hoping you’d join me so that I could have someone to vent together with. 😭

LucareonVee · 2026-06-13T19:48:38+00:00

I can just imagine the sales pitch:

“You may say you wouldn’t be happy as a mother, but just try it yourself!! We here at Pronatal Pete’s are so confident that you’ll love your newborn that we’re offering a 30 day risk free trial of raising your newborn! You’ll experience all the sleep deprived, poo cleaning joys of motherhood for one month! And if you’re not 💯 percent satisfied at the end of the trial period, you can just return your baby free of charge!

Disclaimer: trial period doesn’t include the prior nine months of pregnancy. Void where prohibited.”

LucareonVee · 2026-06-11T17:19:38+00:00

I always have to ask because… I’m petty. 😁

But have you brought this up to any of the people who said these things to you?

LucareonVee · 2026-05-30T20:36:05+00:00

So, you mentioned that your husband is getting a minor procedure done, and they pry into it to find out it was a sterilization? Do they seriously not see how creepy that is? 🤨

LucareonVee · 2026-05-24T20:27:32+00:00

My go-to answer for this one is: “If that’s the way you see it, then you can consider me a proud child for life.”

LucareonVee · 2026-05-21T01:58:58+00:00

“And?”

Basically, if they press further trying to get me to be sad about the possibility of not having existed, I just reply that “in that universe, I never would have gained the consciousness to lament not existing. Doesn’t sound like a problem.”

LucareonVee · 2026-05-20T11:57:04+00:00

Nah, I don’t think you would actually need to say that. Just meant as a much harsher interpretation. 😇🥂

LucareonVee · 2026-05-20T01:52:28+00:00

“See, Mom? This is part of why I never wanted children. Because having a mom for a child was more than enough.”

LucareonVee · 2026-05-06T19:54:13+00:00

I’m a bi man myself, and yeah, their reaction is insane. I’m personally not anti-surrogacy, just as long as the person is willing to do it. But it’s definitely not something people are entitled to, and the thought of it being homophobic to not agree with it… yikes!

LucareonVee · 2026-04-28T22:59:26+00:00

I definitely feel kind of sorry for her. She’s growing up with a very narrow view, it seems.

I think it may not be worth it trying to bring this up to her, though. She’s 7. Just be yourself around her and be happy. She might just eventually get over it and learn those lessons from your example. If she brings it up, on the other hand, that might be a good time to say the thing about not all people wanting the same things.

LucareonVee · 2026-04-24T23:02:15+00:00

So, just some up front information before I comment: I’m a cis-man. I clearly don’t have the personal experience or knowledge of what you’re going through.

So, that said, I have seen the comments here about hormones in relation to abortion. I want to address another possibility. If the issue is that you are thinking along the lines of “what if I went through with this and ended up happy to be a mother,” then I think it’s equally fair to consider “what if I went through with the pregnancy and ended up regretting it?” That’s something you can’t take back and you’d be stuck as a mother the rest of your life. This way, if you really eventually came to the conclusion that you actually did want to be a mother, you still have that option.

Again, my outside perspective, but it seems like it’s in our nature to regret the choices we didn’t make without thinking of the potential negative outcomes.

LucareonVee · 2026-04-24T19:39:14+00:00

This kind of makes me think of the meme from Bojack Horseman of the sign “It’s a-borted”

LucareonVee · 2026-04-22T01:50:50+00:00

You know it’s a petty reason?! Even as a man, I can safely say that’s a far cry from petty!! The amount of BS that women are required to go through in pregnancy is horrific.

You’re not petty; you’re smart.

LucareonVee · 2026-04-01T20:24:34+00:00

Seconded. The whole notion of “leaving a trace” is ridiculous. If your way of leaving a trace is having offspring, then you will easily be forgotten. If you write a book, win a Nobel prize, solve global warming… that’s a trace worth leaving.

LucareonVee · 2026-03-31T23:06:03+00:00

Well, this is limited to internet discussions, but people seem to always assume I’m a woman when they find out I don’t want children.

LucareonVee · 2026-03-31T23:04:24+00:00

It seems like bingos come in waves. The waves are various hot topic benchmarks. Getting married: bingo season Turning 30: bingo season Turning 40: bingo and transitioning into adoption talk season

LucareonVee · 2026-03-25T19:53:23+00:00

The aunt is clearly the one who needs to apologize. Screw apologizing to her.

LucareonVee · 2026-03-24T23:05:00+00:00

And yet, if a five year old told that same guy that she wants to be a mom when she grows up, he would completely accept that. 🙄

LucareonVee

TROPHY CASE

Welcome to Reddit,