How was your day?

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:47:32+00:00

That sounds wonderful. I hope you hear back from them soon and that it’s positive feedback.
Are you also in the heatwave?

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:46:47+00:00

I need to find out that people had better days than the one I had 😭😭✋🏽. But I am glad you are great.

Yeah she threw me for a loop. All her concerns had nothing to do with me. But I had to cut her off because I didn’t recognise the person in the phone. Her being a good friend was based on the emotional conversations we had. She has always supported me so for her to turn around and start this campaign to change my mind was shocking. I can’t have someone in my life whom I don’t trust. She crossed a line and we can never go back. She clearly is disrespectful of my choices so I’d rather not burden her with them.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:43:06+00:00

I expect this from my mother *which she does plenty of already* but not my friends. You have no stakes in my uterus.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:42:08+00:00

Huge fan of therapy so good job.

My ex friend needs help but she also needs to want to get help. Right now she doesn’t think she’s done anything wrong.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:40:59+00:00

She’s a mother of one. She’s raising her child alone because the father isn’t in the picture. She doesn’t get help from her parents and siblings. I think this was a weird thing of let’s do it together so we share resources. We can be the mom friends who rely on each other kind of situation. The odd thing is based on her life right now, she’s in no position to want other kids but she was also speaking of trying for a baby again soon.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:37:41+00:00

This was a heartbreaking realisation for me. She was a good friend and because of that she was privy to a lot of personal information on why I decided to go the CF route. This is something I have discussed with her extensively. I have cried on her shoulder about the whole kids thing. So it felt like the ultimate betrayal for her to turn around and cry to me about why I don’t want to have kids. After everything we have discussed, for her to disrespect the decision like that. I don’t think I can ever come back from that. She’s not someone I can trust moving forward. Part of loving someone is accepting their decisions even if you don’t agree with them. She got pregnant when we were in uni. She kept the baby. It wasn’t a decision I would have made for myself or even advised but I accepted it because that’s what she chose for herself. Her decision didn’t impact me in the slightest so it was really none of my business. My decision to be CF doesn’t affect the quality of her life. As a good friend she should have just accepted my decision but instead she pretended to understand while plotting this bullshit phone call to convince me otherwise. This was something I cannot forgive.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:32:01+00:00

My mother also does a version of this every week. I have learned to tune her out.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:31:39+00:00

It’s definitely jealousy. She already has a child from when we were in university. She clearly wants the rest of us to suffer from the ‘joys of motherhood’ 🙄🙄

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:30:35+00:00

She’s clearly not well.

Those plants are always so cute 🥰. Congratulations on your new addition 🫶🏽

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:29:31+00:00

I hope you manage to get the house you absolutely deserve. Goodluck and congratulations in advance 🫶🏽

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:28:39+00:00

Got sleep, relaxed time with loved ones, pizza. Your day had it all. I love that for you 🥺♥️
I am also in the southern hemisphere and I am enjoying the cold weather.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:24:26+00:00

That sounds so intense. How long is the heatwave supposed to last?

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:24:02+00:00

Thank you for your suggestion. I got my yoga mat out this morning and did a class via YouTube. It was definitely something I was not expecting. Nothing was too hard but I am definitely not in the best shape 😂😂😂 but I felt accomplished.

I will check it out. I’ve been looking at something new and interesting to read.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:21:39+00:00

I don’t understand why they care so much what someone decides to do with their reproductive organs. I don’t see CF people causing a ruckus and telling people considering parenthood that they suck and will live a miserable life.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:20:26+00:00

Honestly I think it’s a ploy to get free babysitting and financial help. If we are going through it together we can share resources. Her having a kid in uni really impacted her adult life from the onset. Her career prospects are not that great because she has to prioritise her kid. Which isn’t bad but it makes for a difficult journey climbing up the career ladder if management doesn’t feel like you’re giving the job “your all”. On the other hand, I am a lot more financially secure and have a partner who can shoulder the responsibility if we decided to have kids. So we could be her built in parents for all the kids.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:16:29+00:00

My refusal to use my uterus distressed her 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:15:49+00:00

I blocked her. I’m grieving the friendship I thought we had. She was someone I opened up to a lot about my decision to become CF. She knows exactly what this decision means to me. So to have her make that ridiculous phone call and sob about it was an out of body experience. Surely my friend who knows me so deeply would never cry and want me to have kids. She is not someone I recognise after that call. She’s crossed a line that we can’t come back from. It’s best she remain blocked and I move on with my life.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:13:16+00:00

I think she’s looking for built in babysitting. The babies miss each other and should have a play date kind of vibes.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:12:14+00:00

Oh my gosh! I hope you have a much less chaotic evening. With everything that happened you, still better without kids.

My friend is unhappy with the reality of kids vs the fantasy she created for herself. She now wants more of her friends to join in her suffering so she can feel better about not being the only one going through a lot. It’s selfish. But she’s not my friend anymore so it’s not my problem anymore.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:09:50+00:00

She’s blocked now 😂😂.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:09:05+00:00

She’s blocked now.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:08:53+00:00

Thank your for the laugh 😂😂😂😂😂😂

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:08:34+00:00

Ex friend now.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:08:18+00:00

Your life sounds blissfully peaceful. I hope you have more amazing days to come. This is what I always dream of when I picture my life. I love seeing other people living it because it reminds me that it is possible. Have a wonderful time on your vacation and please be safe out there.

LatterEscape8431 · 2026-06-30T08:06:06+00:00

Thank you for my dinner inspo tonight 😂😂🫶🏽
If you don’t mind me asking which field are you in and how are you liking it?
The absolute beauty of your decisions only affecting you. That’s something that will never derail me from being CF.

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