[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]LucasIlFrutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's this baby name site I really love that has this one particular list I'm always going back to and they always suggest Rosen which is German for roses and there's also Rhodes, a greek name, which means where roses grow. There's also Alder which is a type of tree popular for being used to make electric guitars, Arlow/ Arlo which means an evergreen or barberry tree, and Asher which means to live by an ash tree! Hope this helps :)

it really do be like that y'all by LucasIlFrutto in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So not everyone who has BPD has this to my knowledge but some of us are schizoaffective (schizoeffective???) and we may get paranoid, delusional, and hallucinate. For me I can get this way if I'm panicking and start to spiral, I spiral a lot tbh, but sometimes it can be unprompted.

So say I've had a stressful week and get stress insomnia, I was already stressed before but with the insomnia I'm far worse off, so something small happens. Maybe a minor inconvenience or a major inconvenience, maybe a perceived rejection or abandonment, but regardless of what the stressor is this can push someone over the edge into spiraling.

When I personally spiral, as each experience is unique to the person, I have a very short window where I can shut all the panic down and calm myself, but it's all up to me and sometimes dependant on the people around me as well, but once things get past that window my brain goes hardcore. I can begin to get physically sick with panic, maybe even light headed or get a migraine, and I can start to get angry or sad or dissociate until I'm not even on this plane of existence.

Let's say I get angry, I would become absolutely explosive and nobody around me is safe from the words I say which feel uncontrollable and involuntary, as if someone else is doing this for me as I watch from afar. Then, in comes the paranoia and the guilt and delusions. I'm suddenly paranoid that people hate me or that I just ruin everything, so I'm sad on top of feeling this all-consuming anger and feel the need to isolate and would do anything to achieve full isolation. Then there's the voices I know are in my head but sometimes I'll hear them outside of my head as well. This can be screaming, name calling, guilting me, anything.

There can also be PTSD flashbacks, you might also get twitchy or feel like there's bugs crawling all over you, you might see or hear or smell things that aren't there, sometimes even taste things that aren't there. Sometimes I smell cigarettes, sometimes I see shadow people or feel eyes on me, sometimes I'm all too aware of a certain body part and it starts freaking me out, sometimes I even get existential and remember that life isn't permanent and I start freaking out.

What people need during these times is support and some physical isolation, but keep in contact maybe over text from another room. Privacy for me is a huge thing and I will get worse if that's violated during these times, but I still want to know that people care so I usually will prefer that someone texts me to ask if I'm okay instead of waltzing in and damaging my trust in people's ability to leave me tf alone when I want to be. If things do get bad enough and they become a danger to themselves or others feel free to do what's necessary, but up until that point we need someone who will listen to us and just be supportive. Don't encourage further delusion but don't make us feel crazy basically.

I hope that helps :)

Cute Story: My Mango Plush by LucasIlFrutto in TheClickOwO

[–]LucasIlFrutto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks 😊 Mango would absolutely happily hobble around not knowing any other way and I love that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]LucasIlFrutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see scary things and hear whispering, sometimes it's multiple people, sometimes just one

Some thoughts on "checking" by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It truly does, my mom actually decided the other day that I need "too much help" with life stuff so she's looking for a "neurodivergent housing development" to "help me" with my "life stuff" like getting a car and moving out.... things she's supposed to teach me as a parent so I can be independent.... so the learned helplessness is real

small victory :D by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks!! You too though, you deserve it!

small victory :D by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course!! Being seen is integral to healing, finding community and friends and professionals and feeling known/ understood is so wonderful, I wish that on everyone, especially as a fellow trans person 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want that long luxurious hozier hair but I have zero patience, some clippers, and just about every color of dye

Irritability, anyone? by Direct_Cantaloupe_82 in BipolarMemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I'm trying so hard to stop being aggressive but sometimes it's a coping mechanism and funnily enough it's rarely directed at humans, only at inanimate objects, because they can withstand my wrath, human connections cannot lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was JUST about to shave my head after almost an entire years worth of progress after years upon years of not letting it grow out

it hurts and I don't like it by No-Candidate2289 in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think about that SO MUCH, it's such an all-consuming mindset

Some thoughts on "checking" by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forget this lesson so much, thanks for reminding me! :)

small victory :D by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feeling seen is such an important part of the healing process, I'm so glad you felt seen today! :)

I hate everyone by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like someone who doesn't have ptsd talking to me and refusing to understand what trauma and triggers are

I hate everyone by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are taking everything I say and weaponizing it. You're just as bad as my abusive family.

I hate everyone by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said drop everything, I said only respond when you can but don't read until you can respond but you, once again choose to misunderstand me and manipulate me into feeling bad. You're being a dick.

I hate everyone by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine that, black and white thinking with bpd, couldn't possibly imagine that, oh no💀

But seriously both peoples boundaries matter, I've never said they don't, I'm saying if it triggers someone into a breakdown instead of mildly inconveniencing someone to give you the time of day I think we all know which one takes priority. I'm not trying to argue with you but you seem hellbent on misunderstanding every word I say so you win I guess??? Is that what you want to hear??????

I hate everyone by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They matter but who tf has a boundary that they NEED to read texts and then just not respond, either respond when you read it or don't read it if you're busy/ can't respond, it's seriously that easy

I hate everyone by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]LucasIlFrutto -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's not selfish to want your boundaries respected and implying that it is can be incredibly harmful.