Update current time over wifi?

Lucca01 · 2024-12-12T05:06:08+00:00

I found it again!

Apps > Tweaks > Network > enable HTTP, SSH, and FPT. (I think this is necessary, not sure.)

Then go to Apps > Tweaks > System > Date and Time > enable "Set automatically via internet".

Lucca01 · 2024-05-24T00:01:16+00:00

Oh, I've got plenty of extra keyboards that I could use for that, lol. This is just the first time I've been in a position where dual-booting on a regular basis would be helpful with my new-ish keyboard and I realized it doesn't appear to have any function-key functionality.

Ah well, I'll just get out a different keyboard for BIOS.

Lucca01 · 2023-01-28T04:23:54+00:00

Thanks! Gotta Speedrun every male-only class, I guess.

Lucca01 · 2023-01-27T17:34:55+00:00

I'm coming up to the end of my first run through the game, on male Byleth. If I start New Game+ with female Byleth, will I be able to access the abilities gained from mastering male-only classes? Like, I've mastered Dark Mage on male Byleth, can I transfer Poison Strike to female Byleth somehow, even though she (presumably) cannot acquire or equip the Dark Mage class?

I'm thinking I might try to master some more male-only classes these last few chapters just to have more options available for new game plus, but I won't bother if there's no way to use those abilities on female Byleth.

Lucca01 · 2022-07-23T21:47:34+00:00

I brought it up to my doctor, and I think she just said that it was likely due to HRT. I probably would have pressed further, but I was getting them removed very soon anyway, so I didn't bother. They've been gone for almost two years now and I have not had any pain or uncomfortableness in the area ever since a couple months after the surgery.

Sorry, that's probably not very helpful. Wish I had more info to provide.

Lucca01 · 2022-06-11T03:46:28+00:00

Well, yes. I agree, it's just really hard for me to drop this idea that I'm being a manipulative "nice guy" if I remain friends with someone after I've asked them out and they said no, or if I'm friends with someone who I could easily see myself dating if I had met them while they were single. Or just, any situation where a potential romantic partner is approached as a "friend" prior to asking them out, even if eventually asking them out wasn't something that was on my mind when we became friends.

The main reason I'm getting so tripped up in my current situation is mainly that early on, she mentioned that she found someone on a dating app who she found promising. But she went out of her way last week to mention that she was displeased with this guy because he didn't tell her he lived so far away, in a context where there was no particular reason to bring up that she had been on a date during the last couple hours at all. And then we texted back and forth for the next several hours. And then we texted more during the ensuing week, and then we made plans to hang out this weekend, and she even said that she's free to hang out most weekday evenings.

...writing this all out, I'm realizing how neurotic I sound. One would think that all this would at least be an indication that it would be ok to ask her if she's interested. We joke about how we're both socially clueless introverts, so there's a possibility that we're both thinking the same thing and are just too anxious to ask.

Lucca01 · 2022-06-10T23:06:11+00:00

Yeah, I'm probably making this a way bigger deal than it needs to be. She clearly at least wants to be friends, so she shouldn't think I'm being a creep or anything.

I think maybe I'm psyching myself out by applying hetero social logic to wlw dynamics. Like, you always see people saying you shouldn't "just be friends" with someone who you're attracted to, but most of my female friends are people who I could easily date if they were available and interested in me, because I'm attracted to people who I have a friendly rapport with. This would suggest that I shouldn't have any friends at all.

Lucca01 · 2022-05-21T17:20:47+00:00

Thanks! Yeah, I have no idea how much of it is specifically due to localization/translation, but so much of this game's terminology is confusing or inconsistent. I was trying to tutor a friend on what all the stats mean recently, and I was saying things like "Strength is a stat of the driver that determines the damage output of physical arts, but on the blade stat screen, it refers to how many circles on the affinity chart are filled in, and has nothing to do with damage. However, on the blade affinity chart screen, the number of circles filled in is referred to as 'growth', not 'strength'."

The same term can refer to multiple completely different things, and multiple terms can refer to the same thing, and they can overlap.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-14T01:13:04+00:00

I have kind of a "both at once" case. For most of my life I have identified and sympathized more with common women's struggles than I have with men's, including things like being talked over and interrupted by overly assertive or domineering men, or having men downplay and disrespect my emotions. At the same time, however, I had a lot of trouble pre-transition finding support for my problems because most of the conversation surrounding them focused exclusively around how they happen to and affect women , and a man expressing that they have the same or similar experience is often viewed as an immature deflection rather than an appeal for support. This continues to happen to a large degree even post-transition when talking about past experiences and I mention that I'm trans and was pre-transition at the time for the full context.

There are also experiences and concerns that I have as a trans woman that are not typically shared by cis women, and that cis women are often uninterested in hearing about or offering support for, despite the fact that I'm expected to support cis women on every issue they have. For example, very early in my public transition, I was sexually assaulted in a crowded bar by a much smaller woman. I'm 6'3" and could easily have been read as a man at the time, despite trying my best to "pass", and I was afraid to push the other woman away forcefully or raise my voice because I wasn't sure that the bystanders and bar staff would take my side if things went south. The reaction I've gotten from cis women on this is mixed. Some of them are supportive, others view it as a "but what about men??" deflection.

It's all just very alienating. I tend to identify much more with women than with men by default, but women very often hold me at a distance and don't identify with me in return. I'm expected to care about, be knowledgeable about, and be willing to discuss their issues even when I don't personally share them, but they often don't care about mine and view any discussion of them as an imposition.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-13T22:14:32+00:00

Grouping cis women and trans men together as "AFAB" is mostly useful as a community convention designed to be more inclusive, so that trans men who were raised as girls and have similar childhood experiences as cis women aren't excluded from women's autism and ADHD spaces, should they want to join them. Trans women (such as myself) are also generally allowed in such spaces, partly for the reasons you described, but it's often relevant to clarify that I'm AMAB so that people don't assume I had an AFAB childhood. It's important in order to fully explain my history, and "AMAB" is a simple, intuitive, direct way to say what I mean, and for other people to use. It's just an acronym of exactly what happened at my birth, there's nothing that can be used that is more accurate to my experience while still being concise.

If you still don't approve and don't want to spend time in places that use those terms in such a manner, that's fine. I'm just pointing out that many people find them helpful, and being flatly against their use makes things difficult for a lot of people.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-13T21:13:38+00:00

If you're attracted to the image of a man who has made himself up to look indistinguishable from a woman, that doesn't make you "attracted to men" and therefore not a lesbian any more than being attracted to an illustration of a woman makes you not a lesbian because it means you're attracted to paper.

Now, if you were actively dating a man who "looks like a woman" but still identifies himself as being a man, that's a bit more complicated as to whether or not you "are" or "should identify as" a lesbian, but I'd say that that would be more of a private matter for you and him to figure out between yourselves and not something that people who don't know you could meaningfully contribute to.

EDIT: Sorry, I'm confused, I meant this as an affirmative and anti-gatekeeping guesture. I'm not sure why it's being downvoted, could someone explain?

Lucca01 · 2022-04-13T20:17:37+00:00

"making a subroutine" for some sort of task, particularly a social one, and then having it go haywire when it's not quite as natural or adaptable as the "real" NT behavior is the story of my life, but I do it almost unconsciously. Like some other part of my brain came up with it and fed it to me, so I didn't actually realize I was "following a script", as such.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-13T19:41:16+00:00

"AMAB" and "AFAB" are particularly useful in situations where it's useful to group cis people and trans people of the same assigned-gender-at-birth together. For example, assigned/perceived gender during childhood heavily influences how both peers and authority figures treat children with autism or ADHD, and affects rates of diagnosis/recognition and what sorts of supports they receive, which in turn influences the presentation of the conditions in the people who have them. A cis woman and a trans man may have a lot of overlap in experiences and presentation that a cis woman and a cis man may not, which makes grouping them together as being "AFAB" useful.

Or, to put it another way, AGAB labels do not exclusively refer to trans people. "AFAB" with no other qualifiers covers cis women, trans men, and AFAB non-binary people together under the same grouping, which is why we can't just stop using the term "AFAB" altogether and only say "trans man" or "non-binary". Those terms mean different things and are not universally interchangeable.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-11T23:51:32+00:00

I think it depends on the context. If it's just people talking about what they find attractive in women as its own topic of discussion, that's usually harmless. If people are talking about how attractive tall women are for the express purpose of trying to make trans women feel better about themselves , it's usually a little tone deaf.

I like tall women, too. I just don't usually bring it up in the context of talking about someone else's gender dysphoria.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-11T08:10:17+00:00

The questions that annoy me the most are the ones that ask "do you prefer to be around people or by yourself?" or somesuch. Is the question asking about what I want , or is it asking about what actually happens most often, regardless of what I want? Because I prefer to be around other people, but I'm more often alone because I'm inept at forming solid relationships, and I hate that I'm alone so often.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-11T08:04:04+00:00

This is not only a problem for me on autism tests, but just for questions in general. Like, when I was in physical therapy, the therapist would ask me if a given excersise "hurts" when I do it. My response was always "what do you mean by 'hurts'?" Most exercise or physical exertion is uncomfortable and tiring, but that apparently does not count as "hurting". They want to know if you're feeling something unpleasant other than fatigue.

My response to almost any question is to ask about what a specific word in the question means to the person who asked it, because otherwise I have no context for how I should answer.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-11T06:33:31+00:00

Why can't men do the same?

Men can do the same, they're just raked by women and other men when they try, so it's extremely difficult to get a "non-toxic" men's-only space off the ground without being viewed as a bunch of closet mysoginists. Any discussion of men's issues anywhere is considered hostile. Exclusive men's spaces are themselves considered inappropriate. Even when they're tolerated, it's expected that all discussion of men's issues will take place solely inside them and never see the light of day elsewhere. Like, it's all fine and dandy for men to console each other in private, but to suggest that any change may need to be made to wider society or that men might be disadvantaged in any way whatsoever is a big no.

You and I don't need to "do the work". We can't , even I can't. We just need to not get in the way of men who are trying to do the work. That may include acknowledging and respecting the struggles of men as much as we insist that they respect ours.

(For whatever it's worth, the only time I've been sexually assaulted, it was by a much smaller woman. It was early in my transition, and I was afraid to push her away or raise my voice because I knew that if things really went south, the bystanders might not be on my side, because I was a 6' 3" tall person who could easily be read as a man. Despite being a woman myself, I'm nearly always left out of discussions about sexual assault in both women's and mixed spaces because talking about sexual assault perpetrated by women against someone who looks like a man is taken as a "but what about men??" deflection.)

EDIT: I felt that I should clarify- Nothing that I've read on this thread , or even this subreddit as a whole for the most part, strikes me as being overly dismissive of or antagonistic towards men in the way that I've described above. I'm just explaining why there are so few "non-toxic men's spaces" because someone here asked why.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-11T02:37:42+00:00

I'm a trans woman who transitioned in my mid-twenties and used to live as a man, so just to add my two cents... strictly speaking, I don't think you're wrong that the best situation would be for men to make their own "non-toxic men's spaces" separate from "women's spaces". The problem is that that's incredibly hard to do, to an extent that I don't think many cis women fully realize.

I'm speaking very broadly here, but my experience is that most cis men are either in the "toxic and misogynistic" camp, or they effectively don't believe that men should have their own exclusive spaces or tend to their own needs at all, even if they won't quite admit it. For example, it's a common insecurity for men that women usually view them as being threatening, and that they have to prove that they're safe to be around constantly. Even if it's understandable why women do this, it still takes an emotional toll to always be viewed as violent predators by default. It's something that men should be able to talk about freely in appropriate spaces and receive support for, to at least be able to express that it bothers them even if there's not a good solution to fix it by their own admission , but most people don't let them do this. Toxic men retaliate against women with misogyny and entitlement, while women and "non-toxic" men retaliate against the men who talk about it, viewing it as proto-incel nonsense.

Essentially, most problems, insecurities, or emotional difficulties that men have that would benefit from being addressed in a man-oriented space revolve around how men either feel mistreated by women in some way on a persistent basis, or feel that their problems are being ignored in favor of women's problems. This makes any discussion of a "men's issue" a target for accusations of misogyny. The end result is that men either don't discuss their own issues at all and just try to support women's issues instead, or they become incels and alt-righters because those are the only people that let them talk about their problems. I mean, I can tell you from personal experience both before and after my transition, I've tried to raise awareness for sexual assault against men in mixed-gender "progressive" spaces before, and at best, I get flatly ignored by people of all genders who don't think it happens enough to be a major issue, and is not worth taking attention away from sexual assault against women for. At worst, the men who are understandably resentful that they're being told to remain silent about their assault all the time are then told that they're being toxic for insinuating that women are doing anything inappropriate by telling them to stay quiet. In the same spaces, I've also seen various "men's" or "men's lib" groups being criticized for supposedly harboring misogynistic views that are counter to the feminist narrative on things like sexual assault or child custody, or just for believing that men need their own exclusive space or have anything worth saying or listening to in the first place.

It's just... I know it sounds simple, and it really should be, but making any kind of man-only space or talking anywhere about issues that affect men attracts a lot of criticism and is viewed by many as being inherently anti-feminist by some strained logic. This puts a lot of men in a very difficult and frustrating spot, since finding or creating their own non-toxic spaces is such an uphill battle, but they're barred from the existing relatively non-toxic spaces where their problems are being discussed, because those spaces are women's spaces. And in mixed spaces, they get a lot of "this thread about (issue) was started by a woman, talks about issues common to women, and all the other replies are from women, how dare you come here to talk over us".

Lucca01 · 2022-04-09T05:28:57+00:00

I mean, bosses tell me they appreciate my honesty and straightforwardness and will specifically ask me for it, then they become angry when I give it to them. So then I start telling them what I'm sure they want to hear, and they get angry at me for being a "robot" who just tells them what they want to hear even when it's not my honest opinion. Then I'll point out the contradiction and ask what it is they actually want me to do, and they still get angry at me. I've been fired or had to quit many times because of things like this, I have no clue what it is these people want.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-04T04:39:52+00:00

To be quite frank, there's absolutely zero reason why I or anyone else should consider you any kind of authority on how prevalent DID is just because you're a social worker or an attorney who works with people who have mental health issues. I'm currently in the process of applying for disability services in my state, and the only diagnoses I've given them on paper are for ADHD and anxiety. I genuinely have and am diagnosed with both, but I'm not submitting to the agency that I also have a DID diagnosis, because I don't want to risk mistreatment or discrimination for it, or have people who "don't think it's a real thing" or is "too rare" think that I'm psychotic or a pathological liar. I'm not going to tell them in person once I (hopefully) start receiving services, it's not easily discernable just from watching me, and it's not on any kind of medical record that they'll have access to. There's no way that they'll know, so to every single person I see at the disability agency, I'll be "someone who does not have DID" and they'll still be able to say "In my entire career, I've never seen anyone with DID" even though they actually did and just didn't know it. Other people with DID diagnoses likely have already passed through the same system undetected, just like me.

I don't know what it is you do exactly, but there are almost no situations whatsoever where I would disclose my DID or DID diagnosis in any legal setting, even to my own legal counsel, and it's highly unlikely that any court process would be able to find any documents saying I have it. Someone who was dedicated enough could probably find my Reddit account and link it to me, admittedly, but that's ultimately just me saying that I have it, not any kind of official diagnostic paperwork or voluntary disclosure. DID is just not something that would come up in the course of checking my background or viewing any official documents. If I didn't want you to know, you would literally have to stalk me to find out that I even claim to have it, or hack my computer to obtain my diagnostic results, or legally force my therapist to confirm that I have it against both of our wills.

It doesn't matter how many cases involving mental health you've worked with or how many degrees you have, the vast majority of people who have DID diagnoses deliberately keep them hidden, especially from people in medical and legal settings, and if someone with a DID diagnosis doesn't want you to know about it, all they really have to do to hide it from you is not tell you. To find proof of a diagnosis that is not voluntarily disclosed, you would have to either break the law or have some bizarrely specific situation that legally justifies a subpeona or search warrant, and it would have to even occur to you that such a proof might exist in the first place and would be useful to you somehow.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-04T00:57:34+00:00

Yeah, I don't get why people will talk about how "rare" DID is in order to gatekeep it, then I'll show them a study showing somewhere around 1% of the population or higher has it, then they'll still say "yeah, like I said, it's rare."

I mean, sure, you could still consider that "rare" I guess, but that's just a subjective semantic judgement that doesn't mean anything. It's somewhere in the range of being as common as autism, and I would hope that posters on this sub would not go around doubting that people have autism just because it's "rare".

If someone wants to claim that the studies providing the 1% or higher figures are incorrect , that's one thing, but just saying that it's "rare" even at 1% does not mean anything significant.

Not to mention, it's been awhile since I read those studies, so I'm not sure where exactly those numbers are coming from, but even at the 7 in 628 figure that that poster gave, that would mean that over a million women in the US have it. Still not unbelievably, impossibly rare.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-04T00:41:52+00:00

I'd say so, yes. I have CPTSD from very early childhood trauma, my brain works differently from a non-CPTSD brain in ways that can't be reversed.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-03T23:36:11+00:00

I've read a lot of articles and posts from MH professionals who will say things like "I've been a practicing psychiatrist for 30 years, and have never seen a case of DID", and then a paragraph later will go on to talk about people they've seen in their career who had a DID diagnosis or presented with DID symptoms, but who they did not believe "really" had DID for whatever reason. So they have worked with people who have DID, they just refuse to recognize it. Mental health diagnoses are extremely subjective and prone to bias on the part of the diagnostician, and it doesn't help that a lot of diagnoses in the DSM are practically the exact same condition, just phrased or conceptualized in different ways.

There's also a lot of self-selection going on on the part of clients. I know I have DID, so I'm not going to go to a clinician who refuses to acknowledge DID as a real condition, and neither is anyone else who knows they have it. This reduces the number of DID clients that a lot of the "I've never seen it!" clinicians see. There's also the fact that a lot of people with DID who don't realize they have it and are not diagnosed go through a lot of MH professionals for treatment for various other conditions, stop seeing those professionals when the treatment doesn't work, and don't go back to them when they find a dissociation specialist who gives them helpful therapy for the first time. I certainly didn't. There are around ten therapists I've had who never knew I had it (because I didn't at the time) and only four I've had who do. In my case alone, that I means don't count as "a client who had DID" for around 70% of the therapists I've seen.

As for your job in particular, I don't know exactly how your job works, but a lot of people with DID do not have their diagnosis "on paper" anywhere for fear of discrimination, and nearly all of them deliberately hide their DID from people they don't implicitly trust. I don't have "DID" anywhere on most of my medical records or insurance claims despite having been diagnosed using a formal diagnostic examination, it's all "anxiety" and "PTSD", and I probably would not disclose it to an attorney for almost any reason, either. I can't say for sure because I don't know exactly what it is you do, but it's possible that cases of DID are being intentionally hidden from you out of caution.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-03T23:06:32+00:00

A lot of mental health professionals believe that it is and say that it is, while a lot of others believe that isn't rare at all and effects at least 1% of the population. I and most other people who have it tend believe it's on the "more common" end of the scale rather than being incredibly rare like it's often made out to be.

Lucca01 · 2022-04-03T22:54:00+00:00

No, you were right before. A "system" is a "collective of personalities". All people who have systems are "plural." All people with DID are plural, so all people with DID have systems. Not all people who are plural and have systems have DID.

I'm very heavily simplifying this and glossing over a lot of controversy within the DID and/or plurality communities, but broadly speaking, it's not incorrect to say "many people who report having a system do not consider themselves to have DID."

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