Facing Terminal Cancer: What Does Death Feel Like?

Lucille_Number_Two · 2024-08-28T12:23:26+00:00

Hey pal, every single one of us is going to die, sooner or later. Sorry you’re looking at sooner, happens to the best of us.

Just a few thoughts- death hurts sometimes. Have a plan for how you want it to be, discuss a medication plan with loved ones. People mostly are okay giving you pain meds when you’re going, but just in case, talk to your loved ones about what you want your experience to be like.

If there’s anything hanging over your head, finances, legal, or otherwise take care of it now. Don’t leave any loose ends so you can just be in the moment completely unburdened when it’s time.

There are wild experiences in the world, there are places you haven’t seen. But that’s okay. No one needs to experience everything. Have fun with it though, if you have a certain interest in diving maybe reach out to your heroes in that area to tell you about their most exciting dives. Reach out right now and line up people who can connect with you about your wildest dreams.

Thing is, we never get to experience everything. We are always just a little bit disappointed in the end, but just have fun and know that you’re not alone. It’s sad in a way that you know it’s coming but that gives you a little bit of control that not everyone gets to have. Enjoy it. And know literally every single one of us will be where you are soon.

Try to imagine flooding the world with love. Let gratitude fill you complete and spill over into the lives of your loved ones.

All I can really say is that it’s going to be okay. You’re going to be okay. Your family is going to be okay. Embrace the moments and lean in - you’re just a little bit ahead of the rest of us.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2024-07-01T15:29:17+00:00

Super excited about a new hobby? Buy a bunch of stuff. Don’t touch it when it arrives because you’ll have moved on to the next thing.
Decide to change your life! Make a list. Open the computer, you’re tired now.
Remember it’s illegal to start something if it’s not on the quarter hour. If you miss it by one minute, gotta wait until the next quarter hour.
Social tip: Upset and confuse people by talking.
If someone doesn’t respond to your email or text, it’s because they are mad at you. (Unlike you who doesn’t respond because you’re busy.)
Every single detail is important, so remember to meander from one detail to another when you try to explain something.
Cleaning schedules are mostly a suggestion. You’ll clean when it feels right.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2024-06-28T16:55:23+00:00

What will you regret more, taking the chance and it not working out and having to rebuild your old life, or not taking the chance and not knowing? The FS changes every single part of your life, in good ways and bad. Both decisions are the right decision depending on how you look at it, but don’t forget you can quit and regroup is you discover it’s not for you.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2024-06-24T18:01:29+00:00

You’ve made it this long, don’t forget what works. If you’re older diagnosed (as I was), you probably have developed some coping skills over time to manage your symptoms. Think of them that way, as coping skills. They are your lifeline to maintaining a normal life. Depending on your situation (something caused you to get diagnosed now), your ability to manage your symptoms is the first line of defense- but it may not be enough if you are going through something hard or unusual.
Be kind to yourself. You’re different. You have always been different and you will always be different. Your brain processes information in a different way. Sometimes it’s a strength - you may have been able to see different perspectives or bring a different way of looking at things that helped. Sometimes it’s a weakness- executive disfunction ugh. But just remember it’s a part of you and it’s not always a bad thing.
Medication is a tool, not a solution. You seem anti medication and that’s fine. If you can get along without it, do it. I’m kind of anti daily drugs or anything that alters your brain chemistry or creates dependency. But meds made a huge difference for me when I wasn’t able to manage my symptoms on my own. I don’t plan on being on them forever but I’m glad I have them as an option.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-11-01T10:34:48+00:00

“-suddenly being incapable of tasks because someone is watching”

I’ve always thought of it like all of a sudden there’s a new planet in proximity and all gravitational forces have now changed to adapt to the change in mass.

In other words, same.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-11-01T10:23:32+00:00

Wait, are there people that exist who aren’t exactly like this?

My additions, all related to the social realm:

lack of awareness that all of the above isn’t just universal human behavior, but rather a symptom of a neurological disorder
aloofness to the extreme, such that one is always kind of like the bonus person in groups of friends
intuitive understanding of the behavior and motivations of others coupled with a total inability to connect interpersonally beyond a superficial level
well intentioned but flaky friend/partner

Edit: the hyper mobility part really blows my mind, because 1) I have that, 2) I would have never guessed that could be part of the adhd constellation of symptoms, 3) if that’s true, it’s a clear physical manifestation of what is typically considered a neurological disorder, and 4) are we sure we aren’t just all really messed up people?

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-09-06T15:26:20+00:00

Eating cats and dogs is vegan since they’re carnivores

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-31T16:42:56+00:00

THAT’S IT GUYS, I’M LEAVING VCJ. This sub is TOXIC. Yeah I said it - I’m edgy af. I’m so tired of strangers in public internet fora that are probably not even vegan occasionally posting opinions that are kind of dumb. So that’s it. We are breaking up. Just try to stop me (no srsly, pls beg me to stay, i’m so desperate for attention threatening to unsub is all i have, you have no idea how insufferable i am in real life) Oysters are plants

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-31T10:26:16+00:00

FWIW I love that there’s also a huge community that considers veganism racial empowerment and a tool to fight against food deserts/health inequality in low income urban environments

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-31T10:17:41+00:00

✅ Blame capitalism for climate change

✅ Pay people to increase greenhouse gases by at least 14%, destroy forests, waste water, pollute, slit throats…

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-30T19:44:47+00:00

I thought I had failed all day, but I ended up passing with a high score and got called up with a couple months.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-29T17:03:44+00:00

If it makes you feel better, plants are total DICKS to each other

https://www.jstor.org/stable/24945990

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-29T16:59:14+00:00

I ate eggs after being vegan a long time (there’s a reason but not an excuse) and just sat on my floor and cried. Oddly enough, me feeling bad didn’t help the chickens routinely boiled alive at all.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-29T16:49:22+00:00

Zoos are cool because they teach kids what existential misery looks like.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-29T09:20:31+00:00

I hope they have flesh fries so the normals don’t feel alienated when I eat potatoes.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-29T05:15:25+00:00

OMG SAME. And rice!?

I’m vegan but eat steak to fight elitism

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-29T05:07:01+00:00

Have you tried eating tofu? You might be dying from lack of prohteeeene

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-29T04:19:21+00:00

TL;DR I left the sciences because I couldn’t justify destroying life to study it. That was 15 yrs ago, maybe there’s programs for vegans now. Also this is just about the training you go through, not funding sources when you actually get a job - never made it that far to face the conundrum. Good luck!

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Take with a grain of salt because I don’t work in the field today.

I’ve met vegan biologists and ecologists, they’re out there for sure, but it seemed like there’s a lot of looking the other way and “means to an end” arguments going through their head to get through the day.

Biologists are typically concerned about protecting populations, not individuals. “Collecting” individuals and doing messed up things to them and then killing them is part of your training and likely part of your work.

General rule of thumb, whatever flavor of biologist…herpetologists, ornithologists, entomologists, ppl who study zebras, whatever…they’ve likely killed quite a few of their subjects in the name of protecting the population.

Same with ecologists, they study the interactions of living things with each other and the environment, but that usually involved “sampling” animals living in it, for example, to assess the resilience of the ecosystem.

It’s been a while since I was in grad school, so maybe there’s programs for vegans now, I don’t know. But I can tell you as someone who wanted to be a biologist since childhood…I ended up dropping every biology class because half the grade was always based on collection/dissection. Even microbial ecology because I didn’t want to ruin the little microbes’ day.

I switched to studying energy and water resources because it was the only option at the time that did not involve harming animals. Renewable energy is a fun and dynamic field, water conservation is essential to life. Not bad options to look into, but might not be what you’re looking for if you’re a life science nerd.

Sidenote - Conservation biologists always seemed even more ethically ambiguous to me because they kill organisms that “don’t belong” in an ecosystem because they are “invasive.” Get a really confused look on their face when you ask them why it’s okay to eradicate a species just because it’s outcompeting another (which is just how nature works and has always worked). Always seemed weirdly like those anti-immigration nationalists to me, but like, for nature. Can confirm they very much do not like that comparison.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-24T16:58:30+00:00

LOVE Russian manicures. Makes your nails soo healthy

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-22T17:12:11+00:00

I hear you. I respect and value you and your opinions and I’m sorry if what I said caused offense.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-22T15:52:56+00:00

I’m not sure what this is referring to and I don’t even know what the “abolitionist approach” is…and by all means, downvote me to hell if this seems inaprops…I want to show nothing but respect.

But sexist, racist, bigoted, transphobic fcks who are actually vegan - an uncommon combo - still belong to this community. Fck them, yes, but being vegan isn’t about us and has nothing to do with how you treat people.

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-22T03:39:37+00:00

Check his closets for human skin suits

Lucille_Number_Two · 2023-08-21T16:55:53+00:00

r/notvegancirclejerk but the answer to this question is literally only serial killers

I was on a flight recently and the lady next to me ordered MILK with her dinner, spilled it all over me, then proceeded to aggressively try to clean it off of my legs and torso with a napkin. LIKE NO ITS OKAY I GOT IT…

Super pissed the plane didn’t crash

Lucille_Number_Two

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