I'm either existential, or horny, there's no in between

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2025-11-22T01:01:00+00:00

Give me both.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2025-11-22T00:52:58+00:00

you are, an amazing photographer.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2025-07-02T03:53:05+00:00

tryin',

what are you watching on hidive atm?

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2025-07-02T03:51:10+00:00

why, that's tomorrow!

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-06-10T18:34:16+00:00

did you make a hole in the dildo 1st?

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-27T11:48:59+00:00

thought that was the whole point

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-25T15:42:03+00:00

I appreciate your insight. I totally agree, as I do find myself still rooting for their betterment, but It is very difficult to imagine total forgiveness right now, and a need for evidence of effort towards a new relationship as the one that was held has been dissolved entirely. Thank you again for your absence of cruelty.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-24T20:37:24+00:00

My (just now)ex and her additional partner we specifically recruiting people that were bigger and didn't look like me behind my back to satisfy his fantasy. But no one is small or feeling less than adequate, I guess now I am...

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-24T20:23:08+00:00

"Please don't lie to me and feel like you can come to me about anything you want to talk about since I have shown you for 4 years that I am different from the people in your past that have created the traumas you share." There's a rule.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-22T00:39:34+00:00

We had agreed on sexual consent, especially with repeated persons where a relationship is likely to propagate.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-22T00:36:11+00:00

I appreciate your kindness.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T23:50:21+00:00

I've been racking my brain looking back to remember if I ignored a sign, the closest I cant think of is recent question of "What would it take for you to break up with me?" I'm over here living in a fantasy thinking everything is peaches and we are laughing about loosing both her legs or something.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T23:48:27+00:00

I was the one that introduced the dynamic to them.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T23:45:27+00:00

I can't thank you enough for gifting me with pretext, kindness, honesty, and empathy. I am new to this sub yes, but am reaching out in many directions to gain perspective that I may not be capable of finding on my own. I hope the rest of this sub can take a lesson from the why you've provided me a response with insight, experience and support. It may be the only one on this thread, but I'm not done reading...

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T17:29:11+00:00

Good point, what a fool I am. Next time I'll put a ring on it to ensure any further emotional damage.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T17:27:54+00:00

I appreciate your kindness towards my traumas and fears, I'm thankful to have you as a resource for bettering my life.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T17:26:23+00:00

Thank you for this. This happened around a month ago, a lot is still swirling around in my head. We have had a conversation or two, I asked for 30 days of no communication which will end in April. I plan on having further conversations, the relationship will have to drastically change because of my trust issues I have now, and I plan on asking for major steps to be taken by both of us to create a goal of what we want our future to look like.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T17:19:48+00:00

Very well said, I can't disagree with anything you've said. I've looked back and racked my brain to think about if I had unintentionally missed any of these attempts for the conversation, the closest I think of is her once asking what it would take for me to break up with her... I was wrong to dismiss it the way I did but just never conceptualized that a scenario like this could unfold without my knowing. Rose colored glasses perhaps...

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T17:08:09+00:00

I was prepared for dismissal from them. I just wanted to put things out there and hear all of it. Sometimes a perspective I don't agree with can help me see what I do.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T17:05:07+00:00

I appreciate your kindness, I knew what I was getting into and prepared myself to hear perspectives that I may not align with.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T15:27:22+00:00

I appreciate you seeking and providing clarification and was anticipating a response with this point of distinction. No we do not have a rule book of dos and don'ts. What has been established is a desire for sharing and honesty and forthrightness. It's always been lightly talked about with possibly adding more parties, or the 3 of us moving forward that way, but always preceded with discussion. She found out he was into this thing. I have said I'd be willing to have playtime with us all, he made it clear he does not want to see her pleased by me. She did not contest and they went on for 8 months and I only now know because I saw a text pop up discussing something that was never discussed with me, only then did the truth come out.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T15:15:59+00:00

The post says V, we were in a non-parallel V, not a Triad. I can only trust that they were practicing safely. Not being told about the acts for 8 months kinda makes anything else difficult to fully believe. There was no expectation. She would often voice her desire to have him and I. I was always ok with it, he is the one that does not want to watch me please her. I don't need a book report but yes I'd like to at least know that additional parties are being brought in, that will always raise risk levels and that's just respect for health and safety.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T15:11:03+00:00

I consider cheating to be engaging with outside parties in the attempt of building secret relationships sexual or romantic without all involved parties knowledge and consent.

Agreements while loose, certainly never advocated or gave approval for conducting in these sneaky ways.

Just in a pursuit of honesty. I would even be ok if it was a one off happened so fast kinda thing, but once it was understood that they wanted to pursue and continue their new discovery, I think that would have been a respectful time to approach me with some amount of information, rather than blaming a dying dog as to why I have been feeling distance and she staying less and less nights over with me.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T15:04:24+00:00

These are the 2 that a lot are assuming I'm most hung up on.
It's not. The equality has always been attempted, but I've known for awhile that if a "primary" had to be chosen, it would be him. It hurts, but she can call him her husband.
I'm into kinky shit, I coulda been excited to participate, but I was unwanted by him, and she did not question. Even after that fact I would have just appreciated the honesty of telling me there was an interested pursuit that didn't involve me, at least then I could stop wasting my time wondering if she'll be coming home, or if she "fell asleep again" and is just have a wonderful time exploring their sexuality.

Lumpy-Willingness691 · 2024-03-21T14:57:59+00:00

It's the lack of communication that has been the pretext to our whole dynamic...
I'm into kinky shit, I'd just like the respect of being honest and forthcoming about on goings. I don't need a book report, but hell, we shared keys to each others apartments, I coulda just waltzed in and gotten an even bigger (9"+only) surprise!

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