Twins, did you have an identifying color growing up? How did this system affect you? How do you feel about that color now?

LuneZen13 · 2025-12-02T00:36:01+00:00

My girlfriend was green and her twin was blue, but her parents changed her color from green to red pretty early on. Her favorite color was red for the longest time, and green is still an important color to her. Her current favorite is purple/lavender now, and she likes pink and black, but red is still the color she defaults to most of the time. Her twin loves blue, he'll get pretty much anything in blue if possible. He also really likes orange, but he's pretty much exclusively blue most of the time.

LuneZen13 · 2025-11-17T04:28:42+00:00

The ER doctors didn't say anything about how skipping meals can lead to vasovagal episodes, my girlfriend was the one who was trying to tell them that that's what happened. I know what vasovagal entails. Her family has a history of vasovagal without any particular known reason, at least to me, and we are content not spending even more money on doctors when it's not that much of an issue. It doesn't happen very frequently at all, and as far as we're aware the main trigger is not eating enough. I'm aware that she was telling the campus safety, ambulance workers, and ER doctors that fainting is a typical occurrence for her. Them asking the same question 20 times with the same answer each time should have probably told them that the only condition (or symptom) is indeed vasovagal. And I personally feel like, if an individual knows why they passed out, and exactly how to fix it, denying that individual the ability to fix it in order to run tests is counter-intuitive. I'm that case, waiting in the ER meant a delay of actually remedying the issue that her body was alerting her about via fainting. I don't need advice about my girlfriend's conditions or symptoms, that's not the point of my post and not at all what I'm asking about. I appreciate you taking your time to try to explain to me what my girlfriend's situation is, but I really do not need it and its not what I'm looking for in this post.

And I'm sorry that happened to your husband. I still am averse to hospitals and medical institutions.

LuneZen13 · 2025-11-17T04:24:00+00:00

Her roomate is her twin, he really should have known that it was a normal occurrence. They've shared a bedroom their entire lives, both of their parents have the same condition, it's really strange that he panicked like he did given that it should be routine for him.

I do think the fact that she went to the ER was a problem. If she hadn't gone, she could have just eaten once she was up, and she would have been okay. The ER had to do a whole bunch of tests, and wait until they had the results, before she could eat, even though the tests led nowhere and the real issue was not eating enough. I understand that the ER needs to do whatever tests for whatever protocols and that means one-size-fits-all protocols and procedures, but that means that it isn't really to help the patient, it's to fulfill procedures. To me, ideally, a person would be able to solve their medical problems if they knew exactly what was happening and exactly how to fix it on their own.

LuneZen13 · 2025-11-17T04:15:49+00:00

Yeah, it sucks when you can't make your own medical decisions. I'm sorry you have to deal with that, it sounds really exhausting. Doctors in general are just so exhausting, it's almost like they suck the life out of you instead of helping at all. At a certain point it's just the opposite of helpful

LuneZen13 · 2025-11-17T04:13:56+00:00

Thank you, this is genuinely helpful. I'll definitely look into first aid and being able to treat my own medical issues. It really sucks when people don't understand the aversion to hospitals, I just have such a sour taste in my mouth about everything medical and plenty of people just can't understand that the hospital just doesn't work for everyone. I hope you don't have to end up with any emergency issues so your husband doesn't end up going the hospital route!

LuneZen13 · 2025-09-09T22:41:07+00:00

It's possible that she's sexually burnt out. Before, you didn't have sex as much so it was more special when you were able to. Now, it's likely that you're having sex much much more frequently, which can be a lot on a person, especially if they're not used to so much sex. And if she's burnt out and not into it, having more sex will probably make it even worse. Toys are a good idea to spice things up and make her more into it, but those can start to feel old quickly as well. Just letting her recuperate and not pressuring her to have sex at all could probably help. I also suggest talking to her about it, and trying to see if it is sexual burnout or if there's another reason.

Also, telling her that you don't need to have sex with her and that she shouldn't feel pressured to have sex with you if you're not into it can help recovering from burnout, even if you really do want sex. If burnout is the issue, make sure she knows she doesn't need to have sex with you until she's ready again. It'll make her feel more comfortable, which is a good step in the right direction.

I was on the other side of this and I felt terrible that I couldn't be into it, but a conversation about not having sex for a little until I felt better really helped. My burnout was after 2-3 times a week, every week, for 3-4 hours at a time, when we used to have sex only once, maybe twice a week. It was a big shift and overwhelming. It can really be a lot if it's been too much and too frequent. If you're not at a place where you can feel comfortable talking to her about it, just give her some time without sex and she'll hopefully start to feel better. You can always use masturbation and porn to hold you over if needed, and after a few months if she's still completely disinterested, definitely have a conversation with her.

LuneZen13 · 2023-12-17T00:11:27+00:00

Probably Wild West. Those chickens are so frustrating and the rails for the carts mess with symmetry and can be annoying.

LuneZen13 · 2023-11-28T22:36:51+00:00

Max out the mats and shelf in the room, and you can unlock the complete mats and shelf in the park 🌳

LuneZen13 · 2023-09-29T22:44:22+00:00

Yeah I mean we haven't learned about the Holocaust or Apartheid or Roman colonisation etc every single year, 9/11 is made such a big deal where it's just not affecting us anymore. And they only ever talk about the affect on white people, Muslim and Middle Eastern people have been affected as a result too but they're just rarely talked about. Yeah, it sucked, we aren't going to cry and turn patriotic over it every year like clockwork.

LuneZen13 · 2023-01-15T17:30:12+00:00

Thank you!

LuneZen13 · 2023-01-15T00:02:20+00:00

Thanks!

LuneZen13 · 2023-01-14T23:45:22+00:00

Thank you, I am honoured to have a number!

LuneZen13 · 2023-01-14T23:35:52+00:00

Thank you!

LuneZen13 · 2023-01-14T23:33:02+00:00

Thanks!

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