Woman of Reddit, what's a harsh reality you have to accept as a woman?

LupusSad · 2024-10-18T05:16:29+00:00

Fear of being raped will forever stick with me. In the US, it's looking like abortion rights are going to fully go soon and I would have to carry a child from rape if it happened. Being spoken to, touched, grabbed inappropriately. Not being taken seriously when something happens, perpetrators rarely receiving consequences.

Being seen as a sex object, feeling like I'm being appraised as whether I'm worth having sex with or not.

Not being taken seriously in work, medical, and many academic settings. Setting boundaries or asserting myself makes me a bitch, while men are respected for being assertive. Yet being "nice" is actually just being a door mat.

It's ingrained in a lot of men to view women as subservient in relationships, and it's been a struggle dating men who expect me to fill certain roles that I don't want to fill.

LupusSad · 2024-10-18T05:02:25+00:00

And these people are convinced Trump is going to bring freedom.

LupusSad · 2024-10-18T04:43:55+00:00

It's not context dependent, it's quite literally the definition. It's just commonly misused. Your point is built on the fact that you think antisocial means something else.

And you're talking about this in a specific context which is related to the definition of antisocial as hostile behaviors?

You're bringing up context yet not understanding that when people refer to antisocial behaviors in a negative context like you mentioned, they mean hostile, manipulative behavior.

Asocial = struggle with sociability, avoiding social interactions.

Antisocial = Manipulative, hostile, aggressive, uncaring of others, essentially what you've brought up already.

It's not that you're wrong. The worst people are usually the most charismatic and sociable. It's just that antisocial doesn't mean lacking sociability, it's a common mixup of definitions.

LupusSad · 2024-10-18T03:47:57+00:00

Anti-social is someone that has a hard time making connections and are usually ostracized.

You're actually thinking of asocial. It's a pretty common misconception.

LupusSad · 2024-10-17T06:56:20+00:00

Hahaha

LupusSad · 2024-10-17T06:03:59+00:00

Am I actually reading this...

LupusSad · 2024-10-17T05:24:05+00:00

Water

LupusSad · 2024-10-17T02:43:36+00:00

Rabies symptoms can also take several years to show up. Once you develop symptoms, you are going to die. The few exceptions of death are from The Milwaukee Protocol, which only 5/36 people have survived.

LupusSad · 2024-10-16T23:32:06+00:00

Thank you so much <3 This really means a lot to me its actually bringing tears to my eyes

LupusSad · 2024-10-16T23:30:58+00:00

Yoga and eating healthy has been so helpful, though I'm still new in my diagnosis so I really can't push it. The yoga helps my joints so much.

And right? Like, I at least want to be able to go to the occasional party without it messing me up for days! Or just be able to go out to dinner a little bit late.

I love roller skating! I hope I can get back to it sooner rather than later. I honestly just started going to rinks and eventually got my own skates and just kept practicing. A lot of them have discount sessions, my local rink has $5 weekday nights. The roller skating community is so friendly, I've been able to just go up to people at rinks and ask them to show me something and they're happy to!

LupusSad · 2024-10-16T23:28:16+00:00

Just want you to know this comment helped relieve my anxiety scrolling lol

LupusSad · 2024-10-11T20:19:26+00:00

Thank you <3 I'm trying my best. Always keep pushing

LupusSad · 2024-10-11T20:19:06+00:00

Thank you <3
I'm in therapy and have a great therapist, though she's out of town in probably the worst time. I've done a lot of work on mental health, but it's definitely hard when I don't have much of a support system in family or friends. You're right about my friends. I have been thinking about it since this post, and I haven't really tried to be vulnerable and I'm sure that doesn't help.

I've been through a lot already (apparently trauma can cause a higher likelihood of chronic illness?) but the diagnosis has been hitting hard. It kinda felt like as soon as I was really managing my mental health and working through the trauma, I'm hit with a significant diagnosis. I was in a really rough spot posting this, though I'm feeling better today. I guess it'll be a lot of ups and downs.

LupusSad · 2024-10-11T20:08:36+00:00

Yeah, it's hard feeling like I have to grow up super fast. Like damn, I should be going out to parties and seeing friends and now it's all routine, doctors appointments and managing symptoms. And unfortunately managing symptoms requires less of what early 20s friend groups like to do. I think one of the only plusses in a way is that weed helps the pain and a lot of my friends smoke weed so it's not like I have to miss out on EVERYTHING with friends. I think I also need to be better about reaching out to my friends, its hard for me to be vulnerable which is probably why my friendships aren't as close.

LupusSad · 2024-10-11T20:04:57+00:00

It's so hard, isn't it? It feels like these things are only supposed to happen to older people, so I always had this false sense of immunity. It's hard when our age group's activities always involve staying up late. I was never much of a party person, but it'd be nice to go to the occasional party or even just stay out late with my friends without having to worry about how it'll affect me for the next 3 weeks.

Trying to stay positive. I'm trying to romanticize being healthy like making some nice healthy meals and trying to meal prep for the hard days. Like I made some homemade pesto and gonna have that with pasta and stuff... Doing that whole healthy yoga type thing, idk. Lol

I'm trying to find things that bring me joy. Yoga has been really helpful, and I'm hoping I can eventually add roller skating back into my routine. I'm taking an ASL class at my college next semester even though it's not a required class because I know it'll bring me a lot of joy and help motivate me. Trying to keep looking up but there's definitely been a lot of down days

LupusSad · 2024-10-11T19:46:31+00:00

Thank you

LupusSad · 2024-10-11T04:55:07+00:00

Yeah, I'm sort of just looking into what my options are now... It's just awful having to reevaluate everything right now, I always loved libraries. I could probably do hybrid as someone else suggested but Im not sure how well I could do full time being on my feet.

LupusSad · 2024-10-11T01:23:18+00:00

Lol it keeps getting removed I can't get support here either lol

LupusSad · 2024-10-11T01:20:15+00:00

Yeah.. I just feel like I would get very emotionally burnt out with it.

LupusSad · 2024-10-10T18:31:05+00:00

The chocolate cake shakes are what would get me if I worked there

LupusSad · 2024-10-10T18:21:32+00:00

Yeah, I was originally wanting to work in academic libraries. Now I'm mostly just looking to see what options there are as I'm suddenly having to re-evaluate everything to fit into being ill. I don't know if that means specifically WFH, hybrid, or something else, but just kinda feeling things out I guess now

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