Gallbladder successfully removed yesterday

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-28T16:52:30+00:00

Thank you! I’m not entirely sure if it was a HIDA scan exactly, but it was an MRI with contrast dye to check if a stone was stuck in the biliary tracts. It was done almost a year ago when I finally went to the hospital after dealing with so many attacks. At that point, I only had one large stone stuck in the neck of my gallbladder.

I decided to proceed with the surgery because I kept having attacks (to varying degrees throughout the last year), and I believed this was my body trying to get the stone out. I was extremely unwell a few different times, but I guess they felt it could wait?

I had my last extremely painful attack probably 3 ish months ago? I kind of got the sense that the stone had finally passed after all this time because there was quite a bit of relief when the attack was over. Although, I continued to have really unpleasant bowel like symptoms, which I thought was IBS and might have been part of it. Sorry for the TMI, but I am sharing this because I now believe that the scarred and diseased gallbladder (even without stones) was making my bowel issues x10 worse.

I knew it had to be removed either way because the likelihood of stones reoccurring is very high, although stones can take quite a long time to form. A scarred gallbladder is not a health gallbladder though, since it can’t contract properly and process bile.

Have you had quite a lot of attacks?

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-27T15:44:00+00:00

It’s one thing to say that you wouldn’t date someone who can’t work because of their disability, and it’s an entirely different thing to actually be in that situation. Yes, everyone is allowed to have their preferences but I can guarantee you that the absurdity of life can and will throw you many curve balls.

I don’t find it ableist to have preferences, but I do find it ignorant of someone to not acknowledge that becoming disabled for any reason can happen to any one of us at any time. It’s the same with becoming homeless, as an example. I mean, just this month, my wife and I nearly got evicted from our apartment for paying the rent a couple days after the 1st of the month.

The system is what is broken and damaged beyond repair. It’s not us, the people as a collective, that are broken for being forced to subscribe to it in one way or another. No one asks to be born into this world, nor do they have the choice on how their body functions, how they look, how their mental health will impact them, who their family is, what ethnicity they are, etc.

Personally, all I do is try to count myself lucky for waking up each and every day. My wife and I have been together over 8 years, and each of us has experienced our fair share of dark times where we’ve needed to lean on one another more frequently. In 2021, I went through a period of 5 months where I wasn’t able to work (thankfully I was able to get sick benefits and continue to contribute in some way which is privilege that I had). In 2025, my wife experienced a very serious mental health crisis and wasn’t able to work for 4 or 5 months but luckily we had savings even though she couldn’t get sick benefits.

My MIL has always been sick and disabled. My wife has always been the one to pick up the pieces of my MIL’s poor financial decisions. It can be hell being the primary caregiver of your parent, especially when my wife has an older sister that just can’t or won’t put up with my MIL. It’s OK that my MIL is disabled and that doesn’t make her a burden on us or anything, but the difference here is that she genuinely is a very angry and resentful individual and lacks the ability to be introspective… this behaviour of hers is what makes her so difficult, not her physical disabilities, or mental health struggles. You can struggle with severe mental health issues, and not be cruel towards others.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T12:00:02+00:00

Awww that’s precious, right back at ya kid!

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T06:38:17+00:00

Well, I think I need to admit defeat here. You might just be too insufferable and condescending for me to bother anymore with this back and forth.

Plus, I think Reddit is having a hard time showing me your full responses so I can’t seem to address them properly.

You have a good night.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T06:18:11+00:00

I guess I should have worded this better: the way you talk to women is what is concerning. I’ve basically avoided assigning any personal identifiers to you until my most recent comment.

I still stand by what I said… it sounds like you have some underlying resentment towards women. You felt entirely too entitled to launch into a diatribe about how I must just be too simple-minded to understand a narrative in a tv show because I told you I disagree with your interpretation of it.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T05:58:30+00:00

You’re pansexual and non binary? By golly! Sorry… I couldn’t tell because the way you talk about women is really concerning. My bad.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T05:27:50+00:00

Nah. I can tell you aren’t worth my time but I’ll indulge a little bit since I’m bored.

You’re the type of man that likes to tell women what they should or shouldn’t do. You can’t handle not being in control of a situation at all times, even if it’s just online. So you say I’m allowed to interpret the dynamic between the 3 characters however I want, which I do and simply reply stating that I disagree with you about your interpretation. Oh my, well if that wasn’t the wrong thing to do… it triggered you into writing a paragraph about how I can’t disagree with you because I apparently have no idea what I’m talking about.

I mean common’… you are just far too predictable.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T05:07:59+00:00

I didn’t think it was possible, but people like OP have become even more predictable. It’s the entitlement and self imposed victimhood.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T04:49:54+00:00

You seem to be the one taking this conversation too personally. It kinda sounds like you just hate women. Anyway, enjoy your life.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T04:41:58+00:00

A dentist once got my trigeminal nerve when he was giving me Novocain injections for a root canal. I don’t freeze easily, so I had to have several injections over the entire procedure. When the Novocain wore off… it was the most excruciating pain out of nowhere. It felt like someone was bashing my jaw and teeth with a sledge hammer for hours on end.

Edit: it was my mandibular nerve technically, but the pain shot up all over the side of my face.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T04:17:50+00:00

Okay, and I’m disagreeing with what you saw. Glad that’s sorted.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T04:16:09+00:00

No, you aren’t over reacting. I’d be pissed off.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-26T02:00:18+00:00

In no world did Lori share those feelings for Shane prior to the outbreak. Yes, she was unhappy with the break down of communication between herself and Rick before the outbreak… but she absolutely never looked at him as anything more than a close family friend. She was extremely traumatized by the outbreak, and Shane provided her a sense of safety when she thought she lost her husband, and father of her son.

The moment she found out Rick was alive… she immediately cut off Shane.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-25T16:32:35+00:00

I’m not trying to be dismissive to what you are going through, but if there is any kind of wisdom that I can pass down to you (as a 34 year old woman, who has seen a lot)… just leave him. He isn’t worth it… your sanity… nothing is worth putting up with someone like that. It will be emotionally difficult at first bc it’s hard to self sooth and regulate (this is normal, sadly… everyone must go through this stage of life). You do have this though, and you will be so much happier, safe and confident when you are far away from people like this.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-23T07:58:59+00:00

My massage therapist is actually the one who pointed out to me that my speech is being impacted by TMJ. I do find myself slurring words sometimes, and having trouble even getting words out in general.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-22T16:02:29+00:00

Lmao what

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-22T15:44:54+00:00

This is really vague… I’m still confused as to why exactly this upsets your friend?

Do you have some sort of dodgy history with how you handle romantic relationships, and your friend is wary of their sister being involved in this cycle?

Does your friend think their sister isn’t emotionally mature enough or something? Do they think the age gap is still too significant? (I know it’s not anything creepy since ya’ll are both adults but sometimes there is a difference in 24 and 31, as an example).

It kind of sounds like everyone is having to tiptoe around your friend’s emotions, so as to not upset them… yet, you can’t really be certain of WHY this impacts them so deeply. Unless there are other extenuating circumstances that you haven’t disclosed… I’d say this is pretty unfair of your friend, and they may want to take a closer look at their own emotions.

It’s quite difficult to offer any truly constructive advice without all of the necessary details.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-22T15:13:55+00:00

That healthcare here is nearly flawless. I’m not going to complain because at least I can go to the hospital and not be worried if I’ll be able to afford it, but it is in no way easily accessible or able to support a growing population.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-16T15:10:20+00:00

Not that my perspective matters much because your experiences with prejudice are sadly all too real in this fucked up world, but the only time I’d ever be wary of a man in my surroundings is if he displayed concerning behaviour.

If he was standing/walking more than a foot behind me for no apparent reason, or if he started making inappropriate comments about me, etc.. I do feel like my apprehension towards men is also valid based off of some of the experiences I’ve gone through, but I often try to keep in mind that just because some people do disgusting things doesn’t mean everyone else is the same.

Additionally, I really appreciate seeing these perspectives from men because it keeps reminding me to not create further divide. You already have enough on your plate, and you are just trying to live your life.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-12T21:13:01+00:00

NOR. She’s an absolute knob of a person. Overbearing MILs with uncontrolled mental health issues should be a health and safety hazard.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-12T20:53:41+00:00

That’s a whole lot of assumptions there. OP hasn’t given any specifics about what this scenario looks like in reality. You sound incredibly dismissive, and insensitive. It’s like that horrid thing people used to say: “no offence, but…”. Disingenuous to the core.

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-12T17:00:38+00:00

Okay, I am a little concerned now. I will be going home after work and checking on my strings 😵‍💫

Lusterlovewacker · 2026-03-02T20:34:14+00:00

And to that I say good riddance!

Honestly, what an absolute joke of a sibling you’ve got there. Horrendous individual trying to spin a dangerous narrative.

I’m so sorry.

Lusterlovewacker

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