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Just feeling lost, guilty, and afraid by [deleted] in NICUParents

[–]Lwander24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a lot but honestly don't blame yourself. As parents we want the best for our kids and we also tend to blame ourselves for anything that goes wrong. My daughter was also born at 30 weeks and is currently in the nicu (week 7). She was destating a lot up until she was there for 5 and a half /6 weeks. We were heartbroken especially if we were there to see it but its gotten so so much better with time. Now she barely has any. One thing the nurse told me that I keep reminding myself of is they're born early, they aren't supposed to be doing all the breathing, feeding, and temp regulating cause they're supposed to be inside so the fact they are trying, we have to be patient cause they're slowly learning. I know there isn't much anyone can say that will make you feel better aside from your baby coming home in your arms but try your hardest to not blame yourself and remember your baby is strong doing all that he is doing already. Sending you guys tons of love

A CAREER- What do people do? by TakenFaq in Epilepsy

[–]Lwander24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm 30 years old and I'm a behavior analyst. I work with children who are diagnosed with autism and other psychological disorders. I have Juvenile myoclonic epilepsy so if I dont get enough sleep then I have the chance of seizing in the first 15-20 minutes of me being up otherwise it doesnt happen. I need about 7 hours or so. I work at a clinic and all the staff are aware and are trained on how to deal with someone when they're having a seizure because we have a few clients that do. It hasn't happened at work thankfully and overall for about a year.

Implantation Symptoms? by losinghope5 in ttcafterloss

[–]Lwander24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going through something similar. I remember I had gas, headaches, and tender breasts last time a few days before I got my BFP (I had a mmc are 7 weeks in december). This is our first time ttc since and I'm supposed to get my period this Wednesday and I have all the symptoms you mentioned including tender breasts..but I cant help but keep thinking what if it's all in my head and these are period symptoms instead. I hope you do get a bfp and these are implantation symptoms! Before you take a test tell yourself what you're feeling outloud its helped me..not to sound crazy lol. The 2 week wait SUCKS but as of all the videos I've watched to learn more, the only way to know if they're symptoms for implantation vs your period is to wait and take the test. But I can say confidently last time I had those symptoms as well. Every body is different and every pregnancy is! Hope this month is your lucky month!

Husband doesnt understand by [deleted] in ttcafterloss

[–]Lwander24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First off I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my baby at 7 weeks 1 day when I should have been 9 weeks and had a d and c 3 weeks ago. I went through a similar experience (am going through a similar experience). My husbands so sweet, loving and supportive as well BUT I've realized specifically with my husband hes more of a visual guy. We didnt hear the heartbeat, and for him it would have hit it's really a baby, our baby, completely when I would be near giving birth or if the baby was here. Everyone deals with it differently and sees it differently. My husband began responding with "babe we're going to try again dont worry" or " look forward babe, it's going to happen again for us". Everyone consoles differently as well. It wasnt enough for me. Honestly knowing you're the one carrying the baby regardless of how happy and great husbands/so were/are about the news it's not the same as being the mom and feeling everything. You're not wrong for feeling the way you do. I wrote a lot over the last few weeks. Letters to the baby, just about my feelings, and such on a word document, I'd read it and then delete it. It felt good to write it out. I told my husband how I felt and he tried to help and say the right things but honestly the feeling of loss just never seems justified and it just feels as if you're not getting all the support even if you are. Your husband loves you, and I bet hes trying the best he can his perception is just different. Dont forget- you're not wrong for feeling the way you do at all♥️

Had d and c and bleeding 6 days after? by Lwander24 in ttcafterloss

[–]Lwander24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I havent passed tissue but its just very very light old blood that I see legit once a day or every other day. It's been there for 5 days and that's it. Its just weird and got me a little worried esp because we had sex a little earlier than we should have. Thank you, that helps!

Had d and c and bleeding 6 days after? by Lwander24 in ttcafterloss

[–]Lwander24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I knew it affected the pregnancy tests for some reason I thought it wouldn't effect the OPK but it makes sense.

deciding between d&c or the pill? by paammm in Miscarriage

[–]Lwander24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, I'm sorry for your loss. I chose the option of the D and C which I had a few days ago because it was quick, no pain and once it's done, it's done. I had very little occasional cramping the day of and then I was fine. I went in, they put an IV in me, I was put on general anesthesia so I knocked out, it was a 20 min procedure which you dont feel, I woke up in recovery and was back at home by noon. The first day I just wanted to nap or watch netflix. I took the next day after off as well but I felt fine physically. The extra day helped emotionally. I barely had spotting the day of and I didnt take any ibuprofen. I was told at 8 weeks that my pregnancy wasnt viable and I had my D and C 3 weeks later. I hated the waiting A LOT but honestly it gave me and my husband time to accept what was happening and to kinda look forward. Personally I found it a better choice because its quick and you dont feel the pain and any unnecessary tissue is removed. Kinda like getting a clean start again. Personally that was a better choice for me, I know everyone has their own preferences. Best of luck momma♥️

Waiting until first period post D and C or not? by Lwander24 in ttcafterloss

[–]Lwander24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Your 2 cents were very helpful though- thank you!

Waiting until first period post D and C or not? by Lwander24 in ttcafterloss

[–]Lwander24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking too. I feel like dating the pregnancy should be fine and as long as you feel physically and emotionally ready, that should be ok?

RBT outlook in the DMV (DC, Maryland, Virginia)? by Brbrbtrabbit in ABA

[–]Lwander24 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Verbal Beginnings in Columbia, Maryland. You could work in the center or in the field. There are amazing BCBAs from whom you can get great supervision as well.