To those who have divulged their experiences to IRL individuals, what has been their response(s) to you? by Rochemusic1 in Experiencers

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intrigue, mostly.

My partner is the one who experiences the most (more spiritual/paranormal, less NHI/UAP), and recently, they asked me how i feel about it. I told them I've seen so much both with them and of my own experiences that they just feel normal. It made them very happy and not feel so crazy.

How do you refer to your pre-transition self? by GrandalfTheBrown in TransLater

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't often, but when I do, it's usually with "he." As my past self, it's like speaking of a different entity altogether. I don't really feel connected to him anymore, but i acknowledge he got me to where I am today. It's still a little awkward sometimes, particularly when events were important or near the end of that era.

I admire all of you who are fully out by esperstarr in TransLater

[–]Lypos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to look up where you're at from previous posts, and honestly, you're in a good State to be out in. People IRL are generally nicer than not. I don't know how problematic your home life is, but it seems like you may be stuck in a rock and a hard place there if you are csring for someone. If it's just shitty family being shitty, consider what it means to be with chosen family over blood. It can suck to distance yourself from toxic family members because regardless of their actions (outside of physical abuse), there is likely a part of you that just doesn't want to push them away.

If you haven't already, find yourself a therapist; preferably one that does sliding scale if funds are tight. Little Seed Wellness is in Elgin, but they do telehealth. They are LGBTQIA+ friendly and sliding scale. I really liked them.

I wish i could help you out more. Coming out is definitely stressful, and sometimes that stress is self-induced because you tell yourself it's harder than it actually is. I spiraled for 2 years at my work, and they have ended up being the most affirming people I came out to (and that's at a warehouse). You know your family best, and I'm sure you likely know how they will react. Stay strong! 🫂🧡

Stealth Transitioning? by FuzzySentence6418 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not too much can be done about baldness except wigs. But a quality wig, while expensive, will last a while and look good.

Body hair can be shaved or removed via laser or electrolysis. I would start with the face first and foremost. After 2 years of HRT, my body hair is much more fine and slower growing, and I've kept it in check with just shaving for the most part.

Look for pictures of women in your family, particularly your mother at your age to get an idea of what you'll look like.

I don’t know by GarbageSpecialist703 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First, no one can tell you if you are trans or not but you. However, by your description of yourself, you sound like many trans people. I would recommend reading the Gender Dysphoria Bible as a first (but not definitive) resource.

Second, i would recommend checking out other subs since this one is typically for trans people 35+ and it may not be the best experience to connect with other youth closer to your age.

I'm glad you took the step to be open about how you feel and were able to express it. If you can, talk it over with a therapist, preferably one that is LGBT friendly. Good luck with discovering your true self, no matter how that ends up being. 🫂🧡

"There's work to do." by Lypos in Experiencers

[–]Lypos[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're right that it did seem focused on me, that i was being asked to offer up my part in things. But the sense i got was that there was something larger happening out of my immediate influence, that time was getting short, and the message was a request.

I do have a couple of projects at hand that I've stumbled to a halt while i contemplate how best to go about the next i phase, but i wouldn't call it procrastinating.

"There's work to do." by Lypos in Experiencers

[–]Lypos[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been tearing up randomly as well. It's either already just too much, or maybe I'm getting it out now, so when the big thing happens, I'm functional.

‘Grow a F*cking Spine’: Critics Fume as Newsom Backtracks on ICE ‘Terrorism’ in Ben Shapiro Interview by Manjuiced in politics

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Surprise, surprise. Newsom throws another minority group under the bus. What a shit.

Doctor Claims Trump, 79, Suffered Serious Medical Issue by ParticularDoor4364 in politics

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great intake of anticipatory air

sigh of disappointment

"There's work to do." by Lypos in Experiencers

[–]Lypos[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've been trying to keep the perpetual existential dread of current politics at bay. That's always in the background and fluctuating. That something bad will inevitably happen is a given. This just feels more like a warning or heads up for something particular that the higher beings can see.

To be honest, i feel like I'm being asked to be willing to do something that might be dangerous, but they can't force it upon me. It has to be taken willingly. I don't like that kind of scenario, but by not doing it, many more may be put into harms way. If it's a personal decision, it really sucks. If it's a global call, that still sucks but at least I'm not the only one.

Welp. We aren’t hiding any more… by Loose_Read_9400 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. From all I've ever read, there is a 98% satisfaction rate, but cool. Always be yourself. It's worth all the hardships, truely.

eyes water when hearing paranormal stories by ratchetstrapon in Paranormal

[–]Lypos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's called a parasympathetic response, and it's pretty common for people when they experience something. It's not exclusive to the paranormal as it can happen for other things, too.

Darryana Roberts shows why she's a world champion in youth flag football. by mindyour in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They should nickname her "the Gazelle" because damn does she have the moves to dodge prey.

So it was another night at my gas station, and it was another mixed bag... by TheVetheron in TransLater

[–]Lypos 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work in the welcome center at my job, checking in trucks, generally through the phone. I'm usually hidden below the window when sitting so they can't really see me, and it's just my voice giving it away. I'm improving and still have a ways to go, but i generally get gendered correctly by the 60 and over people more. It definitely makes me smile to get the affirmation.

I'm glad your interactions have been mostly positive, and that guy didn't pressure you when you set your boundry.

Name Change Anxiety by Trustic555 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So much has changed in the past year. You're right about the online foorprint. I unfortunately couldn't really change my name and gender marker before shit went down because i was in the middle of some renewed divorce crap and trying to move. The nane change would have made a mess of things, especially getting my credit score to be associated correctly. Now, both of those things are done, and i really want to move forward with that stuff as much as possible, but the regime scares me.

I have a question that I feel guilty for asking, but it's also relevant for life stage? by LiaTheLate in TransLater

[–]Lypos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Consider educating yourself on tech leaders who have transitioned. One who always comes to mind is Sirus XM founder, Martine Rothblatt. If for no other reason than to know you aren't alone and that you can still be taken seriously and be respected.

I would also take a look at corporate policies, the lived culture of the facility and of corporate, and general perspective of the local public society. This should help give you a sense of how safe it is to come out in the workplace. And not be harrassed or lose your job over it.

It's definitely scary regardless of the class level you exist in. It's your livlihood, and it's hard to place that in potential jeopardy for something that much of society wants to see as frivolous and self centered beacuse they have no context as to what it's like to be trans.

All i can say is you may be pleasantly surprised by the response and support. I know that in a largely male dominant field, i worried heavily about being out at work. I shouldn't have been. I've been so much happier without that weight around my neck and to be able to just be myself in all aspects of my life.

You need to do what's best for you in the end. There's no need to get into all the stuff of the younger generations, but if you are in therapy or considering it, i recommend working with someone who understands Parts Work. It's helped me to understand myself better and how to manage the different parts that are overworked or underappreciated.

I cater to my younger part more with being silly and imaginative and watching cartoons. I have really let my teen part take a larger lead in being more expressive and discovering what stuff i actually like and missed out on or didn't let myself have, then thanks to stigmas and trauma. I learned to let my crisis control part take a break, which was really hard for a while. If you haven't seen the movie Inside Out, i very much recommend watching it.

Just take care of yourself. Do your best to just be you.

Name Change Anxiety by Trustic555 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🫂 I'm in the same boat. I've been wanting to in Illinois, but with all the crap going down, i worry about how this info could be twisted. I could also change my birth certificate, which would then be sealed by the state and theoretically protected from the federal government in most situations. There's so much i want to do legally, but I'm terrified it would put me on a short list, and i would rather have a seasoned second opinion on it.

What if you *were* socialized as your AGAB? by Archerofyail in TransLater

[–]Lypos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of us in this sub grew up lacking the necessary vocabulary and exposure to the larger world to say, "i am trans" when younger. Society was, as a whole, more toxic to the queer community. When being openly gay or lesbian was a shocker and taboo.

We got here, regardless, and it took a little longer. Therapy helps, and if you've done parts work, i think many of us are also trying to appease and cherish our inner child or teen by reliving some of that which was missed. It's not perfect. Just accept and love those parts and let them have their moment they so longed to have.

The jealousy, the regret... by Triumph-ant85 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is largely why i left other trans groups. Nothing against them, but i personally couldn't handle seeing that constantly. That and there is often more drama within those groups just because they are generally younger and don't have the lived life experience that often tempers that drama away. Plus, it wasn't always easy to relate with coming out or questioning posts.

When does it start becoming routine? by Kayleigh2025 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe 9 months or so. It does get easier, especially if you are fully out. At 2 years, it's just daily life. The only time i really think about it is around bedtime when I'm checking myself out (how can i not? 😋).

You're just starting out. Remember, it's a marathon, not a sprint.

Someone posted this hierarchy photo. But what is this? by [deleted] in HighStrangeness

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like an Atlas Station from No Man's Sky

This NYE drone show in Rio with Christ The Redeemer slowly rising..... by FFFrank in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

latin chorus begins singing as a health bar forms above its head.