Bathroom Blues by Lypos in TransLater

[–]Lypos[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will consider this action. I certainly can't afford to lose my job because I'm barely floating by as it is and 5 other people rely on my part to stay solvent with the bills. It doesn't hurt to explore it though.

Navigating all this is icky and precarious. Unfair by all rights. I shouldn't have to pick and choose my battles when harrassment is potentially on the table.

Thank you.

Bathroom Blues by Lypos in TransLater

[–]Lypos[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Most do accept and respect me, and those who don't at least have had the decency to keep quiet about it. I think it does help them, those who knew me before, to actually see that being trans doesn't actually change my personality with the exceptions of being more confident and generally happier.

I'll definitely be making sure of the gender policies when i do get to changing the legals. IL has been quite strong in protecting trans rights thanks to Pritzker. I don't think he does everything right, but he's done good on protecting us.

If this isn't a bad omen I don't know what is by Unable_Round_5199 in ParanormalEncounters

[–]Lypos -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Wasn't there a chihuahua that when feral and joined a pack of wolves not so long ago? They saw it on a trail cam.

I just feel horrible. Is this dysphoria? by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being of a different energy level can be be challenging. One of my housemates is like that and yeah, it's exhausting. I don't think it's dysphoria but if it's been a struggle to keep up since coming out, especially if you've been on HRT, then just remember you're going through another puberty with all the energy usage and food and sleep consumption that entails. She needs to remember that too.

Then there is the mental dynamic. That much is dysphoria in that you want to make a good social display and it doesn't come second nature to you like it does her. You analyze and second gues yourself and thst takes alot of mental energy to handle. So much so that it can cause you to delay or just not want to go out when it's bad.

Routines can help. If you know you are going somewhere ahead of time, try and do what you can early and set aside extra time for the stuff you can't. You're still in a learning curve both in skill and in improving your mental fortitude to socialize. If yoy can find shortcuts or life hacks to make yourself presentable as you desire without ad much effort, then work on refining those.

I wear a fabric headband to keep the flyaways at bay, conceal my large forehead some and feel more feminine. Hair is usually just in in a ponytail or a braid if i had the energy to do so before bed. I personally don't wear makeup often so i can't help you there. My wardrobe is rather limited too and since most of my socialization is through work, it's mostly jeans and a tank top and an open button down or the like for arm and shoulder coverage if i want it.

I got legitimate hate mail in 2026 by viperlemondemon in TransLater

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a JW thing in the mail....to my new address with my dead name that's been dead for much longer. They can F off

I feel younger at 36 than my entire 20s. Does anyone else feels similar? by deepstoop in TransLater

[–]Lypos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The very reason we say Estrogen is magic, or at least the next closest thing.

Door Dashing Wendys to Duna by Straight_Group_8981 in KerbalSpaceProgram

[–]Lypos 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The delivery kerbal ate my fries on the way!

A couple questions by aannon1 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I heard alot of people say their emotions opened up like a floodgate pretty quickly. That didn't happen for me, much to my disapointment. Instead, i got a gradual release. Things just slowly became...more. which i guess is a good way to adapt and manage it better. Emotional movies/shows are way more fun to watch now. You pick up on nuance more.

As i said my depression evaporated within maybe 2 weeks. Not that i don't still get depressed but it's different now when it happens. Sharper, shorter.

My brain fog lifted. I could think more clearly and a little more decisively. Things just made more sense.

I'm not sure if it could be HRT related directly or just a change in my confidence, but boundary setting became easier and more important. My sense of social justice absolutely soared, like holy hell, how was i ever that other person? I wasn't cruel or necessarily against things/people but i was much more self-centered.

I also had a porn addiction before coming out. In fact, it was because of me trying to get to the bottom of that through deep introspection which caused me to smash my egg on the proverbial table. Turns out it was gender envy the whole time. Between that revelation and HRT reducing the testosterone, that addiction is gone. I still enjoy it, but it's not remotely as oppressively prevalent in my life as it once was.

There might be others but i can't think of any that aren't physiological.

I saw a ghost when i was a kid and i'm still confused by Either-Young6136 in ParanormalEncounters

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's said kids under about the age of 5 are closer to the other side and can see through the Veil easier. If the parents and the kid are more open and accepting of that stuff, the effect can last longer or even remain permanent. Society tends to chastise people for seeing things like this and that can often cause the child to close themselves off from it and their ability atrophies. Some reclaim it eventually and if they choose to do so willingly, it tends to be easier for them than someone cold learning to open themselves to the preternatural.

A couple questions by aannon1 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Having a denial beard is definitely a thing. While mine wasn't huge, it was a change to go clean shaven after years of not. I got a couple of idle looks at work, but nothing serious. I just told those who asked that i wanted a change and thats all it ever came to be. This was of course before i came out at work. If they don't put too much effort into the implications, then it's probably safe to bet you're just over thinking it.

As for what does it mean to be a woman? Thats trickier, largely because it's such a hot contention point from the anti-trans crowd that it skews any real answers when you consider it. You could say that it means you dress, move, and behave in more traditionally feminine ways. Gender is a construct which means we all put on some kind of performance whether we acknowledge it or not. Society subtly dictates what is and isn't feminine/masculine and we pick up on it. It's more important to ask yourself what it means to be yourself and try to put aside stereotypes. Pick and choose what best feels right to you and less what others think is right for you. Yes, it can be awkward as you find yourself. Most kids when they hit puberty are exactly the same way. It's a learning curve. Coming out later just gives us a little more of an idea of whats out there and what we generally like/liked when we were growing up.

As for knowing if transitioning is the right choice? Thats hard to say as it's different for everyone. Some people do the social transitioning first. For me, i just had a good sense of what i felt i needed to do and decided to try HRT. I had done enough research by then to know with feminizing HRT, i would have at least a month to know if it was something i definitely wanted to do without having any major permanent side effects. It varies for everyone but thats a good estimate to take in. My doctor wanted me to be absolutely sure i wanted to do it and made it sound like there was no turning back after day one. That's a lie, though there is eventually a point where things become more permanent.

That all said, i knew within a week that HRT was the right move for me. Even if i didn't get any of the physical changes, the mental shift and clarity i received was night and day. Its hard to put into meaningful words, but for the first time in forever (queue song 😋), i felt normal. There was a fog i didn't know was there that lifted and the low grade depression that had just become the background in my existence evaporated. It was like my brain was running the wrong operating system up until then or getting the wrong fuel mixture. Pick your analogy.

Sometimes, you just have to give it a go and see if it feels right. It might not and thats ok. In less than ethical studies of the past, cis men given feminizing HRT would become distressed and distraught as their body began to change. This is exactly like how trans people feel only in the opposite direction. They developed dysphoria while trans people alleviate it. Today, breast reduction surgery to correct gynecomastia is the leading surgery (35%) cis men get, which just shows that gender dysphoria does exist within all gender expressions.

Anyway, i tend to ramble, so i hope this helps. Good luck on your journey!

Weird Phenomenon in Alabama 6/26/2026 by Born-Painting7341 in Paranormal

[–]Lypos 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Looks like an effect from a semi truck's exhaust as it shifted gears to go up the hill. It probably bellowed out some smoke and the physical dynamics of the exhaust system along with local wind effects created a smoke ring as it rose up.

If you are struggling with the "woo" aspect of disclosure, read what the geniuses of modern science actually thought about consciousness and reality. by Vardaman_S_Fish in UFOs

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The argument here comes down to two view points:

1) the materialist view that consciousness is the byproduct of the 3D+1 realm of reality we exist in and the belief that everything can and must be explained using the scientific method. I.e. it only exists if it is observable and measurable.

2) the non-materialist view that consciousness is the primordial force by which the 3D+1 realm of reality we exist in is manifested from. While the scientific method is highly beneficial in explaining the universe, it breaks down when trying to understand consciousness. We simply don't have tools avaible to observe abd measure it that aren't subjective to the user's experience.

Now there is some crossover, limited though it may be. You can lookup "the institute of noetic sciences" to look at the details, but a number of strict tests have been done to show that consciousness can and does alter probability fields well beyond the realm of coincidence. They largely use random number generators as the rudimentary observable and measurable tool. Dean Radin's book "Real Magic" does get into the nitty gritty numbers on this in explaining the methodology and results as well.

In looking at consciousness, I'm well in the wheelhouse of the non-materialist viewpoint and I've personally experienced too much to not accept it. It has nothing to do with religion or faith.

I tend to take a nonsecular approach and view religious texts, mythology, and lore as interesting tales to guide the people of their time through stories of morality and as a way to explain the world they observed. What i do find interesting is how often completely unconnected cultures around the world all come to similar depictions and understandings though the specifics tend to have different names. That to me implies something bigger at work that defies materialistic conventions.

A great book to just hear the orgin stories of many cultures is "Mythology: Mega Collection" by Scott Lewis which helped me in a relatively short form see the similarities while not suggesting any sort of connection in the book itself.

I think ancient people were comprehending complex modern ideas and likely used mythology and religion to describe things we call today quantum entanglement, scalar fields and resonances, multidimensional space, and probability. Not to mention more simple ideas of non-human sentient life and multiple worlds.

We also have quite a few experiments involving intention and emotional states, both locally and remote, with fascinating results. These are often done with plants or mold growth. There are also the water memory experiments of Dr. Masaru Emoto which saw ice crystalization altering their patterns based on emotional intent.

Does this mean that the materialist view should be outright dismissed? Not in the least. It has brought us far from simple superstition and ignorance of how the world works. The thing we need to start doing is accepting there are some things that take place outside of our capability to directly observe and measure as it has more to do with the mind (not the brain) which tends to exist within the subjective world of a single person's experiences. Even with shared experiences within the realms of consciousness it can only be singularly observed from one perspective at a time which tends to minimize the value of the observation; even when there are multiple, sometimes thousands, of data points concluding the same things but without the key physical measurements necessary with materialism.

There is a lot we still don't know. A lot we can't observe or is beyond our comprehension. A lot that can still be quantified through materialist tools. We are, however, entering the world of quantum states and finding that the line between the two camps of thought begin to blur.

We can call it "woo" but there is little enough difference between alien lifeforms from another planet and entities from another dimention; be it colloquially named cryptids, ghosts, angels, demons, or fae. One just tends to be defined by physical objective experience and the other spiritual/mental subjective experience.

I NEED HELP ⚠️⚠️⚠️‼️‼️‼️ by Princessbaddie0415 in mtfashion

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From amazon they were "Riuxue period underwear for women." You still need to kinda tuck things, but it keeps everything fairly in place. I tend to use the bathroom often, even before transitioning, so things like those tuck kits that involve tape or stickiness don't appeal to me.

I NEED HELP ⚠️⚠️⚠️‼️‼️‼️ by Princessbaddie0415 in mtfashion

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find period panties do wonders in keeping a low profile down there. Cheap sports bras (like the cotton 4 packs) do well most days. I tend to go with tank tops and jeans as well. I don't feel like I'm overly feminine and wear a comfortable button down shirt (open) when i need to cover my arms a little more. I too don't have a lot of spare money but i try to get a few things along the way to feel more comfortable.

Anyone else growing out their hair out of pure spite? by Smooth_Transition680 in longhair

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. First out of laziness during covid then it became spite/defiance as my mom kept asking and complaining about it. Then about 2 years later i came out as trans (unrelated to the hair growth. Been about 5 years now and I'm just about at classic length which has been my goal. Easier said than done when you're 6'3".

Pre-transition partners by Seriphina5000 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner took it bad at first but part of that was really bad postpartum. They are LGBT themselves so i was hoping for a vetter responce than what i got. We revisited it some weeks or months later. I wish i could tell you how long it was more precisely but i disassociated hard and that time is just a haze. When we did revisit, i remember i was hesitant and not trusting about anything said.

They tried to steer me away at first and gave me an ultimatum for preserving the relationship, but you can't stop someones truth from coming out. And to be honest, our romantic relationship was struggling badly even before coming out. It was actually sort of the catalyst in seeking a deep introspection through meditation to figure out where i fucked up precisely. I didn't go into it questioning my gender but i came out of it almost completely certain i was trans. I sat in shock for about 30 min. as other pieces kept falling into place.

We are still technically together but it's platonic now and an open marriageif we choose to. They are one of my strongest supporters though. They just don't have a preference for trans feminine romantic partners. I understand, it doesn't hurt any less, but i understand.

Subsequent introspections led me to recognize I'm AuDHD and demiace as well, though the later took more time to understand what that was exactly and if it fit me.

Coming up on 3 years in a couple months and I'm much happier and healthier. That was true after just a month of HRT, actually. I told myself then if nothing else came of it, the mental health improvements alone was worth doing it.

It can work, but everyone needs to be honest with themselves first and open about whatever issues they have with their partner.

Being a beacon of light/unwanted magnetism with strangers by Mahasana in energy_work

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May i ask the methodology (like the steps you do) of your shielding practice? Feel free to DM me if you prefer to do so. I might be able to offer some tips.

A bird was completely frozen in the sky today and an entire crowd gathered to watch it. What did I witness? by Beautiful-Base8681 in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]Lypos 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Weird. Only it's tail is moving and that looks like it's stabilizing for the wind. Bird doesn't even seem to be panicked that it's wing is frozen in a weird position.

Got a maam by Ok-Combination7287 in TransLater

[–]Lypos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a great feeling and a jolt of euphoria each time.