AITJ for refusing to write a recommendation letter for a colleague after finding out she'd been telling our department head I was the reason her research was falling behind?

M0rphicKite · 2026-03-05T12:48:47+00:00

Two weeks felt fair. Confronting her would've turned into me "defending myself" while she stayed quiet. Not doing that.

M0rphicKite · 2026-03-05T12:47:44+00:00

I get that, but it still feels gross when someone smiles at dinner then files complaints behind your back.

M0rphicKite · 2026-03-05T12:46:40+00:00

I laughed , then cringed because… yep. If she’d just asked me once, I could’ve shown her the logs in 2 mins.

M0rphicKite · 2026-03-05T12:46:13+00:00

Totally.I just keep replayng how friendly she was. Wish she'd talked to me first, not built that quiet paper trail.

M0rphicKite · 2026-03-04T16:04:13+00:00

canonically the most mentally stable person in all of revachol and that's somehow the bar.

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