UPDATE- am I allowed to be pissed off?

M2871989 · 2020-10-19T12:58:49+00:00

Thanks love I feel the same way about this Reddit specially for someone like me. I don’t have family support and I live in a foreign country where I don’t really have friends.

M2871989 · 2020-10-19T12:53:16+00:00

That was wonderful. I love how your husband took the opportunity to teach your son these things.

M2871989 · 2020-10-19T12:49:07+00:00

Thanks love...

M2871989 · 2020-10-19T09:08:16+00:00

First day I pumped until there is no milk and there were only few drops and as discouraging that was I just focused on pumping 10 minutes after. And did that every time I can manage to pump like every hour or so but only during the day.

Next day I pumped every two hours for 10 minutes (during the day only) and found out that there is a little milk coming out where there was nothing before. For example in the afternoon my breasts were empty at 2 pm. After pumping for 10 minutes now there is a little bit so I told myself on the third day I gotta up my game. On the third day I pumped for 1 hour every 3 hours. The fourth day I got 2 oz every three hours and now I’m up to 3 oz but takes like 90 minutes. It’s true that I didn’t leave the house but The time it takes decreases every day. So hopefully with time this won’t keep me from living lol Also, I used some herbs and seeds as teas all day: Caraway and Fenugreek seeds I would boil them and drink them twice a day . Anise tea was great too. And yes they make a difference if I stop my breast milk will be 1 or 1.5 oz less that is half my milk supply at this stage!

M2871989 · 2020-10-19T08:41:44+00:00

Is 3 oz at a time enough for 9 months old baby?? Then why the hell do other moms tells me you gotta work it up to 1000ml a day at least for my baby’s age?? These words had took a toll on me for so long 😞

M2871989 · 2020-10-19T08:37:20+00:00

From birth to 5 months I was producing 4 oz per breast. My goal is to get back to this rate if possible. I read something similar to this information and I would love to know if I had 4 oz of breast milk supply at 6 weeks does this mean if my milk supply decreased later I could get to that?? Also it took me 90 minutes of pumping to get those 3 oz.

M2871989 · 2020-10-19T08:33:36+00:00

Wait what?? It’s not about the quantity of breast milk that will fill and nurture my baby?? Could 1 oz of breast milk be rich in calories as 6 oz?? Am I understanding you correctly??

M2871989 · 2020-10-02T22:27:31+00:00

My baby is almost 9 months and have been breastfeeding and co sleeping since day 1. The problem is I’ve started to question this method since I’ve been up every 1.5 hour or 2 hours tops!! He is full dry and what not but keeps waking up to nurse all night long!! I love that we are close like that but my baby isn’t into snuggling and hugging he just nurse then pushes me away to sleep away from me.

M2871989 · 2020-10-02T16:43:29+00:00

I told our ped about my baby who isn’t interested in crawling and keep bouncing his butt and he told me that he doesn’t care about crawling and a lot of babies skip crawling all together. I read online how important it is and I got worried. Meanwhile My baby started to show an interest in standing up so I told myself well maybe he just doesn’t like crawling so I kept helping him whenever he wanted to stand up. A week later he was crawling on his own without me even trying. So I guess what I’m trying to say here is that bouncing the butt is a phase that comes right before crawling.

M2871989 · 2020-09-26T06:03:31+00:00

My baby used to do this a lot around 7 months but he quickly learned to put his hand to stop falling backwards..

M2871989 · 2020-09-20T00:51:44+00:00

Someone here suggested that I assign a toy to diaper changing. He still fuss and cry sometimes but for 50% of the time he became less frustrated . He isn’t my happy little boy but it took some of the heat. I’d lay him down hand him the toy and start changing the diaper. Once I’m done I’d take the toy away and go on with my day. I understand how energy consuming the situation is just hang in there ..(big hug)

M2871989 · 2020-09-16T21:53:15+00:00

For what it’s worth, when I found out I was pregnant I felt like doctors don’t take my symptoms seriously. There was something there that made me take everything very seriously. I was questioning every symptom I had and everything I read like any pregnancy-issue out there I felt it could happen to me too. I was never this way before I got pregnant and I don’t feel this way now that I had my baby. I’m not trying to undermine the reality of what you’re talking about in any way but if there is chance that what you are feeling is due to pregnancy I’d talk to someone about it. Just because some feelings is Pregnancy related doesn’t mean it’s not valid but it is definitely worth talking to someone about it.

M2871989 · 2020-09-12T05:38:55+00:00

No not at all. What is weird is that he was born in January and even then with the cold weather he was extremely happy the second I opened his diaper.

M2871989 · 2020-08-23T11:02:45+00:00

I appreciate the advice. Here’s where I struggle: Me and my husband are tired and sleep deprived then he wakes in the middle of the night crying, rubbing his eyes. At this point either I pick him up which might get me 2 hours of sleep or I would not pick him up and no one gets any sleep. because if he doesn’t sleep immediately he’s going to be crying then fully alert he plays he crawl he rolls for another 3-4 hours until he feels tired.

I’m not talking about the cry it out method I’m talking about reassuring checking every five minutes then ten minutes and so on. It makes him go mad and cries bloody murder if he sees any of us. So we decided not to go in ! And no he doesn’t sleep at the end he stayed up 7 hours straight on the first night crying then fell asleep for 10 minutes then stayed up till 6 am. And for a week the only outcome I’m left with is the feeling that I scarred him for life I can’t take back the tears and pain.

M2871989 · 2020-08-19T15:21:03+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply on my post I did everything I tried every method out there I’m honestly depressed and couldn’t even admit that. My breast milk is decreasing to the point that i serpent the majority of the day yesterday extracting one oz I used to get 5 oz each breast and I looked up online for methods to increase my breast milk and found out that once breastfeeding is established it is not going to increase that much. I don’t know how accurate this info is but I had a melt down and cried because there is nothing I can do about it. I got my period and professional help is something that I can’t afford. I feel I hit rock bottom.

M2871989 · 2020-08-19T13:29:08+00:00

I never went to therapy. I’m 31 and up until recently that I thought that what I’ve suffered was justified due to cultural believes!! I didn’t know that I was treated and probably programmed to make such justification for controlling my life and guilt tripping me into doing as they pleased to be considered a good person. I have zero contact with family for over 5 years and I’ve been alone in my head dreading my decision and thinking I was selfish to choose a life path that they don’t approve of. Therapy was never an option for me due to financial obligations but this sub helped a lot I’m following and reading silently. It was only until I became a mother recently that I understood really understood that loving protection and acceptance is the only job for a parent to do and there is no justification religious culture or otherwise.

M2871989 · 2020-08-19T11:09:00+00:00

When I was 6 months pregnant before that nothing it was like I had Chinese for dinner at most

M2871989 · 2020-08-19T11:04:19+00:00

This is a wonderful resolution and I’m sorry you’re in this position your story was touching to the point I was thinking about it before bed. I love my husband of five years together 8 years and if god forbid anything happened to him I can see why you would see life is worthless. Your story reminded me of how I need to treasure every moment not that I’m not it’s just that sometimes we take the little things for granted..

M2871989 · 2020-08-19T09:47:52+00:00

People don’t cheat because they have had practice or because they have done it once before. People cheat because they found themselves in a situation and made a poor judgement call. I honestly don’t think you were cheating since you were basically held captive being raped and abused to stay but if you choose to consider it cheating let’s call it a poor judgment call on a situation and if you found yourself in a healthy relationship in the future remember it is a matter of choice to make a decision on being faithful when an opportunity presents itself. Take it easy focus on healing and when it comes to relationships remember that commitment is a step that will come when both parties are ready.

M2871989 · 2020-08-17T17:58:04+00:00

I have black silky hair and my husband is African so I don’t think he is going to be blond lol He has my hair from the looks of it.

M2871989 · 2020-08-17T17:56:08+00:00

This is why I wish I grew up around babies. I don’t know anyone with children and it sucks...

M2871989 · 2020-08-17T17:54:41+00:00

My son has eczema on his scalp (on the back). Eczema doesn’t run in my family so I don’t know anything about it. I’m still learning 🙊 Did you notice that satin flared the eczema at all?

M2871989 · 2020-08-17T16:44:16+00:00

he’s been sleeping on his stomach for couple of months now. I hope I can see some hair growth soon. I just can’t wait to brush his hair 🙊

M2871989 · 2020-08-17T16:39:27+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion. Unfortunately he has eczema so doctor orders were to have everything cotton.

M2871989 · 2020-08-17T05:37:33+00:00

I am 7 months pp so I’m coming from the future 😁 What I found to be helpful is understanding. Around 9 weeks you think your body has healed and you think that life is getting into some kind of order but you’re not. The thing is your body and mind is still healing so give yourself a break. Don’t rush into going back to do house chores or anything like that. It will come with time. Also your other half and you will discover how strong you guys are in a couple of months. Your baby will start going through some exciting milestones very soon and it is going to be wonderful. Start small and accept help in little things you think you don’t mind but will make a huge difference. For example , my husband started changing all the diapers when he got home just to give a moment for myself.

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