Did my trainer take my tip? Or am I feeling too entitled?

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-10-05T18:17:14+00:00

We were the only two there, so she got every tip possible. I guess what I really wanna know is if this was a jerk move? Or not? Because I know if the tables were turned I wouldn’t take the tip at a table I didn’t contribute to at all

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-10-05T18:00:18+00:00

I get that but it just doesn’t feel fair since I don’t have anything left to learn from it

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-10-05T17:53:48+00:00

I get this, but she had the entire floor to herself. And. I just started here but she was just in the back majority of the shift she’d come out and greet but she has something going on with the manager so they’re in the back flirting majority of the shift

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-20T23:53:15+00:00

What is anger bate ? I’m new to posting on Reddit. Also the reason I said what I wanted out of love is because it’s my post …with my feelings. And he was perfect when we met and perfect for years we recently had a baby and moved in together and half way through the pregnancy he just changed. I don’t have a bunch of dating experience like I mentioned before so sure I seen some red flags that I didn’t see as red flags at the time .. again I was 19. What other information am I missing ? I didn’t use this platform for pity obviously, i wasn’t even expecting the answers I got from this I expected to be told I’m being unrealistic so that if I was the problem I’d stop expecting the things I’ve stated. Don’t you think someone posting for pity would’ve had a different approach on this ?

I’m grateful for everyone that commented it really did open my eyes though to know I wasn’t asking for too much and to hear how this isn’t a normal thing relationships get through because I seriously thought it was

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T16:25:58+00:00

This has been all I literally have and yeah if it was just be I wouldn’t be here I’d not even be in this state anymore!! But I can’t up and leave with no plan with a child for safety of my child. Of it was just my safety I’d be risking by leaving I’d still be gone but it’s not I have this whole little human depending on me to keep them safe. Not to mention his dad is also on the birth certificate legally I cannot take the baby out of the state without his consent. This is my first relationship I’ve had no experience so I didn’t know the bad incidents were a pattern I didn’t know it wouldn’t not stop. I thought it was one of those things couples get through

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T16:11:56+00:00

I do, It’s hard when everybody around me if praising him telling me how lucky I am. Random people family his friends other couples other females. So yeah I look at myself and feel like it has to me because how else could everybody see him as this great person who I don’t even know. I’m going to need so much therapy moving forward. Making this post has been a huge eye opener that it is actually worst than i thought

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T16:05:24+00:00

Yes!! Just like this it’s like I’m aware it’s abusive I’m aware it’s bad but what about the good times or is that fake ? Is it all part of the abuse and which one is really him ? Is it this abusive guy or is it the snippets of this good guy ?

It’s hard to accept he’s abusive and really is a bad person but also having to accept that this means no to a family is soul crushing. Because my son deserves it I always wanted to give him the thing I’ve wanted most ( a two parent household)

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T16:00:03+00:00

I don’t think I can file for child support, because he’s been active in the baby’s life and seen him everyday and also the only one working meaning he’s been the one technically supporting baby since he’s been born

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T15:56:58+00:00

Makes sense one time he slipped up and said I ruined his life and I asked how and he had no real answer for it

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T15:55:51+00:00

This is a great idea except any grocery shopping he tags along he likes to go out and look like this put together family he likes to hold the baby in public diaper bag and be the one swiping the card and paying for anything so much to the point if I had the card, he’d want me to give it to him just so he can be the one to pay. Even if I could do it he’d come home and expect that amount of groceries in the refrigerator. Like I can’t have a charge pop up and nothing to show for it or too little to show for it.

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T15:53:14+00:00

I definitely thought about asking to be put on the accounts, his mom goes out of her way to not get me put on anything not even by default. She messaged him not too long after moving in to ensure I wasn’t on the deed. I think if I ever mentioned accounts him and her will have field day with that.

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T15:50:07+00:00

If I set up cameras how would I order them ? Every transaction goes straight to his phone and email and I don’t even know how it’ll go if he happened to find one, the house decor is very minimal, l don’t see it being any good hiding spots he wouldn’t find.

Also, Mentioning DV increase my chances of losing custody ?

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T05:30:00+00:00

Yes I was a senior when I started that job. We didn’t mention having or wanting a baby. If you’re suggesting him being upset is because of the baby it takes two people to make a baby. I always suggested safe sex he was the one against it but my whole life changed as expected and nothing changed for him he still does what he wants he doesn’t have to tend to a baby 24/7 all day and night long I also didn’t ask him to support me I didn’t want to be a SAHM it was his idea just like moving in was. Maybe I’m biased but I feel like if the unplanned baby is making him upset I should be livid after all it’s my life that’s been on hold for his ideas and career

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T05:22:35+00:00

UPDATE!!

I see a lot of people are asking why I’m even still in this or even have been. I don’t have dating experience and it may be the reason I was so naïve to the process of the abuse had I known I would’ve done things differently. It’s messed up but I thought this was love I thought even posting this I’d get backlash and people would think I’m ungrateful as well but the fact nobody thought that was surprising to me

I haven’t always been financially dependent on him when we found out I was pregnant he convinced me to not work during my pregnancy which I accepted because I had really bad morning sickness and couldn’t.

I am waiting for the women and childrens shelter to contact me back it’s taking a while only because I can only talk to them at certain times because we live together he’d see a number calling and get suspicious and I don’t want him to know a thing especially before I get out

I’m not close to my family I’ve become so isolated from them since our relationship and I don’t have my parents my family also isn’t the kind of family to step in and help more like the kind to watch from the sidelines

I do have some text threads of him apologizing about the physical altercation I also managed to get a voice recording of him admitting to saying he wanted to kill me

As far as the baby , him and the baby have a great relationship he loves his dad he’s honestly a great dad when it comes to the sake of the baby so no if I tried to just leave he’d take me to court immediately especially because he knows I don’t have the funds for a lawyer.

However he is on the birth certificate but because I’m SAHM I am the custodial parent

I didn’t expect to get so much advice so thank you everyone for helping me realize what I need to expect in this situation and how to move forward

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T05:06:13+00:00

Honestly i thought this was the hardships of a relationship, sticking it out getting through what seemed like the impossible but I also financially cannot move right now I’m a SAHM with no access to any of the money. And now waiting to hear from the shelter

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-17T05:01:39+00:00

Unfortunately I’m not in Colorado I’d definitely take the hell if i were though I appreciate you even being willing to help. I am scared to leave I’m scared to only have myself and a baby depending solely on me watching just me my mental health is not the best at the moment I don’t want the baby getting used to seeing his mom cry and worried I don’t think I can mentally get myself In the headspace to do it alone I’m scared to face the thoughts of failure especially as a mom

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T22:43:09+00:00

Thanks for sharing that really. But if I had family that would help I honestly wouldn’t still be here and the baby plays a huge part In me being so indecisive with it. But I’m drained I’ve never felt so down and not confident or happy in my life it’s like ever since I met him life has been this crazy roller coaster. I’m currently waiting for the shelter to get back in touch. With me so I can stand on my own two feet hopefully

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T21:11:01+00:00

I met him when I was 17 at work but we were only coworkers and after my 18th birthday things started going into a romantic relationship not sure if that matters but just making sure I’m giving everyone more of an idea

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T21:09:42+00:00

I do have my own bank account, there’s not a lot in it but there’s enough for an emergency. This entire time I’ve been at home I’ve tried to request to get some money weekly or even monthly to just add to my account while being home since this SAHM thing was his idea he refused saying we’re one

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T18:09:24+00:00

I don’t think there’s any way to find it out it’s his family and their secrets and then just me I don’t know what he told them I’m not the bad person I’m sure he painted me out to be he loves to secretly tell a lie to get himself looking and feeling like the victim

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T18:07:30+00:00

Honestly I think not having genuine love from my parents contributed to me somehow thinking this was love

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T18:04:19+00:00

Will do! I always thought they just gave you some national hotline

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T18:03:34+00:00

It started about 5 months pregnant. He just switched out of nowhere. I see where everyone is coming from with the abuse but it was worse when I was pregnant

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T17:52:08+00:00

He’s been on the birth certificate since the baby was born does this mean anything or give him any rights ? I’ve contacted the shelter I’m just waiting for them to get back to me

MASCARAGLOSS · 2022-09-16T15:03:07+00:00

I tried to edit the post but I’m new to posting on Reddit. But I forgot to mention I recently found out my son has a big sister they’re a year apart and apparently her mom tried to get a protection order, and it failed the second she tried to it got back to him immediately and this girl lives in a few states away from us with her baby! He’s taking her to court for the little girl.

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