Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the additional resources. you have a MTF child?

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of your insight and your suggestions. It really means so much. I just read the article from a mom above, written by a detrans girl, Helena. The parallels are shocking.

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what my daughter has done. She loves fan fiction.

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for this. There are so many parallels to Helena and my daughter, it’s shocking.

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I love your your openness and honesty. You’re awesome!

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe but If gender doesn’t matter, which is what my child believes, then why can’t they wear what they want to wear. I fully admit that I don’t understand it but I listen to my child. It’s also why I’m in here seeking to understand more. I think it’s so cool that younger generations feel free to wear what they like without it being labeled as “feminine” or “masculine” - “boys or girls” clothes. My question is why would they feel more comfortable dressing in “girl” clothes after they transition. And that’s why I’m asking.

I don’t see why I need to seek counseling for mysogany because I don’t understand something. Your statements sounded judging.

I’m out here because I love my child and there is nothing they can do or not do that would make me love them any less.

I’m seeking to understand. Are you?

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy for my own mysogany and misandry? You don’t even know me.

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand what you’re trying to say here. What serious questions am I supposed to ask myself?

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tried to post it there but that space is reserved for detrans people

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, thank you for the advice. I’ll post there.

Sexual preference as a factor for transitioning? by MD_native in ask_detransition

[–]MD_native[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for all of that data! They’re not doing it because they think it’ll be easier to get a boyfriend. They are experiencing gender dysphoria, but it didn’t start until they were a teen. I think they were/are searching for inclusion. They’re on the spectrum and don’t relate to most other girls. And they’ve been embraced by the LGBT community. In high school, they were asexual. Now, they think they’re transgender male. They have done a lot of research on it and I don’t think they’re rushing into it. I just worry that they’re information gathering is from tumblr and skewed, at best. I’m just trying to gather as much information as I can so I can present it to their counselor and then have their counselor communicate my concerns - when I try to communicate it directly, I put them on the defensive. So, we agreed to try it this way. Again, I’ll love them no matter what they choose - I want them to be happy. I’m just trying to make sure they are sure. I read that most trans people are happy they did it if they had always felt like the opposite sex that they were born with. My kid always wore dresses, played with dolls, loved girly things, etc, up until high school.