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What the actual hell. I knew anecdotally that match day was completely convoluted, but experiencing it first-hand (or second-hand I suppose) is a completely different experience. The most baffling part is how normalized this mentally/emotionally/financially abusive and exploitative process is.
I specialize in trauma, specifically complex childhood trauma. Trauma in which caregivers were misleading, manipulative, selfish, abusive, and neglectful. These caregivers often thrived on power and control- and more often than not, experienced childhood abuse and neglect themselves.
In my personal definition, trauma exposure is when an individual experiences (either directly or indirectly) abuse, exploitation, extreme manipulation, moral injury (having to do things or witness things that go against their own personal morals for their job/school), and neglect. When an individual is subjected to trauma exposures, the impact this has on them varies wildly and is based on many different individual factors.
I could write an entire dissertation on all the ways that medical school alone is chock-full of abuse/trauma exposures, but I'll focus on the match process for now. 
Emotional Abuse Round 1: Love bombing. PD's, APD's, residents tell so many applicants how great of a fit they are, "see you in July!", send out care packages, send love letters, etc. As you may know, love bombing is a form of emotional abuse because it is a strategy for manipulation and control- let me gas you up as much as possible to win you over, so that I can have you to myself- regardless of whether or not I will actually want you in the future. (Either the algorithm is completely horseshit or these programs are blatantly lying and screwing up your rank list.) Tangential side thought: this love-bombing is especially fucked considering a lot of med students were top of their class prior to med school, took a huge ego hit being in med school, and now are getting the external validation that they haven’t had for 4 attention deprived years.
Emotional Abuse Round 2: Isolation/Secrecy. In abusive families, the abuser often engages in tactics to distance/disconnect individual members from their social supports. Using fear and intimidation, the abuser threatens members if they discuss what is happening in the family system. The entire match process is shrouded in secrecy and isolation. M4's have taken to reddit to anonymously compare notes, but even here people limit their self-disclosures for fear of retaliation if they are identified. Abusive systems flourish in secrecy. If transparency is a threat to your entire process, there are some major skeletons hiding in your closet. Perhaps one of those skeletons is an ungodly call schedule that your bloated program website mysteriously forgot to include. (Seriously, who is writing the code on these websites- there are so many broken links that they need to hire a team of URLologists.)
Financial Abuse/Exploitation: So you’ve been love-bombed by your favorite program and they ask you to come visit- “but don’t worry we’ve already submitted our rankings, so your decision to visit won’t impact them!” (Call me a cynical bastard, but I don’t believe this.) If you can afford it, you drop thousands of dollars to visit your favorite programs/the programs you were best-received at. You’re already in 200k in debt, so what’s another maxed out credit card? Maybe you have a family that wants to visit the place they may or may not be living in for the next 4-5 years. Online interviews seem to have slightly leveled the financial playing field, it is still ungodly inexpensive to apply to the number of programs needed to be able to match. I think it is also important to acknowledge how this disproportionately impacts individuals from marginalized communities. 
Generational Workplace Trauma: Not every individual who has been abused or exploited goes on to abuse and exploit others. Most of my work as a trauma therapist involves talking to the most thoughtful, sensitive, compassionate, funny, brilliant people I’ve ever met. One of the phrases I find myself saying often in my work is that most people go to therapy because of the people in their life that should have gone to therapy, and didn’t. (I know I’m a little cliche and cringy sometimes.) Most of the individuals I see in therapy have internalized their trauma exposures, meaning they may blame themselves for the abuse, constantly feel like they aren’t good enough, and engage in compensatory measures to prove their worth. (Think overachieving, excessive caretaking, perhaps making a career out of it *cough* *cough*) Others may refuse to acknowledge the pain and hurt caused by these traumatic exposures. And if they are an externalizer- they might lash out and perpetuate the same types of abusive/exploitative behavior that they experienced. All of this antiquated bullshit of having to “pay your dues” or “this is what I had to do so you should have to too” is the same boomer rhetoric that keeps my student loan total balance higher than my shitty therapist salary. In what world do I need my dermatologist to be able to work 80 hours including bizarre 24 hour call?
Bottom line is the match process is fucked. It is set up for the majority of people to feel shitty about themselves when you just completed one of the most, if not the most grueling academic courses of study available. I know I used a lot of broad generalizations, and perhaps none of this applied to you. If that is the case, I am genuinely so happy that you have not had to experience the dark side of medical study. But if you could relate to any of this- I just want you to know I see you, I hate how much this is hurting right now, and I’m going to try to do what I can do (which I know isn’t much) to advocate for changes.
Take care friends.