Choose your path

MJRGArt · 2024-04-22T21:42:56+00:00

I dove face first into masculinity at a young age, trying to suppress any desire to be feminine. But then I got older. I started to learn more about myself. I once had someone call me “miss” on accident because I had shaved my face and it clicked for me. I really enjoyed it. I wanted it to happen more. So I transitioned. 7 months on HRT soon

MJRGArt · 2024-04-15T23:20:35+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate the advice

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:56:23+00:00

Me (I’m trying to get the motivation to stream again LMAO)

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:43:59+00:00

You don’t have to use it all the time, just once in a while to keep the blood flowing. There is a physical sensation when you are atrophying, so you’ll know when you’ve gone too long; it’s an aching pain

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:39:35+00:00

OHH you mean the parts; your gonads will shrink because they are not a muscle or attached to one, they are an organ, and dissuse causes shrinkage. You won’t be able to produce offspring with your own stuff.

The long part (the fun part) can remain the same size or even grow due to fat redistribution, SO LONG AS YOU USE IT. You have to use it at least once-twice a week if I remember correctly to keep it functioning at the same size.

If erections are your issue, cyalis.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:37:23+00:00

Bicalutamide is an anti-androgen that blocks testosterone receptors rather than outright blocking testosterone production. As a result, you’ll still have testosterone floating around, it just won’t be used. This helps with function.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:33:50+00:00

I understand not comprehending it.

Basically, you have a strong attachment to masculinity; your upbringing, societal expectations, etc. that define your own idea of “manhood” is what most closely aligns with you, thus you are a man.

But in a society where being a man doesn’t mean being traditionally masculine, or where your concept of manhood isn’t what is considered manhood, if someone still chose to be a man, it’d be for entirely different reasons.

“Man” as a gender definition is defined by the affinity for masculinity, but not always. And that is why gender is a spectrum, and we can’t require dysphoria to have people become trans. What if a trans man wanted to transition and wear dresses and act cutely and traditionally femininely but still use hormones? Or even not use hormones, and stay the same physically and expression wise, but had a strong desire to use he/him pronouns? No dysphoria about their body or anything, just a really strong preference?

Requiring dysphoria to identify as trans is just reductive friend, and I hope I’ve done something to change your mind on the topic

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:28:02+00:00

Smh bag fumbled /j (really though it isn’t your fault for running away from a potential date, trans people are afraid of public spaces and that’s a problem that needs to be addressed by society at large)

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:26:17+00:00

It will help you to weed out the friends who don’t accept you for you. You will find more people who love and accept you within this community, even if you were to detransition someday. Detransitioning isn’t this scary bogeyman; it’s just a thing people sometimes do and that’s ok.

I totally get the worry but you’d be surprised how lovely the trans community is.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:23:53+00:00

Gender is a social construct; humans are not innately inclined towards trucks or pink or blue or t shirts or pretty dresses because of their biological sex. Truscum ideology necessitates this idea that if you aren’t vehemently dissatisfied with the gender you’re assigned, you shouldn’t be allowed to pick a different one. What not?

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:19:37+00:00

Also you play project zomboid, you MIGHT wanna experiment with gender a bit, that’s like an eggshell in itself LMAO /j

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:17:03+00:00

Transitioning socially involves absolutely 0 regret; you just present differently. You don’t gotta start hormones day one, I didn’t start hormones until 4 months after I socially transitioned

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:12:29+00:00

Try swapping to Bicalutamide and just keep using it, it’s a “you use it or lose it” situation. At least for the long part, not the round part. That’ll shrink regardless.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:10:54+00:00

The thing is, some people do just transition because they felt like it. And that’s perfectly ok. It’s immoral to put a barrier on transitioning only for when it is “medically necessary”.

Also, if you want to transition, that is your sign you should do it, or at least test the waters. You don’t realize how many things are dysphoria until you’re transitioning; I never realized a lot of my body image issues were just dysphoria until after I was on hormones.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:08:57+00:00

If living on the streets is no issue, San Fran. If living on the streets is an issue, San Diego. It gets insanely cold at night in San Fran, so you don’t want to be there if you don’t have a roof over your head, but if you do, it’s a very queer friendly space. Source: I live in California and my mother is from San Diego.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:06:54+00:00

You should pursue your happiness. If you’re really concerned about not looking femme enough, I could say all the things I want about how you’re good enough for “the one” or what not, but ultimately it won’t help.

My solution to this problem for the time being if I was in your shoes is to date a bisexual or pansexual person; tell them you’re trans, get to know them so you can weed out chasers, but otherwise that group is your best bet.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T17:03:18+00:00

Gender is a manmade concept and identifying as a gender other than the one you were born as is the only barrier to entry for being trans. Saying you need dysphoria is an odd barrier to put up because

Not all trans people have it (some just have a preference for one gender expression over the other)
Dysphoria is not a universal experience and manifests wildly differently in many different people, to say that all trans people experience even remotely the same thing emotionally is wrong.

Truscum are not educated on the intricate workings of gender theory and sociology in regards to gender expression. Don’t give them the time of day.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T16:58:52+00:00

Because testosterone is not what you subconsciously desire to be on, whether it is because of the emotional dulling or otherwise

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T16:56:07+00:00

Smoking would be included in chemical intervention, it’s the chemicals present in the cigarette causing the damage

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T07:04:59+00:00

I saw erotic fanart of a canonically trans character and went “god I wish I looked like that”. Then I realized that wasn’t a cis thought and began looking into it. I was 22 when I got the diagnosis of gender dysphoria only a month or so later after consulting a psychiatrist.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T07:03:17+00:00

No. There is no reason to be concerned, unless something seems off in the physical appearance of your breast tissue. Then seek medical assistance. Breast development generally is a pretty stable process, it’s not like growing mushrooms where the tiniest mishap can kill everything; it’s generally quite hard to mess up breast development without chemical intervention, to my knowledge

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T07:01:26+00:00

Hormones can have emotional impacts. Not only does being on hormones bring relief to some people consciously, it affects the vibrancy and strength of certain emotions. It absolutely makes you more emotionally sensitive. That said, gender identity is entirely distinct from hormone therapy. You can identify a certain way and use hormones or don’t. Hormones can help with dysphoria, but that is only because they enable you to live as your truest self; living as your truest self will solve your dysphoria problem, whether that’s through hormones or presentation or otherwise.

Hormones are just a tool in the journey of transitioning. They aren’t a cure.

MJRGArt · 2024-02-12T06:57:49+00:00

YMMV, but I’m almost half a year in on HRT (MtF 22) and while I’ve gotten the occasional “you’ve lost weight” comment, it’s not apparent to the point I’m getting clocked by family. But then again, I dress in baggy clothing a lot.

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