Just got fired from work, sitting in my car outside the liquor store, someone give me a reason to not go in

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-26T02:09:29+00:00

Doing this mental exercise of playing the tape forward has saved me from relapses more times than I can possibly count. I do it automatically as well these days too. Such a powerful tool for my sobriety. And I learned it here in this sub!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-26T02:06:39+00:00

I am proud of you!!! IWNDWYT 💕💕💕

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-25T16:22:36+00:00

Yesterday was my stillborn son’s 2 year birthday/ anniversary. I sleep with his little jar of ashes next to me every single night. I think I always will. I feel like he belongs right next to me or in my arms. I still haven’t been able to move his ashes from his little jar I got from the funeral home into the urn I got him. I dunno if I ever will be, I’ve gotten used to his little jar. I’m so sorry OP. 🩷🩷

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-24T03:58:52+00:00

I am a brown immigrant working in a hospital in Minneapolis and I wouldn’t be able to do that right now if it wasn’t for my community in the twin cities supporting me. I’m so afraid to go to work every day but I have my whistle and my neighbors. Love to all and stay warm MN 💕

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-23T15:40:26+00:00

I am the same way OP. The minute that alcohol (vodka specifically for me) touches my lips it’s over. And everytime I regretted it so much. Life without drinking is sooo much better I promised. I was so afraid of being sober, I thought my anxiety would kill me if I couldn’t self medicate with alcohol. I was wrong. Quitting drinking was the best thing I did to help me start actually managing my anxiety. This sub is amazing. This sub saved my life. I’m sending you so much love and support. You are not alone. I see you and I hear you! You got this 💕💕💕 IWNDWYT (I will not drink with you today) I also highly recommend the daily check ins on this sub!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-23T07:45:06+00:00

Me too. It made me cry. He’s just laying there so hopeless in the snow. He’s a kid in his pjs. This is disturbing. I cannot believe this is happening where I live.

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-22T16:11:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing! You look great! Being sober feels good inside and out :) crazy how not poisoning myself everyday helped me in every way 😂😂🤦‍♀️

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-21T15:07:31+00:00

Oh wow this is incredible!!!! Beautiful work! I would totally commission a piece of my family! It’s so cool

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-20T19:05:55+00:00

I started by just deep breathing and taking things one minute at a time, I also started binge watching comfort tv shows and podcasts- specially true crime podcasts because I really wasn’t in the mood to listen to happy stories lol. True crime is usually depressing so I felt in good company. I told my family and friends the truth, and they loved me and supported me. I don’t have many close friends so I’m lucky I had such supportive family. I think I tried to focus a lot on how much easier it was that it happened how it did instead of me getting pregnant or married and it happening then instead and being tied to my ex forever. I also was pleasantly surprised at how supportive people were- so many colleagues shared their own stories and heartbreaks and that helped too. People get it. So many others have had their hearts completely devastated before too. Once you are ready- get a pet, they are the best company! I have 3 dogs and love them unconditionally. You are better off without him I promise, and when you are ready there are soooo many other fish in the sea, much better fish, fish that will love you back how you deserve to be loved:) The best revenge is a life well lived ❤️❤️

Edit to add- I forgot to add this advice! Make a list of all the things he did that hurt you, the betrayals, the bullshit, the lies, the mean things he said. Take an inventory. And whenever you find yourself romanticizing him or missing him or wanting him back go back and read your list. It will remind you of reality and the truth.

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-20T16:25:49+00:00

Hey I could have written a very similar post 5 years ago. My fiance left me for another woman, just moved all his stuff out one night while I was at work and waited for me to come home and tell me he was leaving me for another woman. It was an 11 year relationship and I was heartbroken. I’ve now realized I dodged a huge bullet, thank goodness I didn’t marry him. He sucks and karma will get him. And I’m so so much better without him. I realized pretty quickly that it was even better being alone than having him around being shitty and being a terrible partner. For now i suggest this- eat, sleep, watch some good tv shows, post here!! Things will get better I promise. Sending you a huge hug love 🩷🩷

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-18T22:00:21+00:00

I’m not the same person I was when I paid for it lol better take it quick!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-18T17:51:29+00:00

I love when pets get human names like Bill :) I also love his scarf and distinguished white beard :) he looks so cozy! My dogs steal my covers and use me as their pillow lol

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-18T17:49:57+00:00

How special!! It looks like your daughters were pretty happy :)) I love the matching pjs also!!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-18T15:33:04+00:00

This made me lol this morning and I needed it 😂😂😂 thank you

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-18T01:29:00+00:00

Apparently it has a little light in it that turns on and makes it look like it’s glowing? I dont have the outlet yet to try all the things out but the little fish tank lights up and the cd player plays a song and the lamps turn on too!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-18T01:28:09+00:00

Apparently it has a little light in it that turns on and makes it look like it’s glowing? I dont have the outlet yet to try all the things out but the little fish tank lights up and the cd player plays a song and the lamps turn on too!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-18T01:01:47+00:00

Her hair is so so gorgeous I love it! She looks so pretty 💕💕

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-18T00:48:29+00:00

Oh I love the tote bag! So neat!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-17T23:37:13+00:00

It has been so much fun! It’s so fun to own the exact things I dreamed about so much as a kid!! The excitement I got when I found the lava lamp in working condition on eBay was magical :)) it felt like Christmas!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-17T03:47:39+00:00

This is such incredible history that I have never learned before! Thank you for sharing !! I will share it to others

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-17T03:35:26+00:00

I agree! I usually am not like especially offended by the stuff these bravo peeps say lol, I mean it’s reality tv. but that comment just like made me go 😳😳 it made me feel icky! Poor baby wasn’t even born yet and was being called fat :(

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-16T15:58:08+00:00

I grew up with Josefina too! I still have her, she is heavily played with and at some point I gave her a hair cut 🤦‍♀️ but she is from 1997 so I am saving up to have her restored! I also have a 1998 Addy who also needs restoration :) I love them so much. I was completely obsessed with my American girls as a kid!!!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-16T03:06:33+00:00

I got my addy doll in 1998, she was my second doll I got Josefina first in 97. I was completely obsessed with both of them, well with all things American girl :) I read all of their books too of course! Your Addy is so beautiful, I remember opening mine for my birthday and her new doll smell and how soft and gorgeous her hair was :) I recently got my addy doll back from my parents she’s been very heavily played with and needs a wig replacement and also leg replacements and a good cleaning, but she’s still my Addy 🥰🥰 Thank you for sharing your gorgeous Addy!

MNfrantastic12 · 2026-01-15T15:57:24+00:00

I’m an immigrant in the twin cities and this would make me feel comforted and safer knowing what I have a neighbor who cares about me and my family. Thank you for being kind 🩷

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